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Cosmetic Surgery- Laguna Beach, California

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Cosmetic Surgery. First off, I want to advocate that I am a true believer in Cosmetic Surgery. I think that anyone that wants some work done, they should definitely go for it! I myself have the BEST Cosmetic/Plastic Surgeon in California. I was referred to him by My friend who does my eyebrows. Did I mention that his rates are super reasonable? You won't find better rates in Orange County!
I have had a few things done and Dr. Arian Mowlavi is my go to guy for all my Cosmetic Surgery needs. Dr. Mowlavi is so personable and he really cares how his patients not only look, but how they feel! He always tells me during my procedures "Linda, you're going to "LOVE IT"! I have to say he's been right every time. I am so happy with my results that I decided to refer him over and over to my friends and even strangers I meet.
Dr. Mowlavi is exactly what I needed after my divorce. It really helped turn my life around in a positive direction because the work I have had done makes me feel good about myself again! I went through a very hard divorce where my X-husband told me that I would never find anyone as good as him EVER! He was wrong! I not only have more self-confidence, but I have realized that I don't NEED a man but if I WANT one, I don't have to look far. I'm not saying that the answer to getting over a divorce is Cosmetic Surgery, but I can say it sure helped me along! LOL...
Dr. Mowlavi's staff are so professional and dedicated to making your experience the best it can possibly be. First off, you are not greeted by a snotty receptionist but a Happy, Bubbly, Positive Receptionist who really knows how to treat people. Dr. Mowlavi's assistant James is another great guy! He's funny and makes you feel at ease and very comfortable!
I cannot recommend Dr. Mowlavi highly enough and if you are in the market for the best Cosmetic/Plastic Surgeon, please go see Dr, Mowlavi! I guarantee you will not be dissapointed! His talent is unlimited! I look at least 10+ years younger after having all my work done and I feel great! If you look good, you will feel even better as a person and be more productive.
His office phone number is 949-499-4147 and his website is www.drmowlavi.com
In addition, Dr. Mowlavi's advertisement is on this page of my website as well.
XOXO, Linda

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Alcohol and Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Alcohol and Online Dating. When you go out for a first meet and greet with a person you met on an Online Dating site, please be careful of your alcohol intake. There are times and I will admit to this myself, that I have had too much to drink at a first meet and greet. I always Uber my way there and back because it is never OK to drink and drive, but the reason I may drink too much is that I am simply nervous! This can happen to the best of us. My rule is and I would have to agree with Patti Stanger is a 2 drink maximum!
After you have reached your maximum, then you can drink water to help flush out the alcohol.
We all know that alcohol tends to impair our thinking and common sense and you may end up doing something you will regret later. In addition, the person your are meeting with is always taking mental notes even if you thnk they are not paying attention, believe me they are so IF you drink too much, you may never hear from that person again. As always, first impressions are lasting impressions and you always want to be in control of yourself and your situation so don't let the alcohol get the best of you and possibly ruin a potential lasting relationship with someone on a dating site!
My new book is out called " The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites And a Why". What a Every Online Dater Needs To Know! It's available on Amazon.com or this very page on my blog site!

XOXO, Linda

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Renee Zellweger - She Had Some Work Done. Big Deal!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Renee Zellweger. Recently she came out with a brand new unrecognizable face. The media is all over this new development with her and it's all over the tabloids. Honestly, she is an adult over the age of 18! If she wants to get some work done on her body then more power to her. I don't think it will affect the fact that she is a great actress. I remember watching her in the musical "Chicago". She was brilliant in that role and who knew she could dance like that? That is one of my all time favorite movies/musicals which clearly shows her talent as an actress along with her roles in "Cold Mountain" and "Jerry Maguire" and many more. She is a very beautiful and talented actress for sure.


Let's talk about the work she had done. Obviously she had work done to her face and I believe she looks even more beautiful and I want to give her a thumbs up for having the courage to go for it and get her work done knowing that the media will scrutinize her as much as they did the late Joan Rivers. Joan Rivers took it to the extreme though and I believe became obsessed with the Plastic Surgery. I remember seeing her (Joan Rivers) at the Airport and she did not even look older than 13 in my opinion. She took it too far obviously but she felt good and she believed she looked good.


Looking good is a huge factor in feeling good about yourself. I believe when you feel good about yourself you achieve more in life. Feeling good about yourself involves much more than your looks but the way you look is definitely a biggie. I myself don't feel good about myself unless I look good. Have I had work done? YES! Absolutely! Do I feel better about myself? YES! Absolutely!


There was a time in my life where I discovered a thyroid problem and I lost most of my hair. That was about 4 years ago. I gained about 25 pounds and divorced my husband. It was a horrible time in my life but I am growing my hair back and lost the excess weight. Most importantly my thyroid issue is under control but I have had some work done and even though I am not famous like Renee, I still heard noise from some of my friends and family but I do not care what they think, you see, you have to get over that worrying what other people think. Unfortunately, Renee will always be ridiculed for her makeover in the media and magazines but I am sure deep down inside she feels much better about herself. That is all that matters.


Let's embrace her changes and continue to foster her career as one of the best actresses in our lifetime and leave her alone.
XOXO, Linda

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Monica Lewinsky - She was not Alone!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Monica Lewinsky. For those who do not remember, she was caught in a White House scandal with then President Bill Clinton. It was determined that she gave him oral sex on several occasions. She was only 23 years old at the time and President Clinton was much older and wiser, after all he WAS the President! She decided to come out and create a twitter account and also talk about her side of the story. For years she has been humiliated by her indiscretion with the former President. My opinion is that she got the brunt of the blame of the entire incident. That is simply not fair! The former President first denied any sexual contact with Ms. Lewinsky until it was finally proven that he was lying. Was he impeached? Yes, but later he was acquitted on the charge. He just goes on with his life like nothing ever happened and Ms. Lewinsky has to pay for this for the rest of her life. Not FAIR!


Then there is the matter that the former President was is married and his wife chose to stay with him even after all of this. I believe she has political motivations for staying with him and I guarantee that this is not the first or last affair he had or will have. Shame on Hilary for putting up with that infidelity! Then to run Ms. Lewinsky's name through the mud like she was the only one at fault? Ridiculous!

This happens way too often where the men get away with everything but the woman is viewed as a s%^t or home wrecker. It takes two to tango and he needs to take the blame for his part.
Now she is speaking out on what happened and is getting ridiculed by the Media. This is America where we have freedom of speech and you cannot tell me that the former President didn't flirt or entice Ms. Lewinsky into having oral sex. He was much older, married, the President and morally responsible to attain a Presidential role model and citizen as the President. Shame on the media and shame on the former President Clinton for not coming to the defense of Ms. Lewinsky at this time.


Was she wrong? Of course she was wrong but so was the President. I am not giving Ms. Lewinsky a pass but lets call it like it is and not make this out to be all her fault.
I was a victim of Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault in the workplace and I can totally understand how easy it would be for her to be pulled in by the former President. Obviously she wanted to do what she did and it was a mistake but lets all get over the mistake she made and give her some credit for speaking out and coming out of hiding. By the way, my Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault was not wanted by me and I suffered for over 10 years and I still have symptoms to this day. Scandals like these are most always his word against hers and the public and the media will spin the issue to whatever side they are on. Where are all of the Women's rights people who should be standing behind Ms. Lewinsky at this time?


In my heart I believe that this whole "coming out" with Ms. Lewinsky could go a lot smoother if the former President had the balls to stand behind Ms. Lewinsky at this time. It would show great character on his part, something that he is lacking as a Man who cowards and hides behind the media while Ms. Lewinsky is going through her own private nightmare.

“I am determined to have a different ending to my story. I've decided, finally, to stick my head above the parapet so that I can take back my narrative and give a purpose to my past,” she wrote.

More power to her, I think she should speak out and say what she wants, after all it is her constitutional right.

XOXO, Linda

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Divorces, Relationships and Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Divorces, Relationships and Online Dating. When is the right time to put yourself out there on a dating site and start your life over? That is the million dollar question! I am not sure how to answer that question exactly except to say I think it varies from person to person and the circumstances of the relationship. I know some women that are or were in abusive marriages/relationships. The men tell them 1) You're ugly and no one else will want you. 2) You are LUCKY to be with me. 3) No man will ever want you. This is exactly what my X told me. I actually believed him for a long time! CRAZY! He said I would NEVER find anyone that treats me as good as he does. In that case, I may as well just marry anyone because anyone would treat me better!  Cheating, Lying, Deceit and any kind of Abuse do not belong in a healthy relationship or marriage. It's only when you finally get out that you realize how bad things were. 

The reason the men tell the women these things is because they are in so much fear, denial and they feel guilty thinking about all of the horrible things they have done and they are afraid that you will find someone else that will treat you better. Now, I hope and pray that these women can get out of their bad marriage and relationship but this is simply not the case with some women. They are just so depleted that they do not have the strength to get out and their friends and family are so sick and tired of hearing all of the gory details that eventually they give up trying to help. Sometimes the women feel like they cannot support themselves either. I believe that all women need to have a trade that they can fall back on to support themselves, I call it a "Plan B". Unfortunately, you always need a "Plan B" just in case "life happens" and things do not go as planned.

Did I get bitter?  Yes, I did. It is not an easy thing to go through and I do get bitter and mad now and then because of what our marriage could have been, what it was supposed to be. My X told me that we would never divorce and he would always try counseling or whatever it takes to get the help we need to make our marriage work. We did try counseling but my X would not give up his old life and old girlfriends. That was a deal breaker for me. He always "wanted his cake and eat it to" so to speak. I finally had enough of it and asked for a divorce. I got out and picked myself up again but without God, friends and family I would have never made it! Luckily my kids were adults and my X was not their father so I did not have to feel "Guilty" for taking them away from the marriage. They were never really in it, I kept them out of it as much as I could because deep down inside I knew it was the best thing to do for them and I was right. Always listen to your intuition, it is always right!

Did I get over it? Yes, but it took years. Not months, weeks or days but YEARS! You have to absolutely give yourself time to heal and get your self respect and self confidence back. How do you do it? You start by being good to yourself for a change. What I did was I got a job and reconnected with my friends and family. I started helping people that needed help and being of service to people. To get your self respect and self confidence back you need to start being good to yourself and others. I started working out and going out with friends. I go to the movies and Travel.  I even started "Paddle boarding and writing books.  I got back to the Online Dating scene only to find out that I was not ready yet. I definitely believe that you should not put yourself out there on Online Dating Sites until you are emotionally ready. 

Today my life is AWESOME! I am very happy and my dreams are coming true. I just wrote my first book and it is available on this page and also on Amazon.com. It is my story of what I found out on these Online Dating sites, how most everyone lies about important things. It is called "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites And Why". "What Every Online Dater Needs To Know".  I am in process of my next book and life is GREAT! 

If you are in a bad relationship or marriage and it cannot be fixed, get out while you are still able no matter what it takes. It will always take awhile to get over it but the rewards are worth it in the end. I am not saying that it is easy because it isn't. It is probably the hardest thing to get over but life goes on and if there is Abuse, Addiction or Adultery then you owe it to yourself to get out while you can. Anything else can be worked on I believe. I even forgave the infidelity but my X did some terrible unforgivable things to me after our separation that there was no sense in going back.

These days I put one foot in front of the other and sometimes I even take a step back, but I keep on looking forward and I can finally see the light!

XOXO, Linda

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Must Love Dogs! Dog Lovers and Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Dog Lovers and Online Dating. My daughter is single and has a beautiful female Pitt Bull named Molly. She has had Molly since Molly was about 5 weeks old. Molly is 5 now and she is just like a child to my daughter. I myself am not that big of a animal person although I do love Molly! She grew on me after all these years.
My daughter like many Dog Lovers treats her Dog like you would a child. Molly has been there for my daughter all these years and is very protective of my daughter. It's like having a body guard for my daughter which eases my mind as a parent.
My daughter is currently single and dating. She has to definitely meet a guy that loves Molly as much as she does (if that's even possible) because they come as a package deal! I believe that if you have a Dog that you should definitely put that on your Online Dating profile. There are even dating sites specifically for Dog Lovers.
Many of my single friends have dogs. I guess a Dog is a great companion for single people and if you are dating, the person needs to know that you have a Dog and that its a package deal, much like having a child. One time I was walking with my daughter and Molly downtown doing some shopping and my daughter went into a store so I was standing outside waiting with Molly. Well, a man comes up to me and Molly (I suppose because of her being a pitt Bull) and says to me " why would you have a Dog like that? I say to him " if you had a daughter that looks like mine and lives alone, you would want a Dog as wonderful as this!". He just shook his head and walked away. He must not be a parent is what I was thinking. Do I think Pitt Bulls are dangerous? No. They are by far the sweetest breed of Dog that I have ever comes across however; if a transient or a dangerous person tried to come up to my daughter I know Molly would kill that person so I pity the poor fool who would try. Would I go up and pet a Pitt a Bull randomly on the street? No. You have to have common sense when it comes to Dog breeds. I absolutely believe that Dog owners must act responsibly with their Dogs and are definitely liable for them.
This is just another thing in the list of many that I write about that you absolutely should have in common with a potential mate. I love Molly for watching over my daughter and I believe that Pitt Bulls can be dangerous if in the wrong owners hand yet they are the sweetest most lovable Dogs ever!

My new book is out called "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites And Why". It's available on my website "blog tab" or click this link: 
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_5_8?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=the+top+10+things+people+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why&sprefix=The+top+,aps,23

 

xoxo, Linda

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My New Book Is Out! Available at Amazon.com

Introduction

 

The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites is a guide for men and women to help them in their pursuit of Love via Online Dating Sites.

 

Let’s face it, there are thousands of Online Dating Sites today and most people meet their partners, husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, friends with benefits and lovers on Online Dating Sites. The reality is most people are too busy working or just too shy to approach someone on the street to actually go out and hunt down a mate. Thanks to the Internet, you can now find love online or anything else you are looking for.

 

I myself have been an Online Dater on and off since 2002. I have been on quite a few sites, some are not even around anymore because they have been bought out by the bigger names. This was way back when Online Dating was starting to get big. I think it is a great way to meet someone but you have to be very cautious.

 

I met my x-Husband on Match.com in 2002. He was the first guy I saw on there that I was attracted to. I didn’t even bother looking around once I saw him. I contacted him first and needless to say he lied about almost everything and I was too naïve and ignored all of the warning signs. We dated for five years before we got married and he never really changed. He was a Cheater, Liar and a Manipulator who had a handful of women at his disposal at any given time that he used for different purposes. I was his ‘Trophy Girlfriend/Wife’ yet he had many other women around the entire time we were dating and married.

 

The whole disaster of the relationship was my fault because I allowed him to treat me that way and I kept forgiving him and taking him back. Yes, that’s what I said, the whole thing was my fault because as soon as he lied the first time I should have got out and I didn’t.

 

I have learned some hard lessons and the purpose of this book is to help my fellow Online Daters see and recognize the lies that people tell on their profiles and when dating online. I have learned that if someone lies about a little thing for example, where they live, they are hiding something and will lie about anything. It’s up to you to weed out the dishonest Online Daters so you have a chance at finding true love. Click the link below to direct you to Amazon.com

Practically all the relationships I know are based on a foundation of lies and mutually accepted delusion.

Kim Cattrall

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=The+top+10+things+people+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

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You Get What You Pay For - Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the different Online Dating Sites. Some are free, some are not. Plenty of Fish is a free site. Unfortunately on POF you get a lot of undesirable people because it is free. I have met several guys on POF who are on that site simply because it is free and they had no income to pay for a better site. Everyone wants free things but if you are on POF, you will notice the quality of Online Daters is just not there. I'm not saying that a miracle couldn't happen where you could meet a nice, honest, loyal, working person on POF but I haven't yet. I have met some nice guys that have become friends but no one of quality yet. This is simply so true the old cliche "you get what you pay for".
Match.com is not a free dating site and I do believe the quality of Online Daters are better on there because they actually have to pay and the price these days is not cheap for Match.com. I remember in 2002 when I first joined Match.com I believe it was 19.99. Today it is much pricier and you have to watch your bank account because they will auto charge you. If you want to keep the price low, cancel after the first month and they will send you millions of emails to come back at a discounted price!
Obviously, you will no doubt see the same Online Daters on several different sites free or not. I am pretty sure people are just trying to be on every site possible in order to meet someone but you just have to be very careful of the free sites because there are a lot of losers and looneys on the free sites.
I tried E-harmony once but I found it to be too restrictive and too much trouble. These days, people want that phone app so they can check real quick when someone notifies them. Most sites make it very easy to view your matches and communicate with other Online Daters.
I say if you are serious about finding a love match, you may want to pay for an Online Dating site because the quality of people is just better. If you just want to date and hook up then the free sites may work for you but remember, it's free so it's a crap shoot of what you're going to attract. To me, quality is so much more important than quantity and on the free sites you will gets lots of quantity but not the quality you deserve.

My new book is out called "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites And Why". It's available on my website "blog tab" or click this link: 
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_5_8?url=search-alias=aps&field-keywords=the+top+10+things+people+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why&sprefix=The+top+,aps,233


Xoxo, Linda

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Don't Respond To Your X If They Are Dangerous!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about X's. I myself have been lied to, cheated on numerous times, a victim of theft and deceit, manipulated by and even involved in a murder to hire scheme by an X. This person was the love of my life or so I thought. I let myself be verbally and emotionally abused by the person that I loved and trusted the most. Fortunately for me I was smart enough to get out but the scars are never ending. For the last few years I have not slept well due to the fact that I am afraid for my life. I have even moved my residence a couple times and got a security system for my home.
This all started on a dating site. I ignored all the red flags and hence wasted many many years of my life that I can never get back. Unfortunately, all the distance can still not stop my X from contacting me. He is very manipulative and will go to any lengths to tug at my heart strings even going as far as to bring up my deceased father which was a very emotional time for me. Some people just get off on making other people miserable. It's a control thing. Even though we're divorced he still wants control over my life.
A master manipulator who can string along several women at the same time and knows exactly what to say to keep them on the line. I'm telling you these women he cheated on me with are not attractive and much older than myself. He must have made them feel like they were Pamela Anderson or something to keep them around and they bought every word he said to them. So did I! But I got out and just want to be left alone now. To me, he is dead. I can only hope that the women he's stringing along will find out about my website for their own personal and emotional safety. I believe that God is good and justice will be served and I also know that I have to forgive him and I did but I will never forget or let him draw me back into his life because my life is platinum now compared to what it was with him.
Readers, don't keep bad people around. If someone has hurt you physically, verbally or emotionally, run as fast as you can and never respond to them if they contact you! Never EVER meet them in person alone after you have broken up because they could kill you and I'm not kidding about this! I've seen the Dateline stories about X's that kill because of rejection and mental illness. Don't take that chance, there are way too many fish in the sea to hang on to someone that is harmful and dangerous to you. Be good to yourself and stay safe.

 

http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why


Xoxo, Linda

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