Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to tell you about a Plenty of Fish Dating Story. The reason I thought about this is because this Man contacted me again last night. It’s been awhile now, over a year. He messaged me on POF. No picture, but a message saying “I am a famous College Baseball Coach” and if I give you my name you can “Google” me. So, out of curiosity I googled him and sure enough he came up right away. Good looking Italian man. Seemed nice enough and I do have a weakness for athletes. .
We decided to meet after speaking on the phone several times. I am not even sure but it must not be Baseball season right now that’s why he’s back on POF. Anyway, I decide to meet him at the “Border Grill” in Santa Monica, Ca. I get there and he looks just like his picture but maybe a little heavier. That’s ok with me he’s a big guy. He has a table waiting so we go and sit down. He already had a cocktail on the table now this is a LUNCH date, not that it is a bad thing to have a cocktail at lunch but he kept on ordering them. This guy got so DRUNK and then he started telling all of the people around us that I was going to be his next wife! I was so embarrassed I could have just died.
He proceeds to write down his real estate agents name and phone number and “budget” because he wants to buy us a home in my neighborhood because he loves it there. Then he starts to tell me what he wants in the home, 4 bedrooms, an office, a pool etc. Seriously? Do you know how many women would go for that? This was our first date!
Ladies, beware of men like this. If they are famous coaches or athletes or anything else if they drink like a fish on the first date and act like an idiot stay away! Get out as fast as you can.
Footnote:
My BFF googled his name as well and found he had an outstanding restraining order against him by his ex-wife for domestic violence. Thank you God for BFF’s! That one slipped by me. He contacted me last night on POF and wanted me to call him. Of course I didn’t do it and I won’t Money cannot buy happiness I would rather be alone than be with someone like that.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about when you are a having a guy over for dinner. First off, don't go to the grocery store after working all day in a hurry trying to gather all the items to cook for him. Remember, you have worked all day and do not need to stress out about cooking dinner for a newly acquired bachelor. This is what a girlfriend of mine did after I explained to her how to put a pot roast in the crock pot with all the veggies and wallah dinner grandma style. Well she wasn't having any of it she follows the "Why Men Love Bitches" book pretty well. So, instead 15 minutes before she gets off work she calls Claim Jumper and orders a "gluten free rib dinner" off of the menu because the guy is on that meal plan, after all we can try to accommodate their needs right? She stops by Claim Jumper, picks it up, drives home and finds a nice (hardly used) roasting pan and some silverware and plates. She puts the ribs and fixings in the roasting pan in the oven and sets the table quickly with the silverware and paper towels for napkins.
He comes over, and she is in the kitchen with her apron on and pot holders in hand and hugs him and pulls the roasting pan out of the oven.. Shish-boom-bah dinner done. He is so impressed thinking she had time to cook all that and work all day...
That is how the dream girl handles dinner! The all too present "Nice Girl" will get the crock pot out and serve grandma style. Ladies, this is reserved for when you are officially seeing each other and he has earned it.
Don't kill yourself trying to impress a guy, they don't appreciate it. As long as their stomach is full who cares where the food came from?
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Just wanted to write to let you know I am not a doctor. I do not have any degrees. I do not have any certificates in Psychology, Psychotherapy, MFCC or anything related. I do however have a lot of experience to offer you and a lot of advice. Whether you listen or not that's up to you. I have been around the block a few times and I got burned real bad this last time. I also have a lot of great male and female friends that offer great advice as well. Honestly, I don't know what I would do without them in my life.
My goal with my Online Dating Blogs is to take my experiences and share them with others so that in some way, any way I can help someone else avoid what I went through.
I am currently on the market and dating online. I have a lot of stories to tell and everything I write is the truth. No need to sugarcoat anything here you can't make this stuff up.
I would love to hear your dating stories if you are willing to share!
Xoxo! Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. I want to write to you today about my X. I am sitting here reading all the blogs I write about him and I had a blonde moment! Why don't I write about something good that happened when we were together? So, I sit here with my trusty iPad thinking and thinking and then I start thinking "what should I have for dinner and I really need to get my nails done and I think I'll go to the gym later and then oh yeah, I'm supposed to be thinking of something good to write about my X...hmmmm. I think I'll have BBQ chicken and stir fry veggies and I'll get my nails done Friday and yes, I'll go to the gym later.
Have a nice day!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about what the guys tell me on the phone, online, or in person on dates in the Online Dating Arena about the "women". First off, let me tell you I started getting annoyed when these guys were always requesting more pictures? I already post the maximum allowed. Another thing, they request is a full length picture so they can see your whole body. Another annoying request is when they ask you to text them a picture "right now as you are". Seriously this was really getting to me until I started listening to their stories. Horror Stories. They speak of meeting women who post beautiful pictures and sound really cool on the phone which I am sure they are super cool people however; when they meet in person, the poor guy doesn't even recognize the woman! C'mon ladies! This is really sad and makes it really hard for women like me because we don't want to have to send extra pictures but you can hardly blame the guys right?
Ladies, please be secure with yourselves. Whatever you look like, you are enough! You are beautiful! You have to believe in yourself or nobody else will and when you meet the guy in person why embarrass yourself like that?? Why would you do that? If you are overweight so what? There are many men out there who don't care trust me. You want a person similar to yourself not someone total opposite lets get honest here!
Please post RECENT photos! I can't stress this enough, you're not fooling anyone at all you're just pissing the guys off and wasting their time and yours. Life is too short.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about what NOT to do on a first phone call or first date. The most important thing is when asked about your past relationship or marriage is not to tell them anything more than " we wanted different things". I find this to be the most effective. If the date wants further detail you can mention a few minor things like mine would be " he didn't want to ever go out" and I wanted more of a social life. There is no need to give them all your dirty laundry on the first few dates. What if you did and then you never see them again? It's really none of their business remember this is a total stranger and you just don't give your life story to a total stranger. Then on the other hand, if they start to tell you theirs, you can politely look at your watch and change the subject. The first date or first few dates are about having fun and getting to know each other that doesn't mean you reveal your life story.
Keep it simple and fun. The reason you date someone is to see if they are a good person or not. Trust me, after a few dates you will know it. They will show their true colors soon enough so better to maintain your privacy until trust is earned.

Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the Online Daters who you never meet yet they want to text you and email you all the time. What’s the point dude? If you can’t meet with me within the first week of communication and I mean after we have talked on the phone, then I am wasting my time and you are wasting yours. I admit there have been occasions where I have been traveling and unavailable to meet anyone and I think in that case I should have hidden my profile I mean if you are not available then why are you on there?
If we could just weed out the people who are not serious this whole Online Dating would be a lot easier.
If you are not available to meet soon after talking on the phone then you should hide your profile until you are available. That’s why they have the option “Hide Your Profile” on the sites.
Stop with the Pen Pal status and get serious or get off the sites. If you are looking for other things they have sites for that but the dating sites are for DATING!
I also want to point out that if you message the same person several times and they do not get back to you, there is a reason. They don’t want to hurt your feelings but they are not interested. Move on to the next profile and stop wasting your time. And don’t send a hate message if they don’t answer you back! If you do then you are a crazy person with a personality disorder. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you so get over it! That’s why there are millions of profiles on there to choose from.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about how women change for men. We, and I am saying WE because I am guilty of this myself, find a guy that we are so attracted to that we are willing to give up our entire life for them in order to mold into theirs. This is a mistake and the minute you start to make changes, stop seeing friends, family, stop working out, stop traveling with the girls, stop socializing with friends just to accommodate him and to spend time with him and he notices it, he will lose interest in a New York Minute. Trust me on this one ladies. The minute you become too available then you are not a challenge to him any longer and he loses interest.
As a woman you must continue with your career, family, friends and taking care of yourself and your needs first and then he can come later down the list. The more you keep to your own life the more the man will want you. “If you chase a Man in a Black Nightie, first he will have sex with you… and then he will run” At this point when you start changing your life for him he does not think you put a high value on yourself and he loses respect.
I quit my dream job to be at home with my x-husband. I needed to be with him all the time #1 because I didn’t trust him at all and #2 because I was so insecure with myself even though I didn’t need to be. But I changed my whole life for him. I moved to his city, started banking at his bank, started driving one of his cars, changed my last name and stopped socializing with family and friends. I became his little trophy wife where all I did all day was cook and clean for him. I made all his meals and laid his clothes out for him. Looking back I was so stupid I cannot even believe I did all of that. Especially the part about quitting my dream job.
I learned a lot of hard lessons these last few years and my x ended up doing a lot of terrible things to me that I had no idea he was capable of. I ignored all of the warning signs like an idiot and that is why I created this site to inform other people of what to look out for in their relationships. BTW, I met him on Match.com and I contacted him first because I liked the way he looked but looks can be deceiving as I later learned.
Lesson learned:
1. Don’t kill yourself to impress anyone.
2. Don’t give up your friends and family for any Man.
3. Looks can be deceiving.
4. Listen to your BFF! She/he has your best interest at heart and my biggest mistake was not listening to my BFF. She was always right!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the guy on the Dating Site that lures you into giving him your phone number so he can "text you". He pretends to be real nice so you will give him you digits and then when you do you get a DICK PIC! WTF? Do they honestly believe this is going to turn a girl on? Well some of the women I have dealt with in my life this would probably turn them on because they are desperate and lonely but I and my girlfriends are not that way in fact this is a total turn off! I can't tell you how many blocked numbers I have on my phone!
I wonder if these guys are that delusional or are just out trying to get laid? I suppose other women by going for it make it harder on the respectable girls like myself in the Online Dating world.
Guys, don't send a Dick Pic unless we ask for it OK?
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my FREE Search Site for Online Dating. You can Check Your Date before you go out for FREE or Add a Free listing about your date for the next person. Report someone dangerous so that the next person can find out before they go. I have often heard Online Daters say to me "I wish there was a website where I could go and look a person up before I go out" well, I have created one and it's FREE. You can search by Username and Dating Site.

You can check on the "HOME" page for this information.

Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

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xoxo, Linda