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Linda

Linda

Hello I am a blogger and and an author. I speak from my experiences only as I am not a doctor. I do consider myself an expert when it comes to relationship advice only because of what I have been through in my life experiences with Men and Dating and Marriages.
I hope you enjoy my blogs and more than that I hope they can help you or someone else!
xoxo, Linda
Special Offer for Lindasdatelist.com Subscribers Dr. Mowlavi my Personal Plastic Surgeon

Hello Readers, Linda Here. Today my personal plastic surgeon Dr. Mowlavi is offering a special offer to Lindasdatelist.com subscribers. Read below his "How to Reduce Sun-Spots and Blemishes" below and check out the special offer is you mention Lindasdatelist.com! I had the IPL that he speaks about below and it took years off my looks and my skin is smooth and brown spot free!

You won't regret it! 

 

XOXO, Linda

 

How To Reduce Sun Spots and Blemishes

Dr. Arian Mowlavi shares his secrets

As part of our Skin Care Series, Conrad Bosmans interviews Dr. Arian Mowlavi of Cosmetic Plastic Surgery Institute about the best ways to reduce sun spots and blemishes.

Q: What are sun spots and why are they a problem?

Dr. Mowlavi: Facial skin blemishes are associated with increased creation of brown pigment which gets activated by exposure to the Sun’s ultraviolet rays. This results in unsightly brown blemishes throughout your face that make you look older. This is especially true after a summer of sunbathing and going to the beach.

The good news is that we have an amazingly safe, comfortable, and affordable procedure that makes you look younger by reducing sun spots and blemishes. This procedure only requires a single, thirty-minute treatment with no sedation and minimal down time.

Intense Pulse Light (otherwise known as “IPL"), is a safe focused light treatment that uses a single filtered wavelength that targets and eliminates sun spots.

Q: What precautions should patients take before their IPL treatment?

Dr. Mowlavi: The most important precaution is to avoid sun-tanning and/or long hours in the sun for two weeks prior to your treatment.

This is so that your baseline skin is as light as possible in order to create a definite color contrast between your natural skin tone and the unsightly sun spots. Ideally, what we want to do is target the dark spots against a lighter skin background. If you are tanned throughout, then the IPL will be absorbed by your background skin rather than the unsightly spots. Ideally, we want to target the undesirable dark spots against a lighter skin background.

Dr Mowlavi white suitQ: What happens during and after your IPL treatment?

Dr. Mowlavi: You’ll feel tolerable warmth on your skin which dissipates over a few hours.

The next three days, you are going to notice all of the brown spots working their way to the surface of your skin, like coffee grounds, and then falling off.

We instruct our patients to use a wash cloth to gently remove the "coffee grounds" off of their skin. Most patients find their treatments very tolerable and convenient. 

A little moisturizer and application of routine make-up is all you need for your aftercare.

Q: What kind of results can you expect from your IPL treatment?

Dr. Mowlavi: You’ll notice a dramatic reduction of those annoying sun blemishes and feel the improved confidence of knowing you look your best. 

Q: How long will my IPL treatment last?

Dr. Mowlavi: Since IPL blasts the pigment molecule and not the cell, your pigment cells are still alive and they will start producing new sun spots over time. This means your sun spots will return every six to twelve months depending on your sun exposure. 

My regular clients return for their IPL treatments once or twice a year (especially after the summer).

Q: Why do so many doctors advertise IPL as a series of treatments?

Dr. Mowlavi: This is typically just a gimmick. When I offer a series of IPL treatments as a special, my clients are informed that the series will keep them going for a whole year or longer. Beware of a treatment series advertised as part of a single treatment session.

The key is to hone in on the ideal IPL energy setting at the time of your single treatment session. Choosing the optimum energy will ensure optimum reduction of brown spots while avoiding a burn injury. This requires experience and a quick evaluation dose that I perform for all of my first time patients. After gauging your skin coloration and degree of pigmentation, I pick an area near the ear where I will administer a range of energy pulses in order to identify the optimum energy setting for you. This gives you optimum reduction of those unsightly sun spots in a single IPL session.

Machine strength matters. If the IPL machine does not have a coolant in the hand piece it will not be able to provide the power required to maximize pigment removal potential. This is because without a hand piece coolant, you cannot safely attain the energy levels required to most effectively burst the pigment molecule without burning your skin first. If you are considering getting IPL, make sure you inquire whether the provider’s machine has a coolant in the hand piece.

Q: What’s type of sunscreen should people use?

Dr. Mowlavi: As of June 2015, the F.D.A. has recommended the use of sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or higher. There is also legislation that outlaws companies from advertising SPF labelling greater than 25 as there is no scientific data for greater protection over an SPF of 25. 

Other recommendations involve personal habits and include:

  • Limiting time in the sun, especially between the hours of 10 a.m. and 2 p.m., when the sun’s rays are most intense.
  • Wearing clothing that limits skin exposure to the sun; for example, long-sleeved shirts, pants, sunglasses, and broad-rimmed hats.
  • Reapplying sunscreen at least every 2 hours or more often if you’re sweating or jumping in and out of the water.
  • Also, while there are three harmful ultraviolet rays, SPF only measures protection against the most harmful Ultraviolet Ray B. Here are some additives you may see in the sunscreens you are considering and how they protect you:
    • Zinc oxide provides protection against both UVA rays and UVB rays.
    • Titanium oxide provides protection against short wave UVA and UVB.
    • Oxybenzone provides protection against short wave UVA only.
    • PABA is only effective against UVB.

Click here to learn more about Reducing Sun Blemishes With IPL

(In our next installment, Dr. Mowlavi shares How To Tighten Loose Skin)

A Special Gift To Get Your New Year Off To A Great Looking Start for Linda's Datelist Subscribers


Come in before December 31st and receive:

$175 off your IPL Treatment (normally $350

An additional $50 off for sharing this offer with a friend (who takes advantage of this discount)

Schedule Your Free Consultation

Arian Mowlavi, M.D., F.A.C.S. Cosmetic Plastic 

Special Offer for Lindasdatelist.com Subscribers! Dr. Mowlavi - Plastic Surgeon

Hello Readers, Linda Here. Dr. Mowlavi has a series of How to Erase Facial Wrinkles. Dr Mowlavi is my personal plastic surgeon that has helped me with my wrinkles and many other procedures that has helped me look and feel better along with many of my friends. 

If you mention Lindasdatelist.com while booking your appointment, you get a special offer... 

 

Be sure to check out his blog below! You will not be sorry or dissapointed! 

XOXO, Linda

 

How To Erase Facial Wrinkles

Dr. Arian Mowlavi shares his secrets

As part of our 5 Critical Steps to Great Looking Skin Series, Conrad Bosmans interviews Dr. Arian Mowlavi of Cosmetic Plastic Surgery Institute about the best ways to erase unsightly facial wrinkles.

Q: What causes facial wrinkles?

Dr. Mowlavi: Facial wrinkles are skin creases, ridges, and folds that get imprinted in our skin through years of expression and communication. When the underlying muscles contract, they crease the overlying skin.

However, when the outer layer of skin thickens, the inner layer of skin thins, and both layers stiffen, as a result of sun damage, the wrinkles become deeply inset and eventually…unappealing.

This doesn’t mean wrinkles are all bad…because they also portray our feelings and personality. Which is critical. Nobody really wants to look like a “Stepford Wife” or a robot.

Q: How can people erase wrinkles in a natural-looking way?

Dr Mowlavi white suitDr. Mowlavi: There are a few strategic wrinkles that we can safely erase to look more attractive, and more youthful without looking like a robot.

We like to focus on the frown lines between our eyebrows, that can look an “11”.

Then, we’ll move to the horizontal lines across our foreheads, followed by the wrinkles (or crows feet) around our eyes.

The muscles in these areas can be effectively paralyzed without inhibiting your natural expressions using Botulinum toxin injection…otherwise known as Botox.

Botulinum toxin, is a natural chemical that temporarily paralyzes a muscle when it is injected into the motor end-plate. The motor end plate is the region where the nerve ends at the muscle and tells it to contract. When we inject it there, the botox is taken up by the nerve ending and it prevents the nerve from transferring its message to activate the muscle. 

After your injection, you can expect 6 months of wrinkle free living and the compliments that go with it. 

Botox injections are a safe, effective, and an easy means of keeping the frown wrinkles, forehead wrinkles, and eyelid wrinkles at bay. The best regimen includes treatments only twice a year by a qualified and experienced plastic surgeon. Regularly scheduled Botox injections reduce those undesired wrinkles and help avoid invasive surgical measures.

Click here for more information on erasing wrinkles with Botox

(In our next installment, Dr. Mowlavi shares How To Remove Sun Spots and Blemishes)

Special Gifts To Look Your Best For The New Year for Linda's Date List Subscribers

caucasian smiling woman applies moisturizer onto face

Come in before December 31st and receive:

10 units of Botox for Free

Free Skin Evaluation and Personalized Skin Care Plan

Schedule Your Free Consultation

Arian Mowlavi, M.D., F.A.C.S. Cosmetic Plastic Surgery Institute (949) 499-4147

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Linda - Lindasdatelist.com A Survivor

Hello Readers, Linda Here. Today I am inspired to talk about my personal story of survival. In my almost 50 years of life and experiences on this planet earth I have been through my share of personal heartache, abuse, robbed of my life savings by my X, humiliation, cheated on, lied to, financially struggling, threat of my life being taken from me and much more. This is what inspired me to start Lindasdatelist.com.
In the last 13 years, since 2002, the above mentioned has happened to me personally. I have made some very bad choices, trusted too much and given my heart away for one man. It has been 4 years now since my separation/divorce and I just want to encourage my readers/followers that even though life deals you some bad hands and doesn't always go as planned, you can recover!
Four years ago when I left my X, I was left pretty much penniless. I had enough money to get into an apartment, with very little money coming in. When I was married, I did not work. I was going through a person struggle of sexual assault and sexual harassment at my previous employer that left me very depressed and weak both physically and mentally. Even though I wasn't working and married, I managed to bring in more money per month than my husband due to the various lawsuits. My X was in total control of the finances and I trusted him completely which turned out to be a huge mistake. Ladies, always pay attention to your joint finances with your husband. Don't trust anyone and always make sure to keep an eye on where the money is going. My good friend Sue always told me that but I didn't listen. Big Mistake.
Anyhow, after being robbed of my money, I was in my apartment alone. Every day contemplating suicide as I just did not know how I was going to make it through my life without my X and I did not want to start my life over again.
Every day I would talk to my BFF of over 40 years now and she would talk me out of taking all the pills that I had at my disposal. It was a struggle but with her help and God's grace, I didn't do it. There were many days I laid in bed for days without even getting up and leaving the house. My daughter was a huge help and my mother too along with my close friends.
After about 5 months of barely skimming by financially, I managed to find a pretty decent job. From there I have been working every since and every job earning more and more money which has helped my self respect and self confidence.
I didn't want to ask for a divorce but my X was a cheater, liar, manipulator, control freak and turns out a thief. To this day he has my money and I see him on the same Online Dating sites that I am on. I can see he is desperately trying to find someone and his bio is full of desperation and lies. Is it hard to read? YES. I feel so sorry for the women he is conning and I only hope they find my website and read all about the kind of person he is. But, I cannot sit and worry about the women. I have to pay attention to me and my needs and wants now with my new life.
For all of the ladies who have been through an impossible divorce and made it through even stronger, I applaud you.
Since my separation and with God's help, I started my website, published 2 books, have been interviewed for various companies and magazines, have a great career making more money than I ever had, live on the beach with a beautiful ocean view, drive a luxury car with no financial debt. I have reconnected with old friends, restarted family relationships and gained a lot of new friends. My life is full.
I am finally at peace with myself, the things I have done, own my mistakes and I am very proud of the person I am today. Although this did not come easy, with hard work, God's love and grace, I have done it. I have come a very long way than where I was 4 years ago.
I don't expect my life to be easy and care free as I am no fool. Anything can happen but by going through what I have been through, I am strong enough physically, spiritually and emotionally to make it through anything. It's a day by day condition. It's called persevering and learning from my mistakes and always trying to be a better person every day.
I can honestly say I am happy, blessed and thankful every day when I wake up to be able to put on nice clothes, get in my luxury car and drive to the job that I love very much. Every day is a good day and even if things don't go my way, I trust and have faith in God to lead me where he wants me to go. You see, I don't deserve all that I have but God blesses me and by his grace, I make it through.
For anyone going through a rough time whether it be divorce, break up, family problems, financial difficulties or anything else, remember that time heals and looking back where you were is not the way to persevere. Always look ahead. Don't look back because you are not going that way. Put one foot in front of the other and carry on however you have to. Life is too short and you must make the best of it.
Even though I haven't had a boyfriend or any meaningful relationships since my divorce, I am happy and when you are happy and content with yourself and your life, you will attract the right person at the right time. Be patient, keep your family and friends close and keep moving forward. Write that book, eat healthy, exercise and gain perspective. If I never left my cheating husband, I would be as miserable today as I was during my marriage. I have no regrets about leaving him. It was the best thing I ever did for ME!....
I would love to hear your stories, so please contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com.

For the year 2016, a lot of exciting things are going to happen here on Lindasdatelist.com. Podcasts, Online Dating Courses and new books on the way! It's going to be a great year!

I love you all and thank you for reading my posts and my goal is to share my experiences to try and help other people.
Look me up (Linda Jenkins) on Amazon and Kindle for my 2 books. "The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why" What every Online Dater needs to know and 'Nowhere to Hide" My true story of Sexual Assault and Sexual Harassment.

XOXO, Linda

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Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the High Profile divorce of Yolanda and David Foster. I only know of Yolanda from The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, one of my favorite reality shows. Yolanda happens to be my favorite on that show and since she has been battling this horrible Lymes disease, she has really been in my heart. Yolanda is married to David Foster famous songwriter. I liked him as Yolanda's husband as he seemed to be a good guy who really loved her. 

I hear now that they are divorcing. I find that very sad as she is very sick and has been for awhile now. They sold their beautiful home and now Yolanda is living in a condo which was David's bachelor pad. In recent shows, you can see how sick Yolanda is and even though she is still a very beautiful woman, she has decided not to dye her hair, wear make-up and even took out her breast implants. That's a lot to do for a woman who has had it all. It takes much courage to sacrifice your vanity for your illness and I admire her more than ever for that and being so brave as to show the world your vulnerability On national TV. 

 

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Lindasdatelist.com Featured in Textdaters New e-book!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to tell you about a new start-up Dating Mobile App business called ‘Textdater.mobi’. I met Jon Pellington the founder on twitter. Actually, he reached out to me after reading some of my blogs and my books. Jon is a super smart and personable guy, I should know he interviewed me over Skype all the way from the UK where Textdater is based. What a fun interview that was and I got to tell him my story and he was blown away! My story is so crazy that even the best screenwriter couldn’t make it up.
Textdater just released their first FREE e-book called “Relationships, Advice and Belly Laughs”. Several authors and bloggers were featured in his e-book including myself. It has all of our books, websites and social media contact information. If you are a single person looking for love, you really should check out this e-book.
Textdater is unique as it is a dating mobile app where you do not get to see the other person’s picture until the appropriate time leaving you to learn about the other person without judging them for their looks but leaves you learning about the other person’s interests, values and personality without a preliminary picture. It’s a great concept that actually landed them to be nominated for “Best New Dating App” in the UK Dating Awards. 
Jon’s story has also been featured in ‘Startups’ http://startups.co.uk/jon-pellington/ in this article Jon tells how he came up with the idea of Textdater, the challenges and Textdater’s exciting future.
His website is http://textdater.mobi/
Textdater was also the ‘Virgin Start-up of the Week featured here http://www.virginstartup.org/case-study/virgin-startup-week-textdater/
You can get Textdater’s free e-book “Relationships, Advice and Belly Laughs” by clicking here http://textdater.mobi/TextDater.pdf
Follow Textdater on Twitter @textdater

Here is the link to my New Book "The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why" What Every Online Dater Needs to Know http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00OAUA1U0/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1


You can also contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com or @Lindasdatelist on Twitter
XOXO, Linda

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Lindasdatelist.com & famous Plastic Surgeon Working Together!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to announce a brand new series for Lindasdatelist.com. My personal plastic surgeon Dr. Arian Mowlavi (who makes me feel great about myself) and I are teaming up for a series of interviews all about how to look and feel your best in order to attract the perfect partner whether it be post-divorce like myself or for any other reason.

Let’s face it, we are all looking for love these days if you are a single person and in order to meet people, we resort to ‘Online Dating’ as a necessity in order to accomplish our goal of finding love again. Now, as you know, I blog about Online Dating all the time and I am in the market myself so this is very close to my heart.

I admit that when I was married I was not as concerned about my looks because I was in a marriage and although I didn’t let myself go, I did not concern myself with having any kind of work done. In the latter part of my marriage, I started gaining weight and half of my hair fell out and I had no idea why. I was feeling sick every day and it really bothered my husband. I mean, who wants their spouse to be sickly and gain weight and lose half of their hair? This came as a total surprise and I went to my medical doctor and was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. This explained everything. By the time I got on the right cocktail dose of meds, it was too late. My marriage was over and I was left single again to pick up the pieces and start my life over. There were a lot of bad things my X-husband did to me after our separation but I am going to leave that to the upcoming interview.

I lost the weight, got healthy and doctored up my hair with extensions to make me feel better while my hair grew back.

I met a new friend who introduced me to Dr. Mowlavi. She was waxing my brows and asked me if I had ever thought about Botox. I really never have but she invited me to my first Botox party at Dr. Mowlavi’s office. He was the kindest most sweetest and caring doctor who really showed great interest in me. He made me feel special and at the time he did not even know my horrible story. I got the Botox and continued to go every 4 months. During one of my visits, he asked me if I would consider getting my eyes done. I have never even thought about my eyes as I was growing older and never really paid attention so yes, I agreed and that was life changing for me.

In the surgery room, Dr. Arian Mowlavi and his assistant James worked on my eyes. I was very nervous as you have to be awake during the procedure. They were really great at making me feel at ease and under the numbing medication, I started telling my story about my divorce and all of the dangerous things that my X-husband attempted to do to me after the separation. I told him about my website and how I blog about Online Dating and Relationships and at that moment we discussed the idea of working together. You see, Dr. Arian Mowlavi is all about helping people look their best and when you look your best, you feel better about yourself.

Needless to say after the healing from my eye surgery, I honestly looked and felt 10 years younger. I kept getting compliments on how pretty my blue eyes were. Before my eyes were getting droopy and that is the natural aging process and after surgery, I looked like a younger person. I cannot tell you how much better I felt and still feel today.

A few months after that I had some free time between jobs so I decided to go see Dr. Arian Mowlavi and get a consultation on a boob job. Secretly I always wanted a boob job but I decided this was a good time so I went in to see the doctor for my consultation. He looked at my breasts but then he quickly noticed my belly. I had 2 C-Sections with my kids and it wasn’t the prettiest part of my body and that always bothered me too. So, he tells me “Linda, I can make your stomach flat as a board”. That’s all he had to say to me and I signed myself up. I also wanted my lips done too and he did all three procedures at the same time.

I spent a couple months recovering and the results are well let me say, I feel like Marilyn Monroe. I have the slim yet curvy to die for body I always wanted. I started a new job after recovery and let me tell you, I look so great and sexy and all of my clothes fit so well. I almost feel guilty for how great I look! True story.

Dr. Arian Mowlavi has changed my life. I now have even more self-confidence that I had before my awful marriage and I look and feel healthy and my life has totally changed. I always had a very slim body type and now I have the curves I always wanted and look much younger than I really am. I will forever be grateful to him for taking such interest in me and really caring about me.

Now, let’s talk about what is going to happen. An exciting opportunity to listen to Dr. Mowlavi speak about his gift and my opportunity to speak about how his gift has helped me and how we both share a common interest and passion in helping other people. Conrad Bosmans from Business Innovators Magazine is going to be interviewing Dr. Mowlavi and myself together for a series of radio podcasts that I will be featuring on my website Lindasdatelist.com. The first is going to be my story. My story of how my divorce could have landed me a ‘Dateline Story’ very easily if I wasn’t as smart as I was and we will discuss that in the first interview.

Dr. Mowlavi is going to be on the cover of Business Innovators Magazine and has written 2 books on how to look your best. Below is an example of a Skin Care Series interview that Dr. Mowlavi did with Conrad Bosmans recently that will be featured in the magazine.

For Lindasdatelist.com followers, Dr. Mowlavi is offering a special offer so be sure and to see what it is as I assure you, you do not want to miss out on this!

So much to look forward to and just in time for the New Year 2016!

You can contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

for any questions or comments. Please see below the first interview with the Doctor and Conrad Bosmans on Skin Care which has very important and life changing information. Stay tuned for the series and I just know you will get a lot of laughter and good information as we merge our two passions together. Online Dating and Looking your Best!

 

xoxo, Linda

The 5 Critical Steps to Great Looking Skin

Dr. Arian Mowlavi shares his secrets

 

By Conrad Bosmans

Do you have an effective skin maintenance routine?

Most of us love the summer and enjoying the outdoors. Unfortunately, it comes at a steep price… that summer sunshine wreaks havoc on our skin.

Its harmful UV rays cause sunburn, leathery skin, wrinkles, premature aging and deadly skin cancers.

But the real problem is that while skin care is a critical, never ending process, most people lack an effective routine to protect and maintain their skin so they always look their best.

As part of our "How to Look Your Best Series" I recently interviewed our own Dr. Arian Mowlavi, the founder of Cosmetic Plastic Surgery Institute. As a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon, Dr. Arian Mowlavi has seen how the summer sun ravages the skin of beach-loving locals.

In this series of interviews, Dr. Mowlavi outlines the 5 Critical Steps to Great Looking Skin and how his patients use them to prevent and reverse sun damage to their skin.

Even better, he shares the easiest way to tailor your skin care maintenance program in the most comfortable, easy, safe and affordable way possible.

  If you want healthy, great looking skin that helps you look your best….Dr. Mowlavi is going to share the exact steps you must take to do so:

Q: What should we be worried about after a summer in the sun at our beautiful beaches?

Dr. Mowlavi: I see a lot of patients who have been really ravaged by the summer sun. While the most obvious problem is sunburn, ultimately harmful sun exposure leads to leathery or rough skin, blemishes, wrinkles, and cancerous lesions. In the end, it leads to an older, rougher and unhealthy appearance.

Q: How can people prevent or undo the ravages the sun has taken on their skin?

Dr. Mowlavi: It all starts with having a routine maintenance program that is tailored to your specific needs. It should include the right combination of the five key skin care elements:

  • Erasing wrinkles
  • Reducing sun spots and blemishes
  • Tightening loose skin
  • Improving skin texture
  • Removing skin “ditzels”

Since most of my patients struggle with finding the exact maintenance routine that is right for them, we’ve developed some valuable tools and resources that walk them through their step-by-step roadmap to great looking skin. 

It all starts with this 5-Part Skin Care Series that kicks off with “How to Erase Facial Wrinkles”.

And for people who would like a more comprehensive and interactive experience, we're launching a free webinar series where they'll be able to "ask the Doc" about the things that matter most to them.

(Be sure to check your inbox for our next session: "How to Erase Facial Wrinkles".)

Special Gifts for Linda's Date List Members

 

Come in before December 20th and receive:

10 units of Botox for Free

Free Skin Evaluation and Personalized Skin Care Plan

 

Schedule Your Free Consultation

Arian Mowlavi, M.D., F.A.C.S. Cosmetic Plastic Surgery Institute (949) 499-4147

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Charlie Sheen - My Thoughts

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about someone that's been on my mind lately, Charlie Sheen. Oh boy where to start? First off, I want to say that I think Charlie Sheen is a talented and brilliant actor. I mean, who doesn't love Two and 1/2 men? So many nights I sat and watched every episode.. Laughed so hard and couldn't wait for the next week to watch again. Probably the funniest sitcom ever and I mean that sincerely.
I'm trying to put myself in his shoes. Let's see, he said he found out about his HIV status about 4 years ago. That makes a lot of sense because that's when he kind of went off the deep end at the end of his famous sitcom. He most likely found out while filming Two and 1/2 men which probably started the downhill spiral. I can only imagine what he was going through. He probably thought his life was coming to an end. If I thought my life was coming to an end, you better believe I would let people know I loved them and if I had any enemies or co-workers including bosses I really hated but couldn't speak up, well this would be the time I would do it. I bet Charlie felt that way. We all have those people we really just want to tell them what we really think, right or wrong and I can totally relate to Charlie in this way.
So, I'm Charlie and I just found out about my HIV status. I'm newly married with kids on the way. I panic. I call my closest friend or my famous dad to ask for advice. I go into immideately regret of the things that I did to put me where I am right now. I drink, I do drugs, I have to numb the pain and feelings and horror I am going to go through. What will everyone think or say about me? I know my haters are going to say I deserved this. I will look like a total ass. I can't deal with this. What about my kids? What about my kids? I can't deal with this, I need to do more drugs.
Honestly, I believe Charlie loves his kids more than anything. I can understand him wanting to keep this secret. After all, it's his life, his business and now he has to learn how to keep his secret and move on with his life. So sad that he's had to pay people off in the amount of millions of dollars. Very sad. Wasted money. That money could have gone into AIDS research. Very sad our society today has wasted so much money in the wrong places instead of cancer research or AIDS research, diabetes etc.
So Charlie did a lot of drugs and went on a lot of public rants over Twitter and other social media. He was suffering trauma and don't tell me you wouldn't freak out if this happened to you! I know I would freak out absolutely.
No one really knew at the time why he was ranting and raving and acting so hostile? Obviously, this is a normal reaction to hearing such bad news.
I feel sorry for Charlie. Don't be so critical because we all have made mistakes or really bad decisions in our life that we are ashamed of they are just not publicized like Charlie.
Ok, Charlie gets the meds he needs and tried to go on after Two and 1/2 men. He gets a new sitcom which I also enjoyed watching. Perfect name 'Anger Management '. He now has to deal with keeping the sitcom funny and compete with his former sitcom, deal with the everyday struggles of his health and add another divorce on top of that. That's a lot of stress.
Then, he begins to reveal his secret to so called 'friends' who promise to keep his secret but don't. Then he has to pay them off. Can you imagine telling someone such a personal secret to a trusted friend only to have them turn on you? Let's face it. It's really hard to hold a secret but dammit, you have to! Evil world we live in where money comes before morality and trust. I say to those people who went public with his secret, shame on you and trust me, what comes around, goes around!
Do I think Charlie made some bad decisions to get him where he is today? Of course, but I am no one to judge. I have made plenty mistakes and bad decisions and I am paying for them every day. I have to live with what I've done and it's an everyday struggle. Maybe I didn't make the same bad decisions as Charlie but I made up for it in my own struggles. Who's to say one is worse than the other? Does it really matter anyway? Just because I'm not a celebrity doesn't mean I didn't screw my life up sometimes, it just wasn't in the media that's all.
So Charlie is HIV + that's very sad. Despite all of his rants and bad decisions, I still like the guy and yes, I think he was very brave to go public with his announcement. That could not have been easy. I hope he has a sense of relief now for his own sanity. And don't tell me 'he deserved what he got!. Everyone has made bad decisions and for those women that Charlie was with well, they did it willingly and had their own reasons as of why. Could be so they could say they slept with him, for the money or even for the chance to be famous. Who knows but it really doesn't matter now anyway.
Before you judge Charlie, take a look in your own mirror and remember all of the bad decisions you have made in your life. No one is perfect and we all need to be compassionate and put yourself in the other persons shoes.
I am sure Charlie will come out a 'winner' in the end because I do believe this is a wake up call for many people including myself. I believe he will help other people and be the good guy that he really is because of this.
Thanks Charlie for coming forward and I wish you the best. Life is tough and sometimes bad things happen but you have to move on with your head held high and push through it.

 

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Ladies, We Need to Stick Together! Most Men Are Players!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about guys. First, let's talk about really good guys. Ok, there are some. Now, let's talk about 'Players'.
I will say that if you browse any Online Dating Sites you will run into many, many players. What's a player? A player is a guy who dates and has sex with many women at one time. He may be single, married, in a relationship or just plain honest about it. A good indicator is when they put on their profile 'wants to date but nothing serious'. Stay away from those guys because you will only get hurt. Another indicator and the one used by my X-husband is 'looking for long term". This means they do not want to totally commit or take steps like marriage or even living together they just want a girlfriend who has no expectations of getting that ring on her finger but will be around when he needs her. This also means you may even have to go Dutch on vacations and things. This happened to me when I met my X. He had many women and was such a cheap ass he would never pay for anything. It wS amazing how he had all of these older women at his feet who would bring him gifts and buy him things yet he would never give back. Then he met me. I had no idea at first because he told me everything I wanted to hear yet he was on many dating sites all the time. We were exclusive yet I would find him on all kinds of dating sites. I found condoms, candles, nail polish, women's moisturizers, women's clothes, cut off tags from Victoria's Secret on the bathroom floor and many more things in his apartment. I was so stupid. Looking back now, I can't even believe I continued to see him. Anyway, let's move on to today's topic.
If you have dated a player or are dating a player, and you know the 'other women', you immediately should warn them if you can. Us ladies need to stick together. The only way these guys will stop is if we stick together and really listen to one another. Honestly, there are millions of guys out there. If you are approached by another woman about the guy you are dating, sit down and have coffee or even a cocktail with that lady and listen to what she tells you. If only I would have listened to my BFF about my X I would not have gone through hell like I did and almost lose my life literally plus all my life savings. My BFF was always right and shame on me for not listening to her.
This has come to light lately in my life. My X and my X. I have warned both of the other women but I do not think they are listening. Ladies, please listen to me when I tell you, these guys are players and you are wasting your time, energy and money on these losers.
What do you think you would do if you were dating a guy and was approached by another woman about him? Would you listen or would you be so desperate that you would not listen? Have some self respect and do some investigation on your man. You have to these days. If another woman approaches you, listen to her and do your research. If you think you can change a man, well you can't. What you see and hear is what you get.
I would love to hear your thoughts. Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com.

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Online Dating is an Addiction!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about how addicting Online Dating is. First you sign up for POF. Then you post your pictures and fill out your bio. It's FREE so no worries about your cash flow. Then you start getting push messages to your phone every time someone wants to meet you.
It draws you in because you get to view millions of men and women. Once you view someone's profile, then within minutes they will view yours. It's exciting! Soon, you start looking all the time just to see who's viewed your profile. It's the first thing you look at when you wake up, and the last thing you do before you go to bed. Sometimes you even wake up in the middle of the night to see if you have any messages. It's crazy.

Then eventually you meet someone and go out on a couple dates. If you are the girl, you expect the new guy you are dating removes or hides his profile but you get the exact opposite. You go to POF and look to see if he's online and BOOM! He's online now! Immediately you are upset because you realize that he's looking for greener grass! It's hurtful and disappointing. Soon you find yourself looking at his profile all the time and he is always online now.
If you are the guy, you love the attention you are getting from the women so you have no intention of taking your profile down even if you met a nice girl. You don't want to give up that ego boost. This is where the addiction comes in.
You don't call the girl back because you think she's stalking you because she's always looking at your profile. But, you will keep her on the line just in case you need a date.
The girls get their hearts broken and the guys gets addicted. It's a vicious cycle.
If you meet someone that is worthy of your time, take your profile down and concentrate on that person. It's just the right thing to do.
Finding a person you click with is not easy so if you find one, keep them and show some respect for them and remove your profile. If things don't work out, you can always start the vicious cycle all over again. It's that simple.

Xoxo, Linda

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