Erik-Consiable Distances


Long distance love? IS there such a thing and can it work? I met a guy on Match.com. He emailed me first and he lived about 150 miles away. He shared a lot of the same values that I did. We talked on the phone and I thought we really had a connection.
His 3 kids lived close to me and he came down every other weekend to visit them he said. I thought GREAT I think this could work knowing that my schedule was very flexible and I could drive to him on his off weekends… As a woman we always think and plan these things out… It in our DNA we can’t help it!
We spoke on the phone every morning and evening and as the time went by he came to visit his kids several times but he NEVER made time to meet me in person. Mind you this guy was GORGEOUS according to his photos. He even took his profile down (or so I thought) later to find out he conveniently put it off and on the entire time we were involved long distance…
I thought it was unusual he wouldn’t take time to meet me so I started being unavailable (According to my favorite book “Why Men Love Bitches” this is supposed to work and it did) and sure enough all of a sudden he wanted to meet me in person. He only had to drive an hour from his house as I was going to meet him half way. He set up the date and we even spoke the day of the meeting in the morning.
I got all gusssied up and he texted me about an HOUR before I was set to leave to meet him and said “we could not meet and he was sorry but we live too far apart”?? HUH?? You come down to see your kids all the frickin time and this is your excuse we live too far away????? After all the talking and sharing photos on the phone for over two months? UGH! I believe I just answered him “UNBELIEVEABLE” and left it at that. My heart was broken for about two months after that… What a waste of time…..
Moral of the story… If the person does not want to meet in person within the first week of talking on the phone RUN before you get too involved and your heart gets broken… And for the ladies read the book “Why Men Love Bitches” it will make you feel empowered and a whole lot better…