Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my life before I met my now X-Husband. I had a dream job where I was fortunate enough to travel. I LOVED my job. I had been at the same company for 20 years when I met him. I had an abundance of friends and quite the social life. I was active and kept busy most of the time. I liked myself and was not an insecure person. I was a single mother raising my kids and paying my rent. I had a real nice car. Then I met him on Match.com. I picked him out from the selection of matches I was given. He was the most handsome Man I had ever seen. Instant attraction. I was on operation “get this guy mode”.
We started dating and I caught him cheating on me numerous times but finally after 5 years of dating he decided it was time to get married. He was 47 and divorced with no kids. During our courtship and marriage I spent all of my free time with him. I gave up all of my activities, family gatherings and friends just to spend time with him. He never wanted to go out at all I mean he wouldn’t even go out to dinner and so there was no way he would ever couple up with any of my friends besides, I had been telling my friends all about his cheating and no one wanted to be around him. My friends were right but I didn’t care the only thing that mattered was being with him.
He was funny, smart and very good looking. He was fun to be around and he made me laugh. As he was cheating with all the other women and I would catch him, it was the demise of my self-confidence. I started being very insecure about myself and self-conscious. I slowly lost myself and even after all these years I am learning to like myself again.
I guess the point I am trying to make is that you should always stay true to yourself and never lose ties with your family and friends because they are the ones who will be there for you when your life crumbles like mine did. I made a lot of mistakes and I am trying to be a better relative and friend these days. What I am trying to say is he was not worth it! No one that keeps you isolated from your family and friends is worth it. If he/she loves you, they will mold themselves into your life just as much as you do in theirs. Since my divorce I have reconnected with my old friends (who are still married to the same people by the way) and I am learning by seeing and watching them that it is normal for married couples to have friends and couple up and do things. I am the odd man out but I feel fortunate that they let me in their lives again.
I have gained so much more than I ever lost with him.

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Xoxo, Linda