Not Joe-Exciting


I met him on POF. Chatted online a few times back and forth. He asked for a meeting and I agreed. He actually suggested we go to a place he is familiar with which is about 25 miles from my house that I am not familiar with? What ever happened to chivalry? Shouldn’t the guy come to me is what I thought so my inner gut feeling came out and I suggested a nice place 5 minutes from my house with an ocean view of the Marina. He then replied back with a “let’s keep it casual”… So, I replied back it is super casual you will like it and then he agreed although I believe it was reluctant I mean of course he is going to want to go somewhere close to his house where he is comfortable… duh! Honestly I believe now looking back that the place I picked was too fancy and he thought it would cost a fortune for a cocktail. I even ate dinner before I left so I was not even expecting appetizers… I just had a feeling about him and it wasn’t good.
Honestly, this guy really didn’t excite me so if he had refused to come to me I simply would have just passed on the whole thing. My gut instinct was telling me to cancel all day but I didn’t want to be rude and I knew he was looking forward to it so I went ahead and got ready.
He text me 5 minutes before I was supposed to be there said he went into the place and it was too crowded no seats which I find that hard to believe the bar is huge and so what if you have to stand for a few minutes until a seat becomes available. This puts pressure on me because now I have to think of a plan B. I asked him to meet me in front of the bar and he did and he greeted me with a handshake which is so NOT THE NORM these days everyone hugs right?
He actually looked exactly like his photos but he gave me a weak handshake which is not a good sign. So, here I am wanting to go into the place I picked but he obviously didn’t want to so I decided right then and there that there really was not a spark of interest on my part so I suggested Claim Jumper a family restaurant across the street from where we were. He agreed and I proceeded to tell him he is more than welcome to follow me in his car and he insisted he could find it. I drove to the place and waited out front about 15 minutes which it took me about 3 minutes to drive, park and walk to the front so I KNOW he got lost… so finally he comes walking up and it was busy too but that’s Claim Jumper and it was Friday night so I assured him there would be seats in the bar and of course there was so we sat down.
I knew I would need a strong drink to sit there with mister exciting so I ordered a Long Island Iced Tea and he had to say a remark about it and how strong it was. Now, why does he have to say anything at all? I mean he ordered a Corona and I never said a word about it. It is just irritating I am an adult and over 21 and can drink what I want and I don’t need any flack about it from anyone.
We made small talk and he acted cool as a cucumber I mean I believe if the restaurant caught fire while we were there it still wouldn’t get a rise out of him. I can only imagine being married to a guy like that my life would be so boring. (Been there done that not going through that again) I need a guy that actually breathes and challenges me not just sits there with no expression at all. After he finished his beer (even before I finished my drink) he says Ok thanks for coming out and it was nice to meet you. HUH? It was a whole 30 minutes and I hadn’t even finished my drink yet…. Whatever I got up from my seat so fast I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. I kind of think he was a cheap ass and just didn’t want to pay for another drink.
He walked me to my car and I leaned in and gave him a hug goodbye out of the kindness of my heart. We said goodbye and that was that.
Lesson learned
1. Always meet close to your own house where YOU are comfortable because it is the right thing to do for the man to come to you.
2. Go with your “gut” feeling and listen to it if it is telling you that something isn’t right then something isn’t right save your precious time spending an hour to get ready when your instinct is telling you not to go.
3. Worst case if things don’t go well, always have a place to go after your date because after all at this point you are all dressed up with nowhere to go so may as well meet with friends then you won’t feel like you wasted your night.
Another date tonight with a cowboy now I believe that is going to be a lot more exciting but we’ll see. To be continued…..