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Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about something creepy that happened to me recently. I was out with my high school friends just minding my own business at a Yaught Club event. A couple ( husband and wife) came up to me and started a conversation. There was 1 empty seat next to me and the husband asked if he could sit down next to me. Now, if he wAs a real gentleman he would have had his wife sit down but no, he left her standing. He proceeded to hit on me several times in the matter of about an hour! Even my friends noticed. His wife was either "clueless" Or if she did notice, she never said anything. If that were my husband I would have thrown him over the balcony!
Why are some married men so creepy? I have no idea but I was totally appalled and pissed off I could barely keep my mouth shut. Finally right when I was just ready to say something to him, he got the hint and took his wife and walked away.
Married men, have respect for your wives and don't hit on single women because we think it's CREEPY! Ugh! And wives, if your husband treats you like this, kick him to the curb! Don't put up with it!

 

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Xoxo, Linda

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Thank you NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to send a a Thank You out to the NFL Commissioner Mr. Roger Goodell. I myself have been a victim of domestic violence in my life. I find it very disturbing that these Pro Athletes seem to think they can get away with assaulting kids and adults whenever they want and they seem to get away with it all too often. I know this has been going on for decades but the time it really came to light for me was with the OJ Simpson trial. He got away with murder and it all started from that first push, punch, shove, unkind word, bullying and the list goes on.
It always starts with something little or minor or you excuse it as a mistake or whatever, but eventually it becomes a beating.
I believe Pro Athletes' wives or girlfriends really love living that plush lifestyle. I think they endure a lot just to live the way they do. It's really sad that they think that way and won't ever get the courage to leave. Some will end up dead and some hurt badly not to mention the emotional abuse that always goes hand in hand with the assaults.
The commissioner got a big wake up call recently with the Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson incidents and I believe he stepped up to the plate. He admitted the NFL made a mistake and I believe him when he says he is going to ensure that if this happens again, swift action will be taken. I believe him and I could see his sincerity that he had during his speech. I believe he is a strong leader and has done a great job managing the NFL and I have faith in him to bring the status of the NFL back to good standing in very little time.
After all, it takes a special person to admit when they were wrong and take the necessary steps to correct their mistakes. I applaud him and thank him for his effort in helping to eliminate this bad behavior and the athletes who practice it.

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Xoxo, Linda

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Just Cut Them Off -Bad Online Daters

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about when to just cut someone off from communication from an Online Dating site. Now and then you will come across an Online Dater that in the beginning you liked them and possibly even dated but they no longer serve a positive purpose in your life so you will have to cut them off. Relationships end and more likely than not, they end badly. It's just life folks.
I truly believe that by eliminating bad people from your life you are opening the door for even better opportunities.
Now let's talk about how to do this exactly. Well, from my experience I have run across a couple of Online Daters that just got real mean and nasty and rude to me that I had to cut them off. The way you do this is you just do not respond to their messages including text messages and phone calls. You can block them on the dating site and block their phone number from your phone. A little trick is this, no one memorizes phone numbers anymore with advanced technology so simply block then delete their phone number from your phone. You most likely will never hear from them again and you will not be tempted at a lonely moment to call or text them because you won't know their number.
Don't spend your precious time being around people who do not help make you a better person and who are just not kind people. It's not worth it, relationships like rules are meant to be broken sometimes for the better.
Treat yourself good, you deserve it!

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Xoxo, Linda

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Finances and Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about your Finances and Online Dating. You are probably wondering what the two have in common but unfortunately this is a big problem today on Online Dating Sites. This happens to both sexes all too often. You must always be aware of the "Scammer", "Opportunist", "Con-Man/Woman", and flat out "liar" when you are dating online.
I have heard many stories from people about Men and Women who will scan the Online Dating Sites for unsuspecting persons to scam them out of their money. It's easy for them to spot a lonely or desperate Man or Woman who will spend all the money on someone they met on a dating site because that person is telling them everything they want to hear. These people are professional scammers and will take advantage of your last penny if you let them.
I have watched countless "Dateline" stories where people will be scammed out of hundred of thousands of dollars or more.
A good example would be a woman who is lonely and meets a younger man on the dating site. This man is charming, good looking and knows all the right things to say to make the woman feel "special". He has no car, no phone, no job or no place to live. The woman is so desperate for attention that she will buy him a phone so that they can "keep in touch", possibly even buy him a car and give him cash just to keep him around. The same thing applies for men who get scammed by women or even men.men, women/women.
When you meet someone online and they have no car, phone, job or place to live (any one of these), then the chances are pretty high that they are looking for a free ticket. I believe that a person who doesn't have their life together has no business scanning the Dating Sites looking for a meal ticket.
My advice would be this: If you meet someone online who is down on their luck with no car, job, phone or place to live then run as far as you can because chances are this person is going to scam you and use you for what he/she doesn't have. These sort of people want the easy way out and will scan the Dating Sites looking for suckers that will be so needy that they will give them their last dime. Once the person gets what they want, they will move on to the next person or even possibly be scamming more than one person at the same time. Be very cautious and very selective when choosing someone to date. Most of the time these people are not looking for love, they are looking for money and someone to take care of them financially. Don't be fooled!

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why


xoxo. Linda

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Religion and Online Dating

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Religion and Online Dating. For me this is a very important thing, probably the most important thing I look at when I am looking for a mate online. This is one of the first places I look for on their profiles. I am happy to announce that most every dating site, especially the large ones have this as a option to discolse on your profiles.
When you are looking for a mate, much like "Politics and Online Dating", it is a wise choice to choose someone of the same religion as yourself. For example, I am a Christian. I would not date an Athiest, Agnostic, Jewish or any other religiion than my own. I don't agree with the idea that when you meet someone, do not talk about politics or religion, just keep it light. Well, I strongly disagree with this. I believe though that it should not even get to that point in the first place where you find yourself across the table from a total stranger you met online without knowing first their political or religious preference. A person really needs to know this before going out otherwise it is a waste of time.
Let's face it, why would you want to be with an Athiest if you are a Christian or Catholic or Jew or any religion? Is it because you think you can change that person into believing what you do? If you even THINK this is a possability you are sadly mistaken. People do not change! What you see is what you get so why even go there? You will waste your time and energy on trying to change someone's opinion and it's a big mistake and I speak from experience.
Let's talk about a couple that go out never worrying about or taking into consideration the other person's political or religion beliefs. Let's say John and Julie go out and fall in love. John is an Athiest and Julie is a Catholic. Neither one of them has been married or has any kids. They fall in love and get married in Vegas.. after all, John won't get married in the Catholic Church and Julie is too much in love and doesn't really care so she lets it go even when she is confronted by her family. Her family really wants her to be married in the Catholic Chruch. This is usually the first of many conflicts to come with the families. Off to Vegas they go...
Julie gets pregnant and they have a baby. Julie really wants to have the baby christened in the Catholic Church but John highly disagrees and it's the beginning of the fights and arguments. Julie really wants to raise their baby Catholic and John is not having any part of that. Soon, it becomes more of a problem then the actual being in love. Obviously this is not only causing probelms with John and Julie, but with their family members as well. Julie cannot really expect John to change his opinion after all she married him knowing he is an Athiest and this creates much stress, turmoil, arguments and resentment in their marriage. Soon, they will divorce but the battle will still continue until the baby is an adult and throughout the life of the child because the child will be torn in which direction to go.
This is simply unfair to do to any child and should be avoided at any price. It takes more than just LOVE to make any relationship work. You will need to have the same political and religion as your mate in order to have a successful partnership.
Trust me on this one. The divorce rate for couples who do not have the same beliefs are extremely high. Couples with the same beliefs have a much better chance at staying married.

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

xoxo, Linda

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They really never go away! Online Daters

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Online Daters that you meet online and date maybe once or twice and it just doesn't work out. If you stay on the same Online Dating site long enough, I find that I still end up hearing from them in the future. Last week, I had 3 messages from previous guys that I went out with. There was no love connection with these guys yet they still message me? I just don't get it!
I even get text messages from these guys. It's hilarious, it starts with a "hey you". Then I send the standard"?" back. Then I get a this is so and so from POF. Obviously, I gave my digits to this guy and he didn't text until months later so of course I have no idea who he is. Then he sends a photo.. Then I remember who he is. I don't answer back. What is the point anyway? Seriously, why did he wait so long?
These guys must have so many numbers stored up on their phones, it's like a modern day " little black book"!
You know these guys just think we are going to jump up and text them back after not hearing from them for months? I don't care what anyone says, this is just a big crap shoot..

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

 

 


Xoxo, Linda

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My Thoughts About Ray Rice's Wife.. He Knocked Her Out!

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the wife of Ray Rice the NFL Football player. Ok, he knocked her out cold in the elevator. From the video that was posted everywhere, clearly they were having a pretty serious argument at the time. I am not defending him at all but where is the blame on her? She clearly was striking him several times before he hit her. Isn't that assault? I mean it's just not ok for women to hit men either.
I'm not in any way saying she deserved it because she didn't, what he should have done after she hit him was walk away and if she didn't stop then he should have called the police on her. But that's not what happened and his anger got the best of him and he should have never done that to her. He is a man with a serious problem! Then he spit on her? What a piece of work he is.
Then she marries him and defends him. Well this is typical behavior of an abused woman. I have been there but I was lucky enough to get out.
My X-husband is a former NFL player too. He never physically abused me but he emotionally and verbally abused me to no end. It's an ego problem these guys have and most of them are womanizers and cheat on their wives/girlfriends all the time. They are used to getting whatever they want and I bet that fight with Ray Rice and his then fiancé was about another woman. I would bet money on it and frankly I believe the real reason she married him and is defending him is because she wants to live that lifestyle and realizes her chances are slim to none if he doesn't get his job back.
She is very stupid and naive in my opinion and I guarantee this will not be the last time we hear about their abusive relationship in the future.
My prediction is she will be knocked up soon and it won't be the last time she will get knocked out by him.

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

 

 


Xoxo, Linda

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Ladies Dont GiveThe Wrong Impression

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about first impressions. On your Online Dating profile "pictures" don't give them a picture that highlights your tits unless you're looking for a " hook up" or "sex on the first date". And most of all, don't get upset if you're attracting guys that are just plain rude and disrespectful. I've done some research and I am shocked to find that probably about 70% of women's profiles are pictures you would be embarrassed to show in the outside world more less all over cyberspace! Just imagine if a co-worker saw your profile pictures where you look like you are straight out of a porn magazine. Yes, I acknowledge men like tits but they are also looking for a woman who respects herself enough that she doesn't have to post such nasty pictures in order to get a man. Seriously, what kind of impression are you trying to show here?
Honestly, I've spoken to men who straight out laugh at those profiles however; they will contact you to get laid no doubt.
First impressions show everything and let's really think about what kind of man you really want to attract. If you post pictures like that you definitely appear to be desperate and no good man is going to take you seriously. I don't care if you're overweight or anything, have some respect for yourself and by doing so you have a much better chance of attracting a good guy.

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

 

 


Xoxo! Linda

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Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I was pleasantly surprised I met a really nice guy on POF. It's too early to tell but I like what I see and hear for now.
You never know when love could sneak up on you so if you meet someone nice then you should open your heart and mind and just see what happens.
I will follow the why men love b}#% book. By the way, I wasnt even looking... :)

Update: Although he was a really nice guy he was just a little to clingy and so I decided not to see him again. No big deal I am just not ready for what he is looking for. 

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

 

xoxo, Linda

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Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about just really bad online daters. What I am talking about is in my case men that are just plain selfish, immature, lazy, mean and no manners whatsoever. This starts on the first message or phone call. Pretty much you should be able to spot a bad dater right off the bat but there are exceptions. Some guys or girls are just plain professionals and they really can fool you into dating them.
I have found that I tend to meet the guys that are just looking for sex or have too many requirements that I just cannot meet. 
You have to know when to pull the plug and kick them to the curb if they do not treat you with respect.
The big mistake is continuing the roller coaster relationship for reasons other than you're just good together. The other person has to be emotionally ready for a relationship. Stay away from daters with substance abuse problems. If they are in recovery, it is recommended that they be sober for at least a year before you get involved with them. They are just plain not ready for a relationship.
I know from experience how hard it is to stay away and just cut it off but it's better to be alone than to be treated badly. Respect yourself enough to know when to walk away.

My new Book is out enitled "The Top 10 Things People Lie About On Online Dating Sites and Why: You can purchase on this page or click this link for Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/Things-People-About-Online-Dating/dp/1502780372/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1413830377&sr=8-2-fkmr0&keywords=the+tpop+10+things+peope+lie+about+on+online+dating+sites+and+why

 


Xoxo, Linda

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