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Some Advice for the Guys... Don't be a STALKER!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to give some much needed advice to the guy Online Daters. When you meet a girl online, don't start talking about how you think she's the one for you or put her on a pedestal too much over the phone. This happened to me and it started to make me feel uncomfortable. I mean honestly, I haven't even met this guy in person yet and he's already talking about being a couple? This is just weird and it turns a girl off because we think this guy hasn't even seen me in person yet and what if, I mean what IF I don't like him when I see him? Awkward! This is why you don't give too much personal information to a complete stranger over the phone before you even meet!
Just try and keep the conversation light and funny at first. Don't be so serious it is just a turn off!
So, we talk a couple times on the phone and make a tentative meeting for a few days later. He doesn't call the day before to confirm or anything so I just write him off ( I had a weird feeling anyway) and you should always listen to your gut instinct.
He calls the next day from a different number because well, I blocked his cell phone, decided he was too strange and I answer the phone. He proceeds to tell me " we have a serious problem here" and I said "we do"? And he says " yes, we were supposed to meet last night. Well, luckily I got another call I needed to take so I asked him to hold on then I just never went back to his call. And don't tell me we have a serious problem! I don't have any problems and no one wants to pick up the phone to hear that kind of dialogue!

When I got off the phone, I blocked the SECOND number! Case closed or so I thought. Yesterday my phone rang again from another number and I answer it and it's him again! WTF? I hung up on him and blocked that number. Now, this is getting stalker like so if he calls again I will have to tell him he's stalking me and to knock it off or I'll have to file a report. Seriously, take a hint guys if we don't answer your call then we don't like you! Simple as that. Don't be a stalker!

Xoxo, Linda

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New Years Resolutions - You Can Do It!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the New Year. Everyone has some ideas about resolutions and whatever they may be, just get busy making it happen. Last year at this time I made a New Years resolution to start my own business, write my first book and spend more time with family and friends. I am proud to say I accomplished all of the ones listed. This year, I have plans for a new book (which I am almost done with), eating healthier and have even more fun with friends and family! I also want to vacation somewhere tropical. I have no plans to fall in love because I think that will happen naturally when the time is right. In the meantime, I will move forward with my life and let everything fall into place.
What are your resolutions? I am a huge procrastinator and if I can meet my resolution promises to myself, so can you! Time is of the essence we don't know how long we will be on this earth so the timing is everything.
If your resolution is to find love, keep your mind open. Say hi to that pretty girl or handsome guy when you see them in the store. Flirt a little and always have a sense of humor and a big smile on your face. People will notice you more if you look happy and part of being happy is maybe losing that weight, exercising, changing your hair color or anything else that makes you feel good about yourself.
Maybe you want some plastic surgery? I say go for it if it makes you feel better about yourself! On this page is my personal plastic surgeon who in my opinion is the very best in California! Dr. Mowlavi is the best!
For the guys looking for love, I recommend reading the book "Masterdate" by George Reagan available on Amazon.com. It is very informative information and gals it wouldn't hurt to read it too. It is a great book to read if you're looking for love! And last but not least, my book " The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why - What Every Online Dater Needs To Know" is a great read for those online daters. I wrote it as a coffee table book, it's not too long but filled with information. It's available on Lindasdatelist.com, Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble.
I hope everyone has a productive and fun New Year 2015!
Xoxo, Linda

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Best Gift for the Single Guy or Girl!

Hello Readers, Linda here. I have the perfect gift for that single person in your life! "The Top 10 Things People Lie About on Online Dating Sites and Why" What Every Online Dater Needs to Know! It's less than $6.00 on Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble or on Lindasdatelist.com...

 

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Xoxo, Linda

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48 My Ass! You are totally lying about your age!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Men and Women that lie about their age on Online Dating Sites. Have you ever been browsing the profiles and see someone you know and they are totally lying about their age? LOL!
I came across my X Brother in Law and the guy is 53 and he says he is 48? LMAO! Give me a break, you know who you are.. When they see you in person they will totally know. I hate to break this to you but you even look older than 53. Get over yourself! I know you have a lot of secrets to hide about yourself and lying about your age is a sign that you are hiding things about your life. What a great way to start a relationship! You are just like your brother! He lied about everything and to this day still continues to lie. Unbelievable.
Why do people lie about their age or anything else for that matter? Simply because they are hiding something... DUH!
I wrote a book about this very thing. "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites And Why" What Every Online Dater Needs To Know! You might want to check it out especially if you are an Online Dater... I've been getting very good reviews and lots of funny feedback... It's available on my website Lindasdatelist.com, Amazon.com or Barnes and Noble. It's less than $6.00 for the paperback. It would make a great Christmas gift for the friend or family member who is Dating Online.
Anyway, I just had to laugh out loud about this it is way too funny...
Have a great day!
XOXO, Linda

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Bill Cosby's wife - in DENIAL!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I just have to write about Bill Cosby's wife. This woman is standing by her man! This doesn't surprise me at all. As a woman with a (x) husband who cheated constantly throughout our marriage, I can understand where her mind set is. I too didn't want to confirm by speaking about my husbands cheating. I knew in my heart what he was doing and I chose for a long time to ignore it. I tried talking to the women on the phone and nothing helped. He did what he did.
I believe like Mrs. Cosby that a rapist like Bill Cosby likes the idea of having a virtuous wife while leading a double life. This whole story hits home to me in so many ways. A man ( not that he's a real man) like Cosby is a manipulator and a sicko! He's lead a double life for so many years and kudos to the women that finally came out after all of these years and are speaking out about what happened to them. Last I heard there were 27 women that came forward. That's a lot of women! I believe there were probably 100's of them. Mrs. Cosby was at home raising their kids and turning her cheek to what was happening. It's easy to do when you have kids and a sizable income to ignore the signs of a rapist, cheating husband.
My x often told me he liked that I was a christian and he believed that by my faith he would be more favorable to the Lord no matter what he did. That was really stupid but true.
I believe Mrs. Cosby doesn't want to admit what is the obvious because she has so much to lose. I would like to feel bad for her but not really because she is defending a rapist. Any woman who would defend her rapist husband and I don't care who he is needs their head examined.
Cosby's reputation has been tarnished now even though we'll never see justice at least we have that but I believe Cosby needs to be locked up like any other Rapist!
Unlike Cosby who's reputation has been affected, my x still walks around like he never did anything. No one knows what he did, and that's sad. I say, one day your sins will find you out its just a matter of time. Look at Cosby, it took 40 years but it did happen.
Xoxo, Linda

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Girls Night Out - Younger Men

Hello Readers, Linda here. Whoa it was a crazy night! 3 of us girls on the town. Ages 48, 44 and 28. It all started with Patron shots at my place. we proceeded to walk through the crowds downtown and into a pizza place for a quick bite to soak up some of the Tequila shots. The owner of the place was bringing us free desserts I guess we were a little festive and next thing you know the chef was sending me free drinks... I drank a couple then poured into a plastic soda cup with a straw and on to the next bar we go a place called Legends. We never have to wait in line for some reason we are well known downtown by the bouncers so we get right in. I admit it's a nice luxury I mean who wants to wait in line! And it doesn't hurt we are 3 hot ladies! 

We find a seat at the bar upstairs and let the drama begin, my daughter gets us free drinks and is quickly approached by a handsome Marine whom she gives the cold shoulder which makes him pursue her even more but she knows exactly what she is doing after all she's read the "Why Men Love Bitches" book and listens to mommys advice pretty well on how to handle guys. Meanwhile, I just sit back and watch , I'm not allowed to tell anyone I'm the mother so we tell everyone were sisters and people believe us. Thank you Dr. Mowlavi my personal plastic surgeon! By the time we leave he begs her for her number and she gives it to him. He was hot! Why can't I be 20 years younger?  

We move along to the next bar called Dogz. It's the coolest bar downtown and again, we don't have to wait in line because it's my "Oops I did it again" Papparazi guy that runs the bar so we get right in and who do I run into immediately? A POF date who looks surprised to see me? Yes, I have a life outside of you and no, I'm not sitting around at home waiting for your call! So I say a polite hello and work my way through the crowd. The place was so busy I didn't get to talk to my Papparazi guy so that was a bummer but I saw him last weekend so I'm good for now. Lol

We meet a gal in Dogz and strike up conversation about Online Dating and she shows us a Dick Pic from a guy that was so bad I mean who does that? And she didn't even ask for it! It's one thing if you ask for it but read my blog "Please don't send me a Dick Pic" and that will explain my feelings on that subject. Meanwhile we are getting hit on by younger guys, I mean it's flattering and these younger guys are not that dumb! Us older ladies have it going on for sure and they know it. We decide to move along to the next bar even though we could have had our pick of any of the younger guys there...LOL

The next bar is a dive bar but still pretty popular and the two girls are pretty hammered by now I'm holding off because I need to write today and don't want the hangover so we go in again, bypassing the line and we find a place at the bar and order more drinks. We flirt with some guys, dance to "I like big butts and I cannot lie"... lol. I was getting tired after all I am the mother and the oldest so I said a quick goodbye and walk home. I get into my Jammie's and just when I'm ready to fall asleep, my phone rings. It's my daughter telling me our friend is drunk and coming to my place to crash. I quickly get up and prepare my spare bedroom for her and soon she arrives and gets into bed and passes out. 

My daughter tells me she's staying with the MARINE AND HEADS ON OUT THE DOOR. I WAKE UP TO A CALL FROM MY DAUGHTER AND SHES ON HER WAY TO PICK UP OUR FRIEND. WE ALL LAUGH AND IT WAS A SCREAMING GOOD TIME I MEAN THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS ON LADIES NIGHT, We all have a good laugh and one of us in not in our own clothes but wearing a marine hat and marine hoodie...LMAO! I think....

xoxo, Linda

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Janay Rice - In Denial

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Janay Rice, Ray Rice's wife. I just watched her interview with Matt Lauer on the Today Show. My thoughts are that this is a woman who is in love truly. I do believe she loves him. I too was in a domestic violence marriage. I too was in denial like her. I stayed at first and endured several beatings until the time it happened to me in front of my 2 year old son. At that point I finally woke up and got out of there. My X has been in and out of jail several times for beating up his girlfriend and he has not changed at all. 

Janay and her mother swore this has never happened before but I'm not sure I believe them. Her mother said this is the last time and that it will never happen again. That is a typical reaction from an abused woman. Maybe Janay's mother was abused? I don't know so I will not say but I do not understand her supporting her daughter's bad choices. I don't care who you are, you can be the President of the United States and if you are an abuser, you are an abuser. 99% of abusers never change especially if they don't get help. 

Janay refuses to put a label on what happened to her which again is a typical denial response of an abused woman. She even admitted she was lead to participate in the press interview but really did not want to be there. I don't blame her, I would have been embarrassed and humiliated as she clearly was. 

Matt pointed out that he apologized to his fans publicly but never to his wife at the press conference. I believe he didn't because this wasn't the first incident and he knows she won't leave him. You would think if this was the first time he would have shown remorse for his actions in public and told his wife he was sorry but he didn't. Janay claims he has said he was sorry to her in private and I believe that. I also believe he told her it would never happen again but I don't believe that. Time will tell for sure.

I am outraged with Janay's mother for not trying to help her get out of that marriage ASAP. As a mother, you help your kids not encourage a dangerous situation. 

I think both Janay and her mother need to get educated on Domestic Violence and Abuse. I know this will happen again and this won't be the last we hear about this couple in the media. I will not support any team that picks him up right now. I think if I see him try and reinvent himself similiar to what Michael Vick did then I can support him but until that time I hope the NFL takes a stand against this behavior and makes him prove himself.

XOXO, Linda

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"Masterdate"  by George Reagan - A Must Read!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to tell you about a new book by George Reagan entitled “Masterdate – The Handy Guide to Internet Dating for Guys”.

I just finished reading this book. At first, as a woman I was skeptical thinking what do I need to know about Internet Dating for Guys? After all I am Linda from Lindasdatelist.com who just published my first book called “The Top 10 Things People Lie about on Online Dating Sites and Why”. What could I possibly learn that I didn’t know already?

Boy was I wrong! I knew nothing, nada, and zero about what guys think about themselves, dating, sex and relationships. I never knew so many guys had self-confidence issues. Guys can put on a good game in front of us girls that’s for sure! I learned so much from this book as I reflected back to my many Online Dates and I could see all of the scenarios that happened to me. This book is a “MUST READ” for any guy or girl that is an Online Dater. For the guys, this book will help you in your pursuit of self-confidence when Online Dating. Let me tell you from a girl’s point of view, there is nothing sexier than a guy who is self-confident. Why else would we girls find married men so attractive? It is because they are self-confident! They are not out to impress a lady because they have one at home already. If you do not have self-confidence, this book will tell you exactly how to get it. George points out how to tell if a guy is self-confident or not simply by how far away he stand from the urinal in a public restroom! LMAO... If the guy stands far away, chances are he is self-confident (no matter what size he is). If a guy stands too close than this is a sign he may have self-confidence issues. BTW, we girls pay attention to how long you spend in the bathroom meaning “WASH YOUR HANDS GUYS”! We girls would really appreciate it!

Take all of your clothes off in private and look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself “Would you date you”? If the answer is no or even if it is yes than you need to read this book ASAP. George points out how to gain your self-confidence where even you would date you! LOL.

Personal hygiene is another topic that George discusses in his book. This is a BIGGIE guys! Pay close attention to what George has to say!

Write a funny but intelligent bio. Girls love a guy that can make them laugh! This is what gets our attention when reading your bios. Also, “SPELL CHECK” your bio before you publish it! If you claim to be a CEO and you cannot spell, then this is a big red flag for us girls.

Choose recent pictures. Girls don’t care what you looked like 5 years ago! This is 2014, post a recent (by yourself) picture. Don’t post a profile picture with a lot of people in it where we have to guess which one is you. (This is a big pet peeve of mine by the way). Make sure you are dressed nice too. George talks all about this in the book, pay attention!

Rejection. This happens to all of us no doubt even if you are a Brad Pitt look alike if your bio is mean, arrogant, self-centered or rude you won’t get the responses you are looking for. Remember, it’s not all about you!

First dates. I loved this chapter because George NAILED IT! I was reading and laughing out loud because everything he wrote is so true! George talks about all of the uncomfortable things that happen on a first date or meet and greet. George gives great advice on this very subject. He spells out exactly how a guy should approach a first date or meet and greet. Pay attention, he’s spot on with this! (I’m beginning to like George a lot, it’s like he’s the male version of me)...LOL George even talks about the next dates (2, 3, etc.). What do you do or not do? Well, George will tell you and he’s absolutely right.

Seduction vs. Romance. Again, George nails it here as well for this topic. I’m beginning to wonder how George knows so much about how we girls think? I know, he must have grown up with 10 sisters! LOL. After reading this chapter I am excited to go and update my own bio because I learned so much. When should you kiss? Do you expect to get laid on the first date? This chapter is the “go to” for any guy to help him decipher of what to do and when to do it.

Communication. How to communicate with a girl one on one or even in a group setting. How do you act? Well, George will tell you and remember he talks from experience as he tells his personal stories in the book. (Just fascinating)

Expectations. What should you expect on a first date or meet and greet or even the dates after? George explains this in detail so you don’t feel rejected if things don’t go your way.

Finding love. Is it possible? Yes! George talks about the perfect situation in which it is very possible to fall in love.

My advice? Guys and Girls need to read this book if you are an Online Dater or know someone who is. This book would make a great gift to an Online Dater (especially the guys). George did an excellent job in explaining what Online Daters really feel like, no sugar coating here!

I am so happy I read this book and I highly recommend it! “Masterdate – The Handy Guide to Internet Dating For Guys”  http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1501021273/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1417385567&sr=8-1

XOXO, Linda

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Outraged about Ray Rice!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I would like to talk about Ray Rice. He won his appeal with the NFL! I do not understand this decision? He knocked his wife out in the elevator then pretended like she passed out drunk? What in the heck is the NFL thinking? This obviously shows that you can abuse your wife if you are a NFL player and get away with it?
Did he ever get ordered to go to domestic violence classes? Anger management? Anything? I don't think so or at least it's not in the news...
How could they let this happen? And let's talk about the idiots that were wearing Ray Rice Jerseys right after he got suspended! What is happening to this country where we tolerate this type of behavior and support the violator?
Next thing we'll see Adrian Peterson allowed to come back to the Vikings after physically abusing his kids!
I appeal to the owner of the Ravens to officially fire Ray Rice or release him from the team in support for all of the abused women out there. I don't care if his idiot wife married him, in my opinion her opinion doesn't matter. Let them just go live their lives and beat each other up on their own but don't, please don't let him back into the NFL. Hey, I'm all about second chances but let's see him take some domestic violence and anger management classes first!
Let's compare him for a moment to Michael Vick the infamous dog fighter/killer. He served his time in jail and speaks around the country about how bad dog fighting is, ok? He is rehabilitating himself so therefore yes, give him another chance but I see nothing, nada, zero about Ray Rice doing anything like Michael Vick did.
Why wasn't he arrested? They changed the laws now after OJ to leave it up to the state to press charges and as far as I know, he was never charged for what he did?
I guarantee that when they let him back in, this will not be an isolated incident. This will happen again because if he is not electing to get help then it will happen again. His wife needs anger management classes too because it showed in the video how she was aggravating him and hitting him too! That is just wrong. Ray Rice's wife needs counseling and anger management classes too. In addition they have a daughter together. This cannot be good for their child to be in a domestic violence home.
I just don't understand....
XOXO, Linda

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