Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the Online Daters who you never meet yet they want to text you and email you all the time. What’s the point dude? If you can’t meet with me within the first week of communication and I mean after we have talked on the phone, then I am wasting my time and you are wasting yours. I admit there have been occasions where I have been traveling and unavailable to meet anyone and I think in that case I should have hidden my profile I mean if you are not available then why are you on there?
If we could just weed out the people who are not serious this whole Online Dating would be a lot easier.
If you are not available to meet soon after talking on the phone then you should hide your profile until you are available. That’s why they have the option “Hide Your Profile” on the sites.
Stop with the Pen Pal status and get serious or get off the sites. If you are looking for other things they have sites for that but the dating sites are for DATING!
I also want to point out that if you message the same person several times and they do not get back to you, there is a reason. They don’t want to hurt your feelings but they are not interested. Move on to the next profile and stop wasting your time. And don’t send a hate message if they don’t answer you back! If you do then you are a crazy person with a personality disorder. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you so get over it! That’s why there are millions of profiles on there to choose from.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about how women change for men. We, and I am saying WE because I am guilty of this myself, find a guy that we are so attracted to that we are willing to give up our entire life for them in order to mold into theirs. This is a mistake and the minute you start to make changes, stop seeing friends, family, stop working out, stop traveling with the girls, stop socializing with friends just to accommodate him and to spend time with him and he notices it, he will lose interest in a New York Minute. Trust me on this one ladies. The minute you become too available then you are not a challenge to him any longer and he loses interest.
As a woman you must continue with your career, family, friends and taking care of yourself and your needs first and then he can come later down the list. The more you keep to your own life the more the man will want you. “If you chase a Man in a Black Nightie, first he will have sex with you… and then he will run” At this point when you start changing your life for him he does not think you put a high value on yourself and he loses respect.
I quit my dream job to be at home with my x-husband. I needed to be with him all the time #1 because I didn’t trust him at all and #2 because I was so insecure with myself even though I didn’t need to be. But I changed my whole life for him. I moved to his city, started banking at his bank, started driving one of his cars, changed my last name and stopped socializing with family and friends. I became his little trophy wife where all I did all day was cook and clean for him. I made all his meals and laid his clothes out for him. Looking back I was so stupid I cannot even believe I did all of that. Especially the part about quitting my dream job.
I learned a lot of hard lessons these last few years and my x ended up doing a lot of terrible things to me that I had no idea he was capable of. I ignored all of the warning signs like an idiot and that is why I created this site to inform other people of what to look out for in their relationships. BTW, I met him on Match.com and I contacted him first because I liked the way he looked but looks can be deceiving as I later learned.
Lesson learned:
1. Don’t kill yourself to impress anyone.
2. Don’t give up your friends and family for any Man.
3. Looks can be deceiving.
4. Listen to your BFF! She/he has your best interest at heart and my biggest mistake was not listening to my BFF. She was always right!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the guy on the Dating Site that lures you into giving him your phone number so he can "text you". He pretends to be real nice so you will give him you digits and then when you do you get a DICK PIC! WTF? Do they honestly believe this is going to turn a girl on? Well some of the women I have dealt with in my life this would probably turn them on because they are desperate and lonely but I and my girlfriends are not that way in fact this is a total turn off! I can't tell you how many blocked numbers I have on my phone!
I wonder if these guys are that delusional or are just out trying to get laid? I suppose other women by going for it make it harder on the respectable girls like myself in the Online Dating world.
Guys, don't send a Dick Pic unless we ask for it OK?
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my FREE Search Site for Online Dating. You can Check Your Date before you go out for FREE or Add a Free listing about your date for the next person. Report someone dangerous so that the next person can find out before they go. I have often heard Online Daters say to me "I wish there was a website where I could go and look a person up before I go out" well, I have created one and it's FREE. You can search by Username and Dating Site.

You can check on the "HOME" page for this information.

Contact me at Linda@Lindasdatelist.com

Please check it out so that we can all help each other! http://lindasdatelist.com/

xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the beginning of the end of a relationship. It all started with the Question “How much money do you make at your new job?” (#See #LoveBiPolar#Hot&Cold#). The answer was “It’s None Of Your Business”! Then things got real quiet. He did not like that answer. Seriously? Why is it any of a guy’s business about how much money I make when he’s not paying for my Mercedes, My rent, My dog food, My clothes, My shoes etc. so it is NONE of his business and I don’t have a ring on finger either so there! Don’t ask stupid questions men unless you want to hear an answer that you won’t like and any woman that would answer that question needs to read “Why Men Love Bitches”. DUH!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my X and another BIG RED FLAG that I ignored. While we were dating exclusively (Or so I thought) I was traveling weekly for work and I was only home on the weekends. This was the ideal situation for him as I later found out because he could do as he pleased with whomever during the week and I would not have a clue. He would call me at night at a regular time but remember this man was a creature of habit and never took a woman out on a proper date. He had his regulars on certain days and times of the week that would just come to his place and bring him gifts and shower him with attention. Mind you these women were not attractive and most of them were a lot older then him too. So, his calling me at a regular time was convenient for him because he would have the women out of his place by then.
I would see him Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights and then I would go back on the plane on Monday mornings. He told me he could only see me 1 night on the weekend from now on and I get to pick the night. I was very upset and I know deep down something was wrong but I went ahead and picked one like an idiot instead of realizing he met someone else that he gave a weekend night to.
Ladies, when a Man changes the rules in the middle of the game something is off. This is another sign of cheating. I soon caught him again and of course I took him back like an idiot and he stopped seeing the other woman. But that never stopped him. He continued all the way though our marriage to communicate with these same women because he is a cheater and a liar and a thief. (See “About” in Lindasdatelist.com)
Please be aware of the Red Flags and do not IGNORE.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about a very serious subject "Sexual Harassment". It happened to me for about seven years in my workplace. It started out immediately with Sexual Assault. In case you are questioning my definition of Sexual Assault, here is the definition :Sexual assault is any involuntary sexual act in which a person is threatened, coerced, or forced to engage against their will, or any non-consensual sexual touching of a person. This includes rape (such as forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration or drug facilitated sexual assault), groping, forced kissing, child sexual abuse, or the torture of the victim in a sexual manner.
My predator was my immediate supervisor who had power over my career. The very first time I met him I went to shake his hand and he grabbed mine and kissed it. This was in front of a couple co-workers and it made me feel uncomfortable. It made me feel embarrassed too. I didn't like it at all but I didn't have the guts to say anything about it so I dismissed it like an idiot. This was in the year 2000. This is where it all began for me with him. For the next seven years I was harassed and humiliated by this man until I finally quit my job.
He knew exactly what he was doing and I call him a predator because that's exactly what he is. He planned everything out and I am going to write all about it so that maybe I can help someone else have enough courage to stop it before it goes too far like it did me. Sexual Harassment is against the law and it still happens in the workplace today. If this has happened to you, I believe it is your obligation to tell other people male and female about your experience and the warning signs to look out for. In this case my first clue should have been when he took my hand and raised it toward his mouth. I should have pulled it back away from him. I wish I would have done that then maybe I could have stopped everything right there because he would have known I wasn't going to put up with it. My bad.
I would love to hear your comments on this subject.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Men who "RubberNeck". For those who don't know what RubberNecking is, it is when a woman is out minding her own business and a male starts staring and won't stop. Unfortunately this happens to me a lot and when I say unfortunately I mean it! It's one thing to go out there dressed for attention in CFM shoes and mini skirts, short shorts, short dresses, low cut tops, etc, but when a female is dressed normally then it is so RUDE to stare. The other day I was walking into the grocery store and a male says to me "may I say you look just beautiful today". I f*>me of the topics I write about are funny but most are pretty serious and they are all true.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my x again. He sent me a text last night asking me to take a picture of my tattoo?. I don't even have a tattoo. For some reason he said he got information that I got a tattoo [Tramp Stamp] with our last name on it! WTF? This is news to me. What did I reply you wonder? Well I thought I would mess with him a little and tell him I just didn't have time to send a picture right now. He then told me, [yes told me] to go into the bathroom stall and take a selfie! LMAO! So I kept putting him off all night then he tells me that since I put OUR last name on a tattoo, then I am pretty much his! Really? Does that mean you'll give me my money back you took and then I should forgive all the cheating and everything else he did to me?? Is he crazy??
Unbelievable! Then, I get a text about midnight again asking for the picture and then again this morning... This is getting pretty funny especially when I have zero ink on my body at all. I have no idea where he thinks he got this information...
He is so stupid!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. In case you are wondering I am the Blonde in the Black Mercedes. I just want to point out that I have gotten pulled over by the police numerous times in the last 6 months and I believe it is because of my car. I was pulled over just yesterday and the Highway Patrolman told me when I asked him if it is my car (because I keep getting pulled over) tells me "I didn't even look at your car"? HUH? Then he proceeds to instruct me on how the Cruise Control Works on my particular model and when to use it yada, yada, yada..... What a JERK! He wrote me a ticket and then told me he was giving me a break and writing the ticket for under so I wouldn't get a Criminal Violation! DumbASS! Go catch some real criminals! I have no record of anything and have never been in any kind of trouble. Here's one for ya, how about going after my X.. He could use a little harassing....
My problem is this, there are plenty of bad people out there and they are easy to spot, not that I am profiling but usually they are swerving and drinking and driving or slapping their kids while they are driving, or leaving their pets or worse KIDS in the HOT cars to die... go after them!
Ok, I need to get over this I just needed to vent...
xoxo, Linda