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First Date Failure by Linda

Hello readers, today I would like to talk about what happened on a first date recently. This lady has just moved to a new state and decided to check out the guys in her new state.
She gets on an Online Dating site and receives a message from a good looking guy so she replies back. They text back and forth and plan a date for the next week. That Saturday before the date after returning from an all day shopping trip, she gets a phone call from this guy out of the blue asking if she can meet him that night at 9:30 pm!

First off, to the guys, don’t do that. All ladies need time to plan and get ready and it’s just plain rude! Her first thought was (and mine) his previous date cancelled or he got stood up or she wasn’t what she was supposed to be. Duh...

She politely says no thank you but see you on our planned date night. That day comes and it’s after work so this lady had no time to freshen up so she comes as is. They pull into the parking lot at the same time. It’s dark but he looks at her car and asks what kind of car it is. I think that’s fair, he’s fishing to see if she has her s*** together. “Whatever”

They walk in and luckily there are two seats at the bar so she proceeds to sit down but hesitates to give him a chance to pull the bar stool out for her but he just sits down. RED FLAG! What happened to guys with manners? Where or where are you hiding?

She pulls her own chair out and sits down. They order a drink and he’s kind enough to suggest dinner. They order, that’s a good move on his part. Now, here is where it gets weird.

He starts talking about his previous dates. Tells her he was dating a girl he really liked but she told him she does not want anything serious right now, basically friends with benefits only. Lol Sorry not sorry for laughing but this guy is dealing with a pro!

Guys, there are lots of women out there that will tell you the same thing, and you are now wondering why. LMAO..
The reason is she wants you to chase her. It’s a tactic some ladies and men use. Funniest thing is he acted so shocked! She just giggles and proceeds to let him know this little secret and it obviously worked because apparently, he talked about this girl the rest of the night. He could not believe it and asked so many questions about why and how a girl would do this. At that point she realized she gave him all the answers he needed and she decided to end the date politely.

The bill comes and he excuses himself to the restroom. Luckily this lady is smart enough to not pay the tab but waits for him to come back. He paid the tab and they walk out together. Now, they are parked only about 100 yards apart and they get to the parking lot and he walks off and yells out “let me know if you want to go out again” while walking to his car. Basically treating her like a guy friend. Eyes rolling...

What did he do wrong? He didn’t walk her to her car! What in the world is wrong with the guys here she’s thinking and now she’s completely shocked. Guys, I don’t care if you are not interested in this lady, you still should keep it classy and walk her to the car!

She went home. A few days later he texts her and says “I hope you didn’t see my wandering eye at the restaurant “ What? Why would he even text something like this? She replied back, “ Nope didn’t notice and don’t care”!

They never went out again and she blocked his number. Here is where he went wrong:

1. He called late on a Saturday night expecting her to meet him at 9:30 pm at night on the fly.
2. He didn’t pull her chair out for her.
3. He talked the entire time about another girl that told him she only wants FWB and wanted to know why.
4. As soon as the check came, he excused himself to the bathroom maybe hoping she would pick up the check even though he asked her out first. What he should have done was before going to the bathroom, put his credit card on the tab then go to the men’s room. (Or, little boys room) LMAO!
5. He did not walk her to her car!
6. He didn’t ask her to text him when she got home to make sure she got home ok.
7. He texted her a few days later and admitted having a wandering eye on their date. WHY?

Here is what she did right:

1. When he asked #7, she wrote back she “didn’t notice and she didn’t care”.
2. She blocked his number and never went out again with him.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this one. Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

XOXO,
Linda

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Ghosting? Tinder Dating "The Phil Effect"

The Phil Effect - Episode 11 GHOSTING plus, would you date a Pregnant girl??

Too funny..

@Effect_Phil - Twitter - https://twitter.com/effect_phil

Follow Phil on his new Facebook Page -

The Phil Effect  https://www.facebook.com/thephileffect27/

Phil's BLOG https://thephileffect27.blogspot.com/2018/08/the-phil-effect.html?m=1

 

https://soundcloud.com/thephileffect/the-phil-effect-episode-11

XOXOXO,

Linda

Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

 

 

Linda's New Podcast with The Phil Effect! What to Say and Not to Say on the First Message!

So here it is The Phil Effect Episode 10 with Linda. Her advice could be the difference between you sitting in on a Saturday watching The Notebook on your own or meeting the love of your life online.

@Effect_Phil            AKA “The Phil Effect” on Twitter

Hello Readers, Linda here. Phil from the Phil Effect and (Lindasdatelist.com) are teaming up together to talk about the Online Dating Struggles that people are going through. It is a great collaboration because Phil is from Dublin, Ireland and is 28 years old and fairly new to the Online Dating scene. Myself, I am 51 and have been on the Online Dating scene for about 15 years and I am in Southern California.

Our Podcast’s give the listener a very unique perspective due to the difference in age and we both bring new and exciting stories, advice and ideas to the table.

Phil is a new up and coming Podcaster who dares to share his dating stories to his listeners and it is always informative and very funny. Phil is 28 and lives in Dublin, Ireland, worker and college student. His unique personality is catching on globally and he is becoming very popular.

His and our Podcasts are a great listen while you are working out or on the subway or train on your way to your destination. Follow Phil on Twitter @Effect_Phil

Please take a listen and let us know your feedback and any ideas that you may want us to discuss! WE ARE LISTENING!

You can send your ideas to @Effect_Phil on twitter or Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

Below is the link to the latest podcast!

Enjoy!

https://soundcloud.com/thephileffect/the-phil-effect-episode-10?utm_source=soundcloud&utm_campaign=share&utm_medium=twitter

Also, don’t forget to check out my book “The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why” What Every Online Dater Needs to Know!

https://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1503006204

XOXOXO,

Linda

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