Did he really just do that?”


After date 3 he calls the next day. Mind you, every time he wants to get together I have to work all day and at the time I was working early shifts 5am-2pm. I would go home, take a nap, tend to the teenagers and then take a shower and get ready hair and makeup to go out. It’s a process that I am not sure men really understand how long it takes to get ready for a date. It’s a pain in the A$$ really it is. It takes a lot of time and energy for us ladies!
Anyway, he wants to get together again the next evening and meet at the Hotel again by his house and he wants to know if I am free on Saturday night and if he can have me the entire evening…. Well, I don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out exactly what he wants. So, I say “Yes” of course I wanted to be with this guy as much as possible so I was very excited.
I agreed to see him the next evening I believe it was a Thursday and I drove to the Hotel by his house again and met him there. I know what you’re thinking by this time why haven’t I been invited to his apartment?? I was thinking the same thing and my BFF was questioning my decisions and I was listening to her but was going to do what I wanted anyway. BIG MISTAKE!
We had a drink and then he tells me he made reservations at a Hotel for Saturday night for our all night date but he wouldn’t tell me where it was a surprise… I have to tell you this guy was so charming and handsome he had me right where he wanted me I was so stupid and naïve. I never even questioned what he was doing on the nights I didn’t see him I mean why even ask? After all, he said we were dating exclusively and so that was that I took him for his word.
So, he walks me to my car and we drive down the same street on our way home. He motions to me to unroll my window and so I do and he throws his driver’s license into my car! What the??? I can’t believe he just did that he must REALLY trust me I thought.
Meanwhile my BFF was at home and by the way was a happily married woman who I worked with and she always had my back… My BFF was doing some checking on Match.com and even though I had hidden my profile because I was dating exclusively he was still on there? And active within 24 hours it said… Interesting I thought I have to find out about this but not until after my weekend date.
Lesson learned:
1. If you are too tired and worn out to go on a date don’t do it. Go out when it is convenient for you. Actually the guy will respect you more because he sees you value yourself and you will become more of a challenge to him.
2. If you drop a dead deer on the guy’s doorstep he won’t want it because it takes all the fun out of the hunt.
3. Really get to know someone a lot better before you decide to get intimate. Emotions take over and you lose all sense of common sense.
4. Listen to your BFF!
5. If a guy says you are exclusive and he is still showing active on a dating site, something is wrong... Really wrong…
6. If it doesn’t make sense it’s because it’s not right or it’s not true.