Hello Readers, Linda here. I am just curious what exactly are you looking for when you are Online Dating? The fact is you just can't meet anyone in the grocery store anymore unless you work there. If you meet someone at work it is very rare that it will ever work out without causing problems right? I do have a close friend whom it did work out when she met him at work and us very happy and going strong. If you meet someone in a bar chances are it will be for a hook up or you will not meet the most desirable person there. That just leaves a few places left to meet someone, family, friends or Online.
My advice would be if you are dating online, be very careful and look for Red Flags early on. Some of them that I can think of are:
1. Drinks too much or does drugs.
2. Never available.
3. Takes too long to call you or text you back.
4. Asks for x-rated pictures before he/she will go out with you. I once had a guy tell me be would not go out with any girl until she sends him a picture either in a bikini or lingerie. When I told him that wasn't going to happen, he hung up on me. That's fine he did me a favor!
5. He refuses to take you on a proper date or won't pay for it if he does.
6. If he gets too clingy in the beginning and becomes stalker-like.

There are many mire and I will write about them later but I think you get where I am going with this. Lindasdatelist.com is a forum I provide for Free where you can look up your date by their Username to see what anyone else has written about them. A good example would be if 3 guys wrote about a girl and they all said she got wasted drunk on the date, then you might want to re-think going out with her.
You can also write a review yourself about your date and this can all be done anonymously. We can all help each other and weed out all if the dangerous and creepers!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my x and the other women. During our relationship at his apartment various items would just “show up” at Christmas time and his Birthday and Valentine’s Day. Some of the items I can think of were Ralph Lauren body wash, Scented Candles, Sex Lotions, Cologne, pictures for the walls, desk calendars, expensive body lotions, different articles of clothing and many more. In the beginning I always thought this was odd and when I asked him he would always say it was a present from his mother which I found out was a total lie. One time I saw a brand new desk calendar and as I was snooping through it, it was marked off one of the other women’s birthdays and valentines days etc. I about hit the ceiling! He quickly disposed of the calendar when I pointed it out. Why I didn’t leave then and there I will never know. I was such a DumbAss that’s all I can say. I really thought he would change. Looking back in retrospect I was so stupid obviously he had to meet with her in order for her to give that to him DUH! Like throwing it away was going to make everything OK… Ladies, please do not be as stupid as I was… I hope you are reading this and learning from it that is the whole reason for my website is to hopefully help other people and this goes both ways I know that the men are victims too!
He was a taker. He was a bad boy, a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Even to this day everyone that knows him thinks he is an outstanding guy. I know the real truth. This man wanted my daughter and myself dead and even inquired with one of the Other Women (See ShersHerMan in Linda’s blogs) about getting someone to take us out after we were separated. This website and all these stories are/is no joke. This is a very serious thing that happened to me and I want to tell my story so that it may help someone else. He may be one man but there are many more of him out there and my stories are classic signs of Red Flags you should look out for.
I hope you will stay tuned there is so much more to tell.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about a sensitive topic “One Uppers”. One Uppers are people who always have a better story than you do and interrupt you every time you are telling a story of your own. This can happen in a group setting or one on one. Let me tell you, I am guilty of this myself. I have to stop myself when people are talking to me and really LISTEN to them and not “ONE UP” their story. I find this to be very hard but with practice it can be done. I am getting better at it every day. I know this is not intentional on anyone’s part because we only want to emotionally relate to the person we are speaking to and unless someone tells you that you are “One-Upping” then you probably don’t even realize you are doing it.
It is very annoying for the person trying to tell the story because they keep getting interrupted by the “One Upper’. Pretty soon the person doesn’t even want to finish their story because the “One Upper” will always have a better one. If you are a “One Upper” and didn’t realize it until now here is some advice.
1. Listen to people when they talk to you, it is always better to be a good listener than to have a better story.
2. Just listen to people without telling your story. Let them feel like they are the most important part of your conversation. This will help you win friends and influence people.
3. If you are a “One Upper” practice these tips with a close friend and tell them what you are doing to get their feedback. Trust me, they will be more than happy to help you.
You will notice after practicing these tips people will want to me more engaged with you in conversation and won’t want to run off quickly to avoid you. Yes, I know this is hard to hear but I find myself wanting to avoid One Uppers all the time.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about guys/boys/men who are Hot and then Cold. This is not a story about me but about someone close to me. She met him on POF. He pursued her to the point of almost stalking. Is he attractive? Um, yes. She on the other hand is absolutely stunning. She finally agreed to go to dinner with him. Guys, women do like a guy that is persistent. We get hooked and then you drop the ball on us. Why do you do that? 99% of the time is it directly after you are intimate with us and you get what you want. I don’t mean to rag on the dudes but this is a proven fact. Ladies, please read the book “Why Men Love Bitches” this will help you so much I cannot stress this enough.
So he comes and takes her to a 5-star restaurant for dinner. The guy does very well for himself, has several companies and is fairly young. She is very excited about the possibilities. Ladies, this is where we go wrong. We need to not get too excited because this is the whole reason why you date someone is to get to know them they will show their true colors in a short time. He did.
He was the Prince Charming of course. Problem is he made a lot of plans then bailed at the last minute, we are not sure (but pretty sure) if he had a girlfriend or not. He was not available all the time and kept changing plans. Problem is when he would f(*& up he would make up for it in big ways by expensive dinners, cash or whatever would work for him. I guess the company of a beautiful woman is important for the ego. Let’s face it everyone wants to be seen with someone attractive. I soon nicknamed him “Peter Pan’. He is the bachelor who is always taking “guy trips”, “isn’t ready to settle down in his mid-30’s” and leads with his money. I can see from an outsider all of the Red Flags. Of course, I have been through it before. (See “NotTheNorm” in Linda’s blogs).
She is the kind of girl that will only take so much so she told him to “F^%$ OFF! She didn’t hear from him for weeks until he needed a date. Now he is back to Prince Charming. Problem is he has no idea that he is not only dealing with her but her and all her friends too! Guys, women work in packs... We help each other, are there for each other, comfort each other and stand behind each other. Men are too stupid to figure that out. In the end, he will be the one who misses out on a great catch because there are many men just waiting in line to take her out and I just know we will ALL help her choose wisely.

Red Flags:
1. When a guy leads with his money he is hiding something.
2. If a guy has money and is a cheap ass, he won’t ever change after you marry him.
3. What you see is what you get. If he is flaky in the beginning, he will always be flaky no matter how big his wallet is.
4. You deserve the best, do not ever settle!
5. Do not ever be someone’s Plan B.
Xoxo, Linda

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xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. "Why Men Love Bitches"is a book that is a MUST Read. Go get this book you can order it on Amazon.com. This book literally changed my dating life and I went from a "doormat to a dream girl" after reading and following the book! Sherry Argov who authored the book is pure genius! Don't be fooled by the title. It's not teaching you how to be bitchy it's teaching you how to respect yourself and your time. Once you do that, you will find the men will respect you and not take you for granted. I cannot recommend this book enough. Please go out and get this book and buy one for your BFF!
Let me know how you like it. I guarantee you won't be able to stop reading it.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers. Linda here. Today I want to tell you about how stupid a Man can be. By the way I am not at all discounting the fact OF HOW STUPID I WAS TO STAY INVOLVED WITH THIS GUY but I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason.
It was a lovely morning, I was just waking up and he had already left for work. Things were great I was a happy, content, excited about the future kind of girl. I was just lying in his bed reminiscing about how happy and in LOVE I was and how much our relationship had evolved and how nice it was that he trusted me to be in his apartment alone and thought well, I wonder what’s on the news? I got up, grabbed the remote control to the TV in his room, and pushed the power button. WTF! What came on the TV was NOT what I was expecting! All of a sudden I saw HIM and the Other Woman in a SEX TAPE! I about fainted. I mean my whole world collapsed in that one moment in time. How disgusting she was I thought. And what a total JERK he IS.
And then, to make things even worse it wouldn’t turn OFF! I couldn’t get the dam thing off! I finally just got dressed and got my things and left him a nasty note and left the tape on.
Lessons learned:
1. Once a Cheater always a Cheater Applies.
2. What you see is what you get.
3. Looks are deceiving.
4. Listen to your BFF!
5. Once a Man gets caught cheating, Run for the hills and never look back.
6. Be careful of a Man that has a lot of female “Friends”.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello readers, Linda here. Let's talk about running into the "other woman" when you're out in public. This happened to me when I was with my x. By this time in our dating relationship it had become open dialogue because I have already caught him cheating and took him back like a dumbass. He would tell me when she contacted him so I knew about her or so I thought. I really believed him. He said he loved me and being with her was just like playing tennis, you just play tennis then stop playing tennis, no big deal. That's how he explained it to me and I bought it. I was so stupid.
Anyway, we went to get our Italian take out and we walked into the restaurant and ordered at the counter. We then went to the waiting room where it was packed so we sat in the last two seats available. I looked briefly at the couple in front of us and thought to myself, wow, that woman looks like a witch! Honestly I did! She had jet black died hair with a receding hairline and she weighed about 280. My x quickly whispered in my ear and said "that's XXXXX"! I said out loud "WHAT? Are you serious? And then he grabbed my arm and made me stand up and wait by the front door. The entire time she was giving him the dirtiest look like she was surprised to see me! By the way, ladies, always make sure you look your best in case this ever happens. Lol I looked fabulous that night!
The entire night I was in shock. Seriously he would ditch me for that thing? Come to find out most men don't care as long as they get good sex and their needs met they will take whatever is available so don't doubt yourself. It's his problem not yours. This was the start to my demise of my self confidence. I never thought I could measure up to be the perfect girl for him.
Lessons learned:
1. Listen to your BFF.f!
2. When a man cheats, run as fast as you can to get away!
3. What you see is what you get, they rarely change.
4. Looks are deceiving.
5. You are Fabulous and deserve the best!

Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. This morning around 3am I was woken up to my phone going off notifying me that I have a message on POF. I am always interested to see who is up in the middle of the night stalking the Online Dating Sites so I go ahead and check it out. Well, let me tell you this... it was a “HATE MAIL”! Yep, just like I wrote about the other day. (See Hate Male and Online Dating). Anyway, of course it was a man (and I say this only because I am being polite) and he says some smart ass remark about my place of residence? HUH? WTF? Seriously? This guy KNOWS he has ZERO chance of going out with me at all so he chooses to harass me instead. He claims to be a world traveler as he explains in his bio how he traveled all over the world yada, yada, yada….. And how is an Attorney but is also a musician… Mind you he claims to be 5’8 which really means he is 5’5 most likely. There was a picture of him on his Harley and it was twice the size of him… just sayin…
Further on in his profile he went on to say that if your second toe was longer than your big toe, then he was not interested? FOOT FETISH!!!... Then he said one of his favorite things was pink or blue nail polish on your toes… OK, I have seen enough. I had to respond back and I told him he obviously had short man syndrome and a fetish and he is on the wrong dating site. The funniest part was he replied back and told me to continue “Tweaking” and that I do not look the age I have listed on my profile… LMAO… I am only up because my phone woke me up because of his dumb ass and to think I could have been dreaming about Eric Church or Tim McGraw or someone like that!
Lesson learned:
1. Do not interrupt your precious sleep for anyone unless it is an emergency.
2. Guys that are stalking the Online Dating Sites in the middle of the night are mostly Creepers!
3. Watch out for Attorney’s, this is the second one I have come across that had a fetish. (See Not the Norm)
4. Warn other people by listing them on Lindasdatelist.com!
Xoxo, Linda

The Other, Other Woman


Hello Readers, Linda here. Today let’s talk about the “Other, Other Woman”. There is simply too much to write about in one blog so this will be one of many. Let’s start from the beginning. I first found out about this woman after my x and I have been dating about 4 months. How I found about her is I thought my x was acting weird I mean he didn’t make any plans with me all weekend so I stumbled across an email from his account and I found all these emails from her. She was there on that Saturday when he blew me off. She came over in the afternoon for some afternoon delight. When I was reading the emails my stomach was in knots and I was ready to throw up I had no idea he was seeing anyone else! In my mind I pictured this beautiful woman who was much more attractive than myself I mean she had to be right? Why else would he blow me off to see her?
Anyway, it was about 6pm on that Saturday night that I read the emails. Immediately I called my BFF and she read them too. I decided to go over there and confront him. I drove over to his place and called him from outside and said I really needed to see him and it was an emergency. He reluctantly let me in. I immediately asked him who this woman was and he looked completely shocked! He said she was just a friend which was a total lie. I was crying and I was really so upset I could not contain myself he finally asked me to leave so I did and my heart was pounding so hard it was incredible I have never felt like that I my entire life!
Meanwhile, my BFF was gathering all the other women’s email accounts so that we could let them know what he was doing to all of us. See “Global Email to All the Women” in Linda’s blogs…
The next day I emailed the woman. She told me the whole story, she was there that day and she saw him several days a week for sex. But, it was purely selfish on his part and she didn’t care she was in love with him. She was not surprised to hear about me. We exchanged pictures and boy was I wrong. She was so unattractive and overweight… I was shocked and she was older than him. When she saw my picture she got nervous and turned against me and turned back to his side... She said I was the trophy girlfriend. She was right. Turns out this woman was a thorn in my side our entire relationship. She would not go away and again, I am not blaming her all the way I am blaming him. Turns out she was involved in swingers clubs and all sorts of weird sex things. Exactly what any perverted man would like. He is a con man who uses women for his own pleasure and doesn’t care who he hurts.
Lessons learned:
1. Listen to your BFF.
2. Looks are deceiving.
3. Once a cheater always a cheater.
4. Men Love Sex and don’t really care how someone looks.