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Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Firemen. Now, this is not my first blog about Fireman for sure. You can search for Firemen on my site and find the others if you like. This one is a little different than the others, hang on to your seats.
Recently I received a new Entry to my “Home Page” about a Fireman. Note that I receive 100’s of emails weekly about different men and women but in this case, I did not receive an email, just an entry.
Just what is it about a Man in Uniform? I don’t know but for myself, I actually think the Firemen are handsome and of course they look fantastic in uniform right? When I see them at the Grocery Store, for example, it turns my ordinary shopping trip into more of an adventure even my elderly Mother gets excited when she sees them. I think it may be the fact that 75% of them are fit, handsome and very friendly and who doesn’t love a man who is there to “rescue you”?
Here is the deal with these firemen though. They are mostly players and cheaters. It’s a common fact and every woman knows the stereotype so WHY OH WHY do we keep going back? When I see one on an online dating site, I always respond back to them if they message me. I know 100% that this is probably not going to end well but I do it anyway. UGH, most women do. Even when you flat out tell them about the stereotype and they deny it, “I am not that way”, “We get a bad rap”, “I am not a cheater” etc.… Do we buy it? I think as a woman we go into it being very skeptical BUT when they are so charming and good looking it is very hard to push away.
Why are Firemen like this? Obviously, because they can get away with it, that’s why. It doesn’t take a Rocket Scientist to figure this out. Here’s the deal, I absolutely believe that you can date a Fireman but you need to not be “Hypnotized” and ignore their bad behavior and excuses, in other words, do NOT IGNORE THE RED FLAGS.
Hypothetically, let’s just say you are dating a Fireman and everything is going great. Maybe he lives quite a distance from your home so you end up driving to his place most of the time. OK. Everything is peachy according to you. Maybe you have a conversation after so long that you become exclusive. OK. This means you both agree to not date, or sleep or have any Friends with Benefits while you are figuring out if you want to perhaps spend the rest of your life with this Fireman? OK. Let’s just pretend that it has gone this far and so far so good according to you and him. Since most Firemen live so far from where they work and maybe it’s not close to our place they can pretty much do anything while you are not around. Let’s face it, you are a busy woman and you just cannot be with him 24/7 and the fact he works for days at a time doesn’t help so you meet when it is convenient to him. OK.
Here are some RED FLAGS that you definitely should not ignore.
The old saying really applies here, “Once a Cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER”. Do not listen to his excuses or his so-called regrets. These Firemen do not change. I am not sure if they have a sex addiction or maybe they have been doing this their entire life? A good question to ask is “What ended your marriage”? If they come clean that they cheated, that is a positive sign. If they tell you some other story that doesn’t make sense, that is not good.
Ladies, with all men including Firemen, if something they say or do does not make sense, they are LYING and DECEIVING YOU. Always listen to your GUT instinct it will never steer you wrong. Refer to #1 and #2. These are RED FLAGS from the get-go that you should never ignore. If you continue the relationship, you will just end up with an even WORSE broken heart. They are simply NOT WORTH IT.
The best thing to do here is realizing that when you are dating a FIREMAN, expect these things to happen and if you ignore the signs, you WILL GET YOUR HEART-BROKEN!
My last and final statement in this blog is this: “Some Men are just men you dated that broke your heart”. Just because you fell in love doesn’t mean they will change. He is just another guy you dated that broke your heart. Give yourself time to heal and you WILL get over it, I promise.
From my mother ,
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Coming soon for men and women are my two new books, “The Top 10 RED FLAGS to NEVER IGNORE WHILE DATING”.