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Hello readers, today I would like to talk about what happened on a first date recently. This lady has just moved to a new state and decided to check out the guys in her new state.
She gets on an Online Dating site and receives a message from a good looking guy so she replies back. They text back and forth and plan a date for the next week. That Saturday before the date after returning from an all day shopping trip, she gets a phone call from this guy out of the blue asking if she can meet him that night at 9:30 pm!
First off, to the guys, don’t do that. All ladies need time to plan and get ready and it’s just plain rude! Her first thought was (and mine) his previous date cancelled or he got stood up or she wasn’t what she was supposed to be. Duh...
She politely says no thank you but see you on our planned date night. That day comes and it’s after work so this lady had no time to freshen up so she comes as is. They pull into the parking lot at the same time. It’s dark but he looks at her car and asks what kind of car it is. I think that’s fair, he’s fishing to see if she has her s*** together. “Whatever”
They walk in and luckily there are two seats at the bar so she proceeds to sit down but hesitates to give him a chance to pull the bar stool out for her but he just sits down. RED FLAG! What happened to guys with manners? Where or where are you hiding?
She pulls her own chair out and sits down. They order a drink and he’s kind enough to suggest dinner. They order, that’s a good move on his part. Now, here is where it gets weird.
He starts talking about his previous dates. Tells her he was dating a girl he really liked but she told him she does not want anything serious right now, basically friends with benefits only. Lol Sorry not sorry for laughing but this guy is dealing with a pro!
Guys, there are lots of women out there that will tell you the same thing, and you are now wondering why. LMAO..
The reason is she wants you to chase her. It’s a tactic some ladies and men use. Funniest thing is he acted so shocked! She just giggles and proceeds to let him know this little secret and it obviously worked because apparently, he talked about this girl the rest of the night. He could not believe it and asked so many questions about why and how a girl would do this. At that point she realized she gave him all the answers he needed and she decided to end the date politely.
The bill comes and he excuses himself to the restroom. Luckily this lady is smart enough to not pay the tab but waits for him to come back. He paid the tab and they walk out together. Now, they are parked only about 100 yards apart and they get to the parking lot and he walks off and yells out “let me know if you want to go out again” while walking to his car. Basically treating her like a guy friend. Eyes rolling...
What did he do wrong? He didn’t walk her to her car! What in the world is wrong with the guys here she’s thinking and now she’s completely shocked. Guys, I don’t care if you are not interested in this lady, you still should keep it classy and walk her to the car!
She went home. A few days later he texts her and says “I hope you didn’t see my wandering eye at the restaurant “ What? Why would he even text something like this? She replied back, “ Nope didn’t notice and don’t care”!
They never went out again and she blocked his number. Here is where he went wrong:
1. He called late on a Saturday night expecting her to meet him at 9:30 pm at night on the fly.
2. He didn’t pull her chair out for her.
3. He talked the entire time about another girl that told him she only wants FWB and wanted to know why.
4. As soon as the check came, he excused himself to the bathroom maybe hoping she would pick up the check even though he asked her out first. What he should have done was before going to the bathroom, put his credit card on the tab then go to the men’s room. (Or, little boys room) LMAO!
5. He did not walk her to her car!
6. He didn’t ask her to text him when she got home to make sure she got home ok.
7. He texted her a few days later and admitted having a wandering eye on their date. WHY?
Here is what she did right:
1. When he asked #7, she wrote back she “didn’t notice and she didn’t care”.
2. She blocked his number and never went out again with him.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this one. Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com