Hello Followers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the young guys out there seeking Cougars. I am being messaged by this young cub who keeps changing the last digits of his username. Yesterday, it was 'CubSeeksCoug778', and today it is 'CubSeeksCoug779'. I suppose he does this to wipe out the history of the Cougars he's seeking who question him too much?
So yesterday, he sends me a 'Hello'. This is how our conversation went:
Him -'Hello'
Me - 'Hello'
Him -'Happy weekend to you'
Me - 'Same to you. What are you looking for? Sex?
Him - 'Haha.. That's part of it sure... Not necessarily all of it'
Me - 'What else is there? (Remember, I'm trying to find out exactly what this guy wants) his face is not visible in his ONE photo. I'm not at all interested because in his profile he writes that he's 'Attached and not looking to change my situation or answer a bunch of questions about it.' 'Ideally you can accept this and move on' Intrigued? Would love to hear from you. 'I AM HIGHLY SELECTIVE ' he goes on to say he's highly educated and prefers mature women. Hmmm... He also states in the question portion, that he is 'Single'. Let's continue:
Him - 'That's true good point'
Me - I let him stew for about an hour, then I log back in and he sends a ? I suppose he thinks I am going to jump at the chance to meet him because remember, he is HIGHLY SELECTIVE. I suppose, I should be flattered to be selected by an attached young cub who is looking for sex?
Me - 'So, what would you like from me? Advice? (LMAO apparently, he didn't want that yesterday... Lol')
Him -'lol never mind'
Me - 'Oops did I scare you away young attached cub?
Him - 'Not at all :)
Me - 'So tell me what you want?
Him -'Let's chat. Do you have Kik?
Me - 'Kik?
Him -'How about text?
I had no idea what 'Kik' was so I did what every other smart blonde would do, I googled it. Apparently, it is a texting app released 5 years ago. You can send photos, videos, sketches, mobile web pages and 'other content'. It is known for its users anonymity, allowing users to register without providing a telephone number, and preventing users from being located on the service. There are about 240 million registered users and 40% are teenagers. It has been criticized for a number of incidents involving child exploration. Interesting enough on October 1, 2014, Sony Music and Kik were given a Smarties award by the Mobile Marketing Association. (MMA)
Anywho, you should be aware of this app.
If I were in a relationship, dating or married and I saw this app on my partners phone, this would be a huge Red Flag.
So, let's continue talking about this young cub who messaged me again today. In this scenario, I am half way giving him what he wants to read so he isn't giving up. This can be a very scary situation.
Let's talk about the 'Pros and Con's of this conversation and what could potentially happen to me.
Pros -
1. If I wanted a one night stand with this cub, I am sure I can get it at this point if I don't ask any questions about his attachment.
2. ?
Cons -
1. If I fell for this cub's approach and ideas, I could easily catch a VD or worse AIDS because if he does this regularly on this Kik app, there is no way for me to track him down and who knows how many women or men he's been with.
2. Since he's so secretive, he could get me to meet him at a hotel, and rape me or worse, kill me. Maybe he's a serial killer?
3. I could be breaking the 'Girl Code' because I know he's 'attached' already. And a LADY NEVER breaks the Girl Code!
4. He could be a real freak in the bedroom and possibly hold me by gun or knifepoint and take advantage and there would be no way to track him down.
5. If I were to meet up with him and get harmed, it would be my own fault because he spelled it out on his profile and being of sound mind I did it anyway. Not smart.
This cub is on Plenty of Fish. Ladies and Men beware... At this point, I think I am going to play him a little and see if he'll compromise at all on his requirements.
Lesson learned here - Listen and READ what these men and women put on their profile. I had no idea about this Kik app, and now I can warm 1000's of people about it just by writing this blog. This is a very dangerous thing.
If you see this app on anyone's phone, this is not a good sign and I don't care how much you like or love that person, they are into intimate encounters and could be very dangerous.
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Xoxo, Linda