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xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. "Why Men Love Bitches"is a book that is a MUST Read. Go get this book you can order it on Amazon.com. This book literally changed my dating life and I went from a "doormat to a dream girl" after reading and following the book! Sherry Argov who authored the book is pure genius! Don't be fooled by the title. It's not teaching you how to be bitchy it's teaching you how to respect yourself and your time. Once you do that, you will find the men will respect you and not take you for granted. I cannot recommend this book enough. Please go out and get this book and buy one for your BFF!
Let me know how you like it. I guarantee you won't be able to stop reading it.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers. Linda here. Today I want to tell you about how stupid a Man can be. By the way I am not at all discounting the fact OF HOW STUPID I WAS TO STAY INVOLVED WITH THIS GUY but I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason.
It was a lovely morning, I was just waking up and he had already left for work. Things were great I was a happy, content, excited about the future kind of girl. I was just lying in his bed reminiscing about how happy and in LOVE I was and how much our relationship had evolved and how nice it was that he trusted me to be in his apartment alone and thought well, I wonder what’s on the news? I got up, grabbed the remote control to the TV in his room, and pushed the power button. WTF! What came on the TV was NOT what I was expecting! All of a sudden I saw HIM and the Other Woman in a SEX TAPE! I about fainted. I mean my whole world collapsed in that one moment in time. How disgusting she was I thought. And what a total JERK he IS.
And then, to make things even worse it wouldn’t turn OFF! I couldn’t get the dam thing off! I finally just got dressed and got my things and left him a nasty note and left the tape on.
Lessons learned:
1. Once a Cheater always a Cheater Applies.
2. What you see is what you get.
3. Looks are deceiving.
4. Listen to your BFF!
5. Once a Man gets caught cheating, Run for the hills and never look back.
6. Be careful of a Man that has a lot of female “Friends”.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello readers, Linda here. Let's talk about running into the "other woman" when you're out in public. This happened to me when I was with my x. By this time in our dating relationship it had become open dialogue because I have already caught him cheating and took him back like a dumbass. He would tell me when she contacted him so I knew about her or so I thought. I really believed him. He said he loved me and being with her was just like playing tennis, you just play tennis then stop playing tennis, no big deal. That's how he explained it to me and I bought it. I was so stupid.
Anyway, we went to get our Italian take out and we walked into the restaurant and ordered at the counter. We then went to the waiting room where it was packed so we sat in the last two seats available. I looked briefly at the couple in front of us and thought to myself, wow, that woman looks like a witch! Honestly I did! She had jet black died hair with a receding hairline and she weighed about 280. My x quickly whispered in my ear and said "that's XXXXX"! I said out loud "WHAT? Are you serious? And then he grabbed my arm and made me stand up and wait by the front door. The entire time she was giving him the dirtiest look like she was surprised to see me! By the way, ladies, always make sure you look your best in case this ever happens. Lol I looked fabulous that night!
The entire night I was in shock. Seriously he would ditch me for that thing? Come to find out most men don't care as long as they get good sex and their needs met they will take whatever is available so don't doubt yourself. It's his problem not yours. This was the start to my demise of my self confidence. I never thought I could measure up to be the perfect girl for him.
Lessons learned:
1. Listen to your BFF.f!
2. When a man cheats, run as fast as you can to get away!
3. What you see is what you get, they rarely change.
4. Looks are deceiving.
5. You are Fabulous and deserve the best!

Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. This morning around 3am I was woken up to my phone going off notifying me that I have a message on POF. I am always interested to see who is up in the middle of the night stalking the Online Dating Sites so I go ahead and check it out. Well, let me tell you this... it was a “HATE MAIL”! Yep, just like I wrote about the other day. (See Hate Male and Online Dating). Anyway, of course it was a man (and I say this only because I am being polite) and he says some smart ass remark about my place of residence? HUH? WTF? Seriously? This guy KNOWS he has ZERO chance of going out with me at all so he chooses to harass me instead. He claims to be a world traveler as he explains in his bio how he traveled all over the world yada, yada, yada….. And how is an Attorney but is also a musician… Mind you he claims to be 5’8 which really means he is 5’5 most likely. There was a picture of him on his Harley and it was twice the size of him… just sayin…
Further on in his profile he went on to say that if your second toe was longer than your big toe, then he was not interested? FOOT FETISH!!!... Then he said one of his favorite things was pink or blue nail polish on your toes… OK, I have seen enough. I had to respond back and I told him he obviously had short man syndrome and a fetish and he is on the wrong dating site. The funniest part was he replied back and told me to continue “Tweaking” and that I do not look the age I have listed on my profile… LMAO… I am only up because my phone woke me up because of his dumb ass and to think I could have been dreaming about Eric Church or Tim McGraw or someone like that!
Lesson learned:
1. Do not interrupt your precious sleep for anyone unless it is an emergency.
2. Guys that are stalking the Online Dating Sites in the middle of the night are mostly Creepers!
3. Watch out for Attorney’s, this is the second one I have come across that had a fetish. (See Not the Norm)
4. Warn other people by listing them on Lindasdatelist.com!
Xoxo, Linda

The Other, Other Woman


Hello Readers, Linda here. Today let’s talk about the “Other, Other Woman”. There is simply too much to write about in one blog so this will be one of many. Let’s start from the beginning. I first found out about this woman after my x and I have been dating about 4 months. How I found about her is I thought my x was acting weird I mean he didn’t make any plans with me all weekend so I stumbled across an email from his account and I found all these emails from her. She was there on that Saturday when he blew me off. She came over in the afternoon for some afternoon delight. When I was reading the emails my stomach was in knots and I was ready to throw up I had no idea he was seeing anyone else! In my mind I pictured this beautiful woman who was much more attractive than myself I mean she had to be right? Why else would he blow me off to see her?
Anyway, it was about 6pm on that Saturday night that I read the emails. Immediately I called my BFF and she read them too. I decided to go over there and confront him. I drove over to his place and called him from outside and said I really needed to see him and it was an emergency. He reluctantly let me in. I immediately asked him who this woman was and he looked completely shocked! He said she was just a friend which was a total lie. I was crying and I was really so upset I could not contain myself he finally asked me to leave so I did and my heart was pounding so hard it was incredible I have never felt like that I my entire life!
Meanwhile, my BFF was gathering all the other women’s email accounts so that we could let them know what he was doing to all of us. See “Global Email to All the Women” in Linda’s blogs…
The next day I emailed the woman. She told me the whole story, she was there that day and she saw him several days a week for sex. But, it was purely selfish on his part and she didn’t care she was in love with him. She was not surprised to hear about me. We exchanged pictures and boy was I wrong. She was so unattractive and overweight… I was shocked and she was older than him. When she saw my picture she got nervous and turned against me and turned back to his side... She said I was the trophy girlfriend. She was right. Turns out this woman was a thorn in my side our entire relationship. She would not go away and again, I am not blaming her all the way I am blaming him. Turns out she was involved in swingers clubs and all sorts of weird sex things. Exactly what any perverted man would like. He is a con man who uses women for his own pleasure and doesn’t care who he hurts.
Lessons learned:
1. Listen to your BFF.
2. Looks are deceiving.
3. Once a cheater always a cheater.
4. Men Love Sex and don’t really care how someone looks.

Shers Her Man..

Hello Readers, Linda here… Let’s talk about “The Other Woman”. I personally have never been “The Other Woman” but my x-husband had a few. The one that I am talking about today was a real piece of work. 15 years older than myself, never married, still lived at home with her parents. Yes, I know it is hard to believe but it’s a true story.
She knew him before I even met him. She called him her boyfriend even though he never thought of her that way and only used her for sex. I know you are wondering how I know all this but I got it from my x-husband and he let me read all of her emails to him at one point. Can you believe feeling so little about yourself that you would accept a Man who just uses you and never EVER took you out on a date? EVER! We are talking 15 years of knowing each other.
She found out all about me. She didn’t care. She just wanted whatever she could get from him. Thinking about this now and reminiscing it all just makes me want to puke.
She was not attractive at all but she had a nice body. She was a nurse for years but she ended up getting fired for sending prescription drugs to my x-husband illegally. They fired her ass and the funniest thing is that my x-husband is the one who got her fired and he didn’t even mean to do it. He sent the drugs back to the address because he thought some company was sending them to him and he was going to get charged. LMFAO!
I talked to her several times on the phone asking her to quit calling my husband but she flat out refused. On his birthday I used to take his phone and put it by my side of the bed and first thing in the morning she would call. Now, I am not putting all the blame on her, this is ultimately my ex-husband’s fault. He is a con man who uses woman for his own pleasure and doesn’t care who gets hurt. He is not the Man everything thinks he is!
Anyway, I am sure to this day they are still “connected”… He uses her and she accepts it.
What are your thoughts on ‘The Other Woman’?

Xoxo, Linda

Hate mail
Hello readers Linda here. Let's talk about people who send hate.mail when you don't respond to them on online dating sites. First off we have a good reason why, it's usually because we see something in their profile that we don't like. It could be many things like age, looks, distance or something else.
I get a lot of hate mail. Most guys that say something negative about the way I look or something I wrote on my bio. It all stems from just not responding to them. Sometimes I get emails telling me something negative about my pictures.
I have put some things on my profile bio to weed out the guys that I would not be interested in at all.
Like I put my political party on there and when I do that I really get some bad hate mail.
Why can't people just move to the next profile if they see something they don't like? I mean why make time to email me when I am truly not interested?
Do you think some people are just on the site all day? I do. I dated a guy who is constantly on there even when we were dating.
I truly think to some people it is just an ego thing.
Do you ever log on and see the same people "online now"? What has your experience been with hate mail?
Please write to me and left me know or leave your comments below.

Xoxo, Linda

Linda’s opinion on Online Dating Today


To all of the Online daters out there. Good for you for all of your effort in truly finding someone to love. It’s all about Love we all know it, yet not all of us will admit it. Some say they are just “Dating but not serious” I don’t believe that. I think that is just not true. I believe those daters are truly putting walls up and not being honest with what they really want.
Here’s the deal, if you are looking for a hook-up, there are sites that cater to that. If you are looking for love then there are sites that cater to that too. My problem is too many people are on the wrong sites because they are looking for different things. For example, POF Is FREE so most people will go to that site looking for everything. You never know what you will get on POF. Match.com is a service site where you will have to pay. I think the people on Match.com are a little more serious about finding love. I however found my x-husband on Match.com and we all know how that ended (See About on Lindasdatelist.com).
Lindasdatelist.com is a FREE Online Review Site where you can look up your date before you go out. You can do a search by their Username and what will come up is anything anyone else has written about them. If there is someone dangerous, you can see that in the review and then make tour decision whether or not you want to go out with the person. This is a FREE site, please take advantage of it I just want everyone to be safe out there.
On Lindasdatelist.com you can write a review about your date as well. This is a very smart thing to do in order to protect other people. Things that you would report on Lindasdatelist.com:
1. Dangerous people, restraining orders, domestic violence, battery.
2. People that are fraudulent, don’t look like their pictures.
3. People lying about their age, height, weight or race.
4. Married people who shouldn’t be on the site.
There are many more things you could report and these are the good things.
1. Very polite person just no chemistry.
2. Great personality and a great catch for the right person.
Please visit Lindasdatelist.com and tell your friends that are dating online about this site.
ATTENTION Bloggers:
If you have an online dating story that you would like to submit, I will post it for you on this site.
Xoxo, Linda

My Story – Inspiration






I dedicate this site to my ex-husband whom if it were not for him and my really bad experience I would not have felt inspired to build this site to help other "online dating" people looking for love.

I met my now ex husband on Match.com. I found out later after dating him for months that he was on multiple dating sites and dating a lot of other women at the same time we were supposed to be monogamous.

If there was a site like this I would have used it to check out his history before I started dating him. After being "stupid" and "naïve" and catching him numerous times cheating on me, I still managed to marry him five years later. After being married for almost five years we separated. After being separated for just one day, I found out he had been transferring monies from our joint checking and savings accounts into his personal business account without my knowledge and deceived me. It wasn't that soon after I discovered he inquired with an old girlfriend to put a 'hit' on my daughter and I. I reported him to the police department and after a lengthy investigation, the DA decided there was not enough evidence to prosecute him. Still to this day, I see him on Match.com and it scares me to death what he is capable of doing to other women. After being left penniless and sitting in my apartment day after day I started to reflect on my life with him and I decided to build this site in order to educate people in the online dating site world.

Please be careful there are millions of people out there on dating sites and we need to inform one another about our experiences good or bad.

Thank you and please send me feedback on the use of this site in your dating world.

Good luck!

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