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Is Facebook Sabotaging Your Relationship? By Linda

Hello readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Facebook and Social Media in general. Facebook basically has become a dating site. I get friend requests from men all the time and their Facebook Profile picture looks like an Online Dating site, even their little intro mirrors an Online Dating Site. I am sure all of you would agree with me on this one.

Can this ruin your relationship? YES… it certainly can. Facebook along with Online Dating is very addictive. All of us have many friends on Facebook and sure I have been hit up by single, married and in-between men all the time. I have fun with the married ones though. LOL, I look up their wives, take all the screenshots and send an instant message to them. Sorry, not sorry… The most hilarious thing is most of my Facebook friends know I am a dating coach and blogger and that I should not be underestimated. I do all of my homework trust me when I get hit on.


The single guys I am ok with. The in-between are the guys that are messaging you and flirting with others at the same time. Let’s face it, not everyone is who they say they are. So what happens if you are in a relationship with someone (not just dating) but an actual monogamous relationship? Should you flirt with other people or show the “LOVE” emoji or is just a “LIKE” ok?

My opinion is this and should not surprise you at all but of course, if you are in a committed relationship you should never be flirting with the opposite sex on Facebook for the obvious reason that your Girlfriend or Boyfriend will see it and that is going to cause major problems. Just don’t do it if you are in a committed relationship. What happens if you see this happening? Well, my opinion is that you run as fast as you can. This should never happen. If you let it happen, then you deserve what you get.

Let’s talk about the in-between guys and gals and the difference between “just dating” and a “committed relationship”. HUGE DIFFERENCE and the choice is up to you. If you are flirting or dating someone and see that he or she is flirting or dating someone at the same time, this is all up to you. You can choose to walk away (which I recommend) to escape any future drama or you can just let it ride and see who wins? Me, I walk away immediately. These days people are crazy and I do not want to be involved in a love triangle besides if the guy or girl is flirting or dating two people at the same time, why would you even want to compete? Let’s think this through a little. If you are not in a committed relationship, you have no idea what the guy or gal is doing. They could be having sex with the other person and still flirting with you. To me, this is a no brainer. We all need to be really careful with all these STD’s out there.

My experience has been (and I have been that girl fighting for a guy), lesson learned, it is just not worth it. Right from the get-go, you can see what kind of person this is. There are millions of guys and gals on Dating Sites and I include Facebook as a Dating Site now so why would you even go any further?

What if you are friends with a guy or girl who are dating exclusively and you are friends with both of them on Facebook and one of them, let’s say the female “unfriends” you unexpectedly? To me, this is a RED FLAG. This person is insecure or does not want you to see if they are flirting with other people while being in a committed relationship with your friend. It’s one or the other for sure. What do you do if this is your friend? Well, I think just let it go but before you do, make sure you let your friend know what happened and that is their issue to deal with.

I have married friends that do not even have Facebook accounts. This is an excellent option to save you from any drama.

Let’s just Bottom Line this right now.

  1. If you are in a committed relationship, do not flirt with the opposite sex on Facebook or maintain an Online Dating Profile.
  2. If you are just dating an in-between person, that’s up to you but I just walk away gracefully.
  3. If you get hit on by a married person, notify the husband or wife because they need to know and what they do with it is their problem but do not entertain it. Walk Away, unfriend and block.

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Who Pays For the Date? By Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about “Who pays for the date”? There are many scenarios that I can write about pertaining to this subject but I want to keep this very basic for now.

Let’s pretend that a Guy you meet online asks you out for a date. You like him so you say ok. Now, in this case, I always recommend this (Linda’s rule) to say you want to be friends first and then see where it goes, if anywhere.

Now, let’s just say he agreed to start out friends first which is great. You do a couple of daytime friend’s things at first which he volunteer’s to pay for, however; always do your own driving to meet him. If he asks you to go Dutch and he is pursuing you, do not go out with the guy again. If you are pursuing him, and I do NOT EVER recommend this, then you can go Dutch but trust me, ladies, if a guy likes you, he will pursue you. Men are known hunters and it is in their DNA to hunt you down so to speak. Do not chase a guy. A good example is, do you ever notice the guys you are not interested in just will not give up???? The obvious reason is that you are not chasing them down.

Then there’s that one night where things change from friendship to dating. Let me repeat. You are NOT dating until after he tells you he wants to be more than friends and you AGREE. Ok. So, after friendship, it evolves to “DATING”. JUST DATING. Not dating exclusively, but dating. Now, let me explain something to make it very clear. When you start dating someone, you still may date other people UNLESS you have “That Conversation”, you know the one where you BOTH decide to NOT date other people and date exclusively. If you do not have that conversation, you are still “JUST DATING”. Are we CLEAR? Ok. Now that we have that out of the way, here’s what happens.

You are just in the ‘DATING” phase. You and he haven’t had the “Exclusive Talk” yet. During the dating period, if the guy asks you out, he should pay PERIOD. After all, most men make more money, and women have to do the following things if you are like me and want to take care of yourself:

  1. Nails
  2. Hair
  3. Make-up
  4. Clothes
  5. Shoes
  6. Eyebrows
  7. Botox
  8. Just to name a few
  9. Perfume

All of this costs money. What most men do not realize is when we like a guy and want to look and smell good (I forgot perfume), it costs a lot of money for one date. Not to mention the time it takes to get ready when we already are busy enough with a job, kids, family etc. One date could easily cost over $300 for a lady. EASY…..

Now, before we all get upset at Linda, let’s consider a few ways that a lady can reciprocate. Here are a few things that I do as a courtesy and to also let my guy know I appreciate him:

  1. I bring over dessert when he cooks dinner.
  2. I may even bring supplements (because I am a health nut) and I found out my guy did not take the needed supplements to be healthy. Let me be clear, if a lady likes a guy a lot, she will care about his health and his wellbeing.
  3. I am a Kangen Water drinker. I have my own machine. I share water with people I care about. I swear by this water that it is the best investment I have ever made for my health so if I bring my guy water to help him get healthy, that to me means:
    1. I care about you.
    2. I care about your health.
    3. I like you.
    4. I want you to be around a long time.
    5. I think we may have a future together.

So, let’s review a little. Friendship, then dating. He pays for the dates. You reciprocate by bringing over dessert and other things even though you haven’t had “The Exclusive Talk” yet. You buy clothes, perfume, get your nails, hair, and brows done so you look fabulous. That in itself is a lot of time, money and effort just for your guy!

When and if you do have the “Exclusive Date” talk, then it is recommended by me and others to pick up the check once in a while. Cook dinner once in a while etc. Then your guy has earned your time and attention so you absolutely should contribute monetarily once in a while.

A Real Gentleman should never even mention money when you are just dating. If a guy even throws in your face that you never offered to pick up the check when out, or even buy a drink then you are not dating a gentleman. A real Gentlemen knows, listens and pays attention to your cute texts, your “I miss you texts”, desserts, water you bring over, vitamins etc. and is grateful that you are such a kind and gracious guest. If this happens to you where he may get mad at something and throws the fact that you never picked up the check while “DATING” not “DATING EXCLUSIVELY”, you should never go out with that guy again.

This is a real issue in today’s dating world, unfortunately. There are a lot of beautiful women like myself out there that if we were looking for a “Sugar Daddy” it is so easy to find that it is almost ridiculous. I myself am not a “Gold Digger” and if any guy that I was just “DATING” ever told me that, I would never speak to him again.

And for the guys, I hope that this helps you understand from a ladies side the things that we go through to look good and be fabulous for a Gentleman that we adore.

I am really interested in hearing your feedback and comments. Please contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

XOXO,

Linda

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Check Linda's Website to Look Up an Online Dater Before you Go Out!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my FREE Search Site for Online Dating. You can Check Your Date before you go out for FREE or Add a Free listing about your date for the next person. Report someone dangerous so that the next person can find out before they go. I have often heard Online Daters say to me "I wish there was a website where I could go and look a person up before I go out" well, I have created one and it's FREE. You can search by Username and Dating Site.

You can check on the "HOME" page for this information.

Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

Please check it out so that we can all help each other! http://lindasdatelist.com/

xoxo, Linda

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