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My Husband Has Passed. His Mistress is at Fault - by Linda
Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to tell you about my late husbands mistress. She was in his life before he met me. She never left even after we married.  I really thought she was gone and had accepted the fact that he was now a married man. My late husband is gone now and I am devastated to say the least. Every day is getting better but the last four months of his life, we reconnected even though we went through a bad divorce, the last four months was very enlightening. We forgave each other for the things we did but he had a big secret that has come out a week after he passed and now all of the pieces are coming together.
 
Let's talk about this psycho little girl in a elderly woman's body.
She is older than him and has a lot of mental issues. She grew up with a silver spoon in her mouth. She's never been married and is bisexual. She lives a very freaky sex life and acts childish even though she's a senior citizen.
She has all her Facebook friends fooled. 
She has passed herself off as a RN for years, however she failed the test four times and was only eligible as a LVN.(Licenced Vocational NUT)
 
Hey - Beverly Hills Fired and Banned from the Medical Profession and Equinox Fanatic - Bobby and I are REALLY GREAT FRIENDS now and he wanted me to ask you if you remember CHAOS? and to tell you that they are watching....
We see eachother freuently, talk on the phone and he has told me and given me all the evidence to put you away for LIFE. It's just a matter of time. Enjoy your freedom because it is coming to an end.. What you tried to do to me 5 years ago, is now known to the FBI and the Police.
 
She stole prescription drugs and gave them to my late husband and was finally caught and banned from the medical industry for life. That was final in 2013, and she hasn't had a job since 2011. 
She was committed to a mental institution when she was 12 years old and has many mental issues. By the way, she still lives at home and she's in her 60's. 
In not just blaming her, my late husband wouldn't let her go. He kept her around for kinky sex only. She fantasizes that he loved her when he never did. 
 
She lives at the gym (Equinox) and those are the only friends she has. They just do not know the real person she is.
When you look at her Facebook page, all you see are her gym buddies as friends. 
Since my husband passed, she posts daily on her page about him and if he was still here, he would be thoroughly embarrassed. He never once took her out in public as she is not attractive at all. She meant nothing to him. By the way, all of the pictures she has posted she got off of the internet or his memorial page. There are no pictures of the two of them anywhere. There may be some but Facebook would ban them or she is too embarrassed to show them. I once found a video tape of them having sex before we were married. 
 
Remember, this person has no probelm having sex with a married man. Ladies, beware and do not inroduce her to your boyfriend or husband. 
 
She's had several abortions and used abortion as birth control but on her page you'll see tons of baby pictures and before you start feeling sorry for her, realize this woman is mentally unbalanced. She's a grown senior citizen and acts like a child. 
She has no skills except sex and she uses it to try and get love from men and women to no avail.
She went to his funeral and played the sympathy card with his family. He never introduced them to her and she has them fooled about her. They think she's an angel but that soon will be disclosed.
She is evil and destroyed our marriage. 
 
The last four months of my late husbands life we reconnected, saw each other and even talked about reconciliation. 
Knowing what I know now, I'm so happy that never happened. I'm sickened by the fact that he's gone but now that I'm finding out about this woman, it makes me angry and sick that he actually got sucked in by the devil himself by involving himself with her. 
She lives a free life today but soon, she will be locked up for the rest of her life and everyone will learn the truth about her.
She did have one boyfriend who broke up with her when he saw a video tape of her and a few other guys and one woman having an orgy, this was one of his best friends. 
Real ladies don't do things like that and she is a sick and lonely senior citizen who needs to be locked up for the rest of her days. 
My late husband paid with his life because I believe the guilt of what the two tried to do to me 5 years ago got to him but my mission now is to get her put away so she cannot do this to anyone else.
Luckily and by the grace of god I am still here and alive today to get justice for what she tried to do to me as I have all of the evidence to have her put away and it is already being acted on.
 
Enjoy your last days of freedom because it will be over soon. You know who you are...
Oh, by the way, she met him on an online dating site which tells you to be very careful of who you meet on there. This is no joke and there are many crazy people out there on those sites and I've seen her on plenty of fish to name one but she's also probably on a swinger site my guess would be. 
 
My late husband loved me and married me. He was a good man but had some flaws like all of us do. He apologized many times to me before he left this earth and we spent many nights on the phone crying and laughing about old times and he begged for forgiveness which I granted because even though he was not perfect, I have no regrets of divorcing him now that I know so much more. 
 
He was the love of my life and I'll always love him forever. I forgave him for me and for him. You see, when you hold on to hatred and anger and bitterness, it can eat you alive. I've been praying for help from God in learning how to forgive him and the minute I saw him after four years, I forgave him. All the anger and hatred and bitterness went away completely.  You see, God will give you what you need when you need it. Never before and never after and on that day, when I saw him, my prayers were answered. 
 
Forgive the people who wrong you because it's not worth the stress in your life but, protect yourself and fight for justice here on earth for people who deserve it. That's what I am doing and when she's locked up and can no longer hurt anyone else, I'll feel justice has been served and then the forgiveness will come because she's mentally messed up in the head.
 
Contact me for any additional information.
 
 
 
 
Xoxo, Linda
 
 
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New Talented Poetic EDM/Hip Hop & Rap Artist on the Music Scene! Recommended by Linda
 
 
 

Hello Readers, Today I want to tell you about a new talented EDM/Hip Hop and Rap Artist only 19 years old called 'Frequency'. Recently I was turned on to his music by a close friend. 

To me a true artist is someone who writes and sings their own music no matter what music realm. I have nothing but respect for any artist that is that talented. In the new genre of EDM/Hip Hop mixed with Rap is CJ Kerns who goes by 'Frequency'. 

He comes from Arizona and was recently signed to Hood and Associates and has been labeled the new 'Eminem' in the business and once you hear his personal struggles and triumphs through his magical poetic rapping, you will be hooked. 

Frequency's first  debut double-album titled Fire And Lightning: The Lightning Side was just released in February 2016 featuring lyrics based on his early life experiences as a teenager growing up in a broken home. Frequency began rapping at the age of 9-years-old, free-styling at school and parties with his friends. In August of 2015, he was discovered by the label, Hood and Associates, after his sister,  Beautiful model Amber Kerns turned 'Ditch' from Hood and Associates on to his music.

He has recorded 35 songs, some of which will make his album released this month and some which will be saved for a future project. He briefly appeared on the stage at the NOS Events Center in San Bernadino during the 2015 XO Gold Cup, a new Cannabis Convention put on by Caviar Gold, and you will be seeing and hearing his music soon. He has also appeared at the House of Blues in Anaheim to a more than excited and pleased crowd. 

Below is a link to two of my favorite tracks. I urge to to check them out and spread the word of this bright, young talented rap artist. After all, you really have to be gifted to be able to create such great music. I really respect and admire someone so young that can express himself and his struggles growing up to try and help other people. I can relate to his music as you all know my struggles I have been through but I can only write not sing.... This is what is important in life, taking what you've learned and helping other people whether it be through blogging or rapping, paying it forward is the ultimate reward! 

Introducing Frequency....

https://m.soundcloud.com/hood-and-associates/sxxx

https://m.soundcloud.com/frequencymusic66/frequency-the-struggle

Check him out on the Hood and Associates Website here:

http://hoodandtalent.com/artists/frequency/

 

Check him out on Facebook - search  'Frequency Music'

 
XOXO, Linda
 
 

 
 
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Online Dating Etiquette for the Guys

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about 'Online Dating Etiquette for the Guys'. I've been an Online Dater on and off since 2002 and I want to point out a few things that the guys are just doing wrong. 
First thing is this, educate yourself on how the ladies think. You must know your prey very well before you go on the hunt. You can do this by reading books, talking to friends that are female, reading my blogs or just from learning from your experiences. We all have had some experiences with the opposite sex that just didn't go well so you need to reflect back on those and realize what you did to screw it up and how you won't repeat that behavior,  that thing you did, the thing you didn't do etc. 
Once you do your research, you then can start practicing. What do I mean by practicing? Well, the good thing about online dating is there are millions of people out there and available to practice on. So you start messaging ladies and practice saying the right things and see how it goes. 
Here are a few things that guys say to me that I totally get offended by and trust me I'm no prude but guys, you need to have some class! 
1. Hey sexy - this is annoying and makes me think all you want to do is get laid. And that opening line is probably the same one you send to every girl so I'm not buying it. I ignore these guys that say that first thing. Obviously they don't know how to talk to a lady and the first impression is a lasting one so guys, stop using that line immediately. 
2. Are you a sexual person? - seriously? This came up the other day. I mean the guy was doing pretty good at first and then he throws that line in. First off, why would you even ask that? I'm thinking ok, maybe he had a wife that didn't like sex so he is asking up front? Naw... Next thing I'm thinking is he is just looking to get laid. Then I think wow, he seemed like a decent guy at first so maybe he's a manipulator type and I don't want that either. Next is, it's just rude to ask that. Guys, newsflash, us ladies are looking for love and respect from a guy. That is so disrespectful to ask someone when you don't even know them. It's a total turn off and after a long lecture back to him, I blocked him I have no time for guys that don't know how to speak to a lady. 
3. From a guy who said he was my age but clearly was not and admitted it ' do you like younger men'? - honestly I have a daughter his age but I was curious so I asked him, why do you like older women? His answer, I have mommy issues. I'm not kidding! So, I continue, why do you have mommy issues? He says well my mom walked in on me masturbating and it turned me on! Really? Now, I'm getting concerned. So, I tell him that's pretty weird and scary. He then tells me he doesn't understand how that weirds me out? I say, well what if you had a daughter and you walked in on her? What would you do? Ok, are you sitting down for this? He says to me, I would ask her if she needed any help! Ok, now I'm really freaked out and I told him soon I will see his face on the news as a child predator or rapist and in jail, they don't take kindly to people like you. You need serious help. Then I reported him to the site and hopefully they took the proper actions. Whew! Bad bad bad...
So, that was just a few and I could go on and on but let's talk about how to talk to a lady on a dating site the proper way shall we? 
First, remember to do your homework. Read a book. In fact, read 'Masterdate by George Reagan'. I read this book and it's a great guide for the guys who are online dating. I highly recommend it. After you've done your homework and practiced with a few ladies, you see someone your are really interested in. So, now you are better prepared to speak like a gentleman to a lady. When I say lady, I'm talking about a nice girl who isn't flaunting her half naked body in her photos double fishing two cocktails in a bar setting surrounded by guys. I'm talking about a nice normal girl who has good pictures and doesn't have to show her breasts to get your attention. 
A good opening line is ' hello, I'm Dave I read your profile and I like your pictures. How was your day? Or, how was your weekend? Or, how was your holiday? Or, how do you like living in Long Beach? These are very good opening lines. When she answers you back, then you say funny things that are not offensive and never get sexual EVER because you will just turn her off. Ask her what she likes to do for fun or what her favorite food is etc. Trust me, you will get her attention because you are all about her. Us ladies are turned on by a guy who is genuinely interested in what we like and our interests. Don't go to the sexual conversation, just don't go there. If you date and like each other, things will flow naturally and we as women won't feel threatened. Remember, us ladies are delicate flowers who deserve to be treated like the ladies we are. 

Super Important.. Don't ask her a million personal questions in the beginning like:

1. How many times have you been married?

2. What was the cause of your divorce?

3. Do you and your X still talk?

4. Why are you still single?

5. Have you had any luck on this site? Duh, if I had any luck why would I still be on here?

6. Any personal questions about your kids.

7. When was your last relationship?

A lady will write on her profile only things that they really want you to know at first. After all, you are a total stranger and anything she won't disclose at first is none of your business unless you get serious.


Of course there are those women who will settle for the dirtbags and they are just desperate and if they will put up with your disrespect, they will put up and put out for any guy that shows them attention period. They have issues that not even you can fix. 
What I've learned is, you get what you give. You treat a lady with respect, she will treat you with respect and there's no better way to start a relationship. 


Guys, a few tips:

1. Be respectful of her time. She most likely works and needs her rest so if she declines a date during the week, don't take it personal. Myself being a career woman, I highly respect a guy who respects that my time is valuable. 
2. Always pay for the dates. Pay for the valet and never ask to go Dutch. If you can't afford it, then refer back to Masterdate by George Reagan. You're not ready to date. Or, maybe you can afford it but your too cheap. Not a good sign and a real turn off.
3. Don't pressure her to have sex. Trust me, when she's ready, she'll let you know, you won't have to guess.
4. Always drive to her in the beginning. This is just courteous and the right thing to do. After you're dating awhile, she will want to come to you and you won't even have to ask. (Thumbs up)
5. If you're dating starts to get serious, take your profile down and let her know you did so. If she's into you the same way, she will take hers down too. If she doesn't, give it a couple more dates and if she still doesn't, end it because she's looking for the BBD (bigger, better deal).

So I have given you some great pointers guys, now I hope you will follow my tips and be a much better online dater. Don't be a player and treat the ladies with respect. This will get you much further in your quest for love. 

Any questions or comments, contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

Xoxo, Linda

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My latest book available in Kindle Store

My latest book is available in the Kindle Store. My true story of Sexual Assault and Sexual Harassment. 

 

http://www.amazon.com/Nowhere-Hide-Linda-Jenkins-ebook/dp/B00WTWI87Y

 

contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

xoxo, Linda

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Linda Interviewed by Textdater- listen now

Hello Readers, check out my first podcast interviewed by Jon owner of Textdater.mobi

 

https://drive.google.com/open?id=0BwxVL8R-QMaOLUZKMXlscGNjaTg

 

Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

 

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The Women are Coming Out - Finally
Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about how my website Lindasdatelist.com is working as designed. Recently, I have had a few women contact me after discovering my website regarding  my X. Let's remember the main reason why I created my website forum, it's because of my X who conned me, cheated on me, mentally abused me, ignored me, used me and many other really bad things. I wanted to warn other women about him and well I am happy to announce it is working. Like Bill Cosby, these women are coming out of nowhere searching for answers about my X. 
Little did I realize this was going to happen, I mean I wanted it to but to my own amazement it actually is. I have to say I feel vindicated knowing that I am not crazy and not the only woman he has done these awful things to. I feel bad for these women and I encourage them to love themselves enough to walk away because these are beautiful, successful women who deserve to be treated like a queen. 
In another way, I feel a bit sad for my X. I really don't think he can help himself. Like OJ Simpson, he really believes he is always right and believes his own lies. He accuses all of the women in his life of having personality disorders, bi-polar, depression etc. the only disorder we all have in common is we got suckered in by his good looks and charm. We are all successful, beautiful women who just picked the wrong guy. We ignored the early warning signs of his cheating and abuse only to try and keep the relationship going because he had convinced us that we are the ones with the problems and we are lucky enough that he will tolerate us enough to keep us around when he wants us. You see, it's our insecurities and flaws that are ruining any chance of happiness with him and if we don't change, it will never work. It's all our fault. 
Truth is, it is him who is the psycho. He is a master manipulator and con man, we are only lucky we didn't end up on a Dateline story. 
Now hear this! Any women out there that have been conned by this man, come forward with the others so no one else gets hurt. Tell all your friends about my website so they can spread the word.
To my X, when you are ready to come clean, get the help required and apologize to all of the women you used, conned, stole from, cheated on and mentally abused, I will happily write a nice come back story for you of the man you are supposed to be. The first step is admitting what you did and asking forgiveness. This is the only way you will ever have peace and ever have a chance of finding happiness and I mean this will not be an overnight thing. This will take time and asking for god's forgiveness will only bring you out of this hole you dug yourself in. 
Ladies, we need to stick together as this male is not the only male on the planet who does this to women. They are everywhere and the more we reject being disrespected by these men, the more they will be forced to step up and be the men God wants them to be.
Thank you to my loyal readers and followers and may God bless you in the new year!
Xoxo, Linda
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Online Dating and Relationship Advice for 2016

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the new year, new beginnings, relationships, lessons learned from last year and of course Online Dating. Let's just say I'm going to rate my Online Dating of 2015 from a scale of 1-10, a 2 at best. Hey, I'm not ashamed to admit my luck really wasn't that great last year but I also have to say that I really didn't give it my 100% attention either. Last year I worked super hard on my career and was so focused I rarely had time for dating. I had a previous relationship off and on for the last two years that I finally gave up on. We were just not on the same page and although we had some good times, it was not what I wanted. I suppose as I get older, my standards get higher. I'm not sure if everyone feels that way I mean I know of some people men and women that the older they get, the more desperate they become in finding someone. Not the case for me. I've become so independent in the last 4 years that it may be hurting me. I met a few nice men that seemed to be intimidated by my independence. Not many men can handle a strong woman who can make her own decisions and does not need a man to complete her yet wants one for compatibility, friendship and everything else that goes along with it. It's not that I'm a women lib type of gal at all in fact I'm the complete opposite. I want the man to pay for dates, hold the door open for me, come by and change a lightbulb every now and then, kill a nasty spider, take my trash out and of course, I'll cook you a fabulous dinner for doing so too, hold my hand and tell me I look pretty even when I feel like I don't. 
I believe in letting the man act like the man and for me to be the lady. 
The lessons I've learned from 2015 were never let a man take advantage of my kindness and good nature. Don't stay in a semi ok relationship just because I'm too lazy to end it. Learn to move forward if things are not looking good and never settle for less than what I believe I deserve. No friends with benefits even if the sex is great because both parties end up getting attached and hurt because there is no future and I have no problem staying home alone and saying no to the FWB partner that will never go anywhere except out the front door until I see him again. Simply not worth it. Said goodbye to that life and not going back there again. 
Another lesson I learned was I worked too much that left me exhausted and robbed me of quality time with friends and family. Next year, I will slow down and stop and smell the roses once in awhile.
As my faithful followers and readers, there is one thing I will not change from last year and that is writing about my X. I believe that by doing so, I have helped more than one woman and that is the entire reason why I created my website. It is a tremendous feeling knowing I have helped other women learn from my mistakes so better believe I won't stop doing that. I have so many more stories to tell and advice to give so that is not going to change for 2016. (Sorry X, you reap what you sew).

Let's talk about Online Dating. Ok, so my standards are high. I want someone tall, educated, financially responsible, reliable, same beliefs as me (same religion) and someone who lives close to me. Oh, and did I mention handsome? Yes, that's important too. Ok, ok. So I'm looking for Mr. Perfect. I believe he's out there and I'm not really sure if I can meet him on a dating site, at the grocery store, yoga class, in a bar or at church but wherever he is, I'm ready, willing and emotionally available to dedicate time to the relationship. I will continue to be on the dating sites, be very selective and take a risk once in awhile if I think he's worth it. 
What are your 2016 relationship goals? I hope you have some good ones. Never give up and you never know, that guy or girl you meet might turn out to be a good friend who has a friend that may be the perfect partner for you! Anything can happen if you have a positive attitude, value yourself, respect yourself, help others and keep on keeping on! 

As always, thank you for reading my blogs and I would love to hear your feedback so please drop me a comment at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com and don't forget to check out my books on Amazon and Kindle. 
1. The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why, what every online dater needs to know.
2. Nowhere to hide, my true story of Sexual Assault and Sexual Harassment

Xoxo, Linda

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Online Dating and Relationship Advice for 2016

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the new year, new beginnings, relationships, lessons learned from last year and of course Online Dating. Let's just say I'm going to rate my Online Dating of 2015 from a scale of 1-10, a 2 at best. Hey, I'm not ashamed to admit my luck really wasn't that great last year but I also have to say that I really didn't give it my 100% attention either. Last year I worked super hard on my career and was so focused I rarely had time for dating. I had a previous relationship off and on for the last two years that I finally gave up on. We were just not on the same page and although we had some good times, it was not what I wanted. I suppose as I get older, my standards get higher. I'm not sure if everyone feels that way I mean I know of some people men and women that the older they get, the more desperate they become in finding someone. Not the case for me. I've become so independent in the last 4 years that it may be hurting me. I met a few nice men that seemed to be intimidated by my independence. Not many men can handle a strong woman who can make her own decisions and does not need a man to complete her yet wants one for compatibility, friendship and everything else that goes along with it. It's not that I'm a women lib type of gal at all in fact I'm the complete opposite. I want the man to pay for dates, hold the door open for me, come by and change a lightbulb every now and then, kill a nasty spider, take my trash out and of course, I'll cook you a fabulous dinner for doing so too, hold my hand and tell me I look pretty even when I feel like I don't.
I believe in letting the man act like the man and for me to be the lady.
The lessons I've learned from 2015 were never let a man take advantage of my kindness and good nature. Don't stay in a semi ok relationship just because I'm too lazy to end it. Learn to move forward if things are not looking good and never settle for less than what I believe I deserve. No friends with benefits even if the sex is great because both parties end up getting attached and hurt because there is no future and I have no problem staying home alone and saying no to the FWB partner that will never go anywhere except out the front door until I see him again. Simply not worth it. Said goodbye to that life and not going back there again.
Another lesson I learned was I worked too much that left me exhausted and robbed me of quality time with friends and family. Next year, I will slow down and stop and smell the roses once in awhile.
As my faithful followers and readers, there is one thing I will not change from last year and that is writing about my X. I believe that by doing so, I have helped more than one woman and that is the entire reason why I created my website. It is a tremendous feeling knowing I have helped other women learn from my mistakes so better believe I won't stop doing that. I have so many more stories to tell and advice to give so that is not going to change for 2016. (Sorry X, you reap what you sew).

Let's talk about Online Dating. Ok, so my standards are high. I want someone tall, educated, financially responsible, reliable, same beliefs as me (same religion) and someone who lives close to me. Oh, and did I mention handsome? Yes, that's important too. Ok, ok. So I'm looking for Mr. Perfect. I believe he's out there and I'm not really sure if I can meet him on a dating site, at the grocery store, yoga class, in a bar or at church but wherever he is, I'm ready, willing and emotionally available to dedicate time to the relationship. I will continue to be on the dating sites, be very selective and take a risk once in awhile if I think he's worth it.
What are your 2016 relationship goals? I hope you have some good ones. Never give up and you never know, that guy or girl you meet might turn out to be a good friend who has a friend that may be the perfect partner for you! Anything can happen if you have a positive attitude, value yourself, respect yourself, help others and keep on keeping on!

As always, thank you for reading my blogs and I would love to hear your feedback so please drop me a comment at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com and don't forget to check out my books on Amazon and Kindle.
1. The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why, what every online dater needs to know.
2. Nowhere to hide, my true story of Sexual Assault and Sexual Harassment

Xoxo, Linda

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