Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about the beginning of the end of a relationship. It all started with the Question “How much money do you make at your new job?” (#See #LoveBiPolar#Hot&Cold#). The answer was “It’s None Of Your Business”! Then things got real quiet. He did not like that answer. Seriously? Why is it any of a guy’s business about how much money I make when he’s not paying for my Mercedes, My rent, My dog food, My clothes, My shoes etc. so it is NONE of his business and I don’t have a ring on finger either so there! Don’t ask stupid questions men unless you want to hear an answer that you won’t like and any woman that would answer that question needs to read “Why Men Love Bitches”. DUH!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my X and another BIG RED FLAG that I ignored. While we were dating exclusively (Or so I thought) I was traveling weekly for work and I was only home on the weekends. This was the ideal situation for him as I later found out because he could do as he pleased with whomever during the week and I would not have a clue. He would call me at night at a regular time but remember this man was a creature of habit and never took a woman out on a proper date. He had his regulars on certain days and times of the week that would just come to his place and bring him gifts and shower him with attention. Mind you these women were not attractive and most of them were a lot older then him too. So, his calling me at a regular time was convenient for him because he would have the women out of his place by then.
I would see him Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights and then I would go back on the plane on Monday mornings. He told me he could only see me 1 night on the weekend from now on and I get to pick the night. I was very upset and I know deep down something was wrong but I went ahead and picked one like an idiot instead of realizing he met someone else that he gave a weekend night to.
Ladies, when a Man changes the rules in the middle of the game something is off. This is another sign of cheating. I soon caught him again and of course I took him back like an idiot and he stopped seeing the other woman. But that never stopped him. He continued all the way though our marriage to communicate with these same women because he is a cheater and a liar and a thief. (See “About” in Lindasdatelist.com)
Please be aware of the Red Flags and do not IGNORE.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about a very serious subject "Sexual Harassment". It happened to me for about seven years in my workplace. It started out immediately with Sexual Assault. In case you are questioning my definition of Sexual Assault, here is the definition :Sexual assault is any involuntary sexual act in which a person is threatened, coerced, or forced to engage against their will, or any non-consensual sexual touching of a person. This includes rape (such as forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration or drug facilitated sexual assault), groping, forced kissing, child sexual abuse, or the torture of the victim in a sexual manner.
My predator was my immediate supervisor who had power over my career. The very first time I met him I went to shake his hand and he grabbed mine and kissed it. This was in front of a couple co-workers and it made me feel uncomfortable. It made me feel embarrassed too. I didn't like it at all but I didn't have the guts to say anything about it so I dismissed it like an idiot. This was in the year 2000. This is where it all began for me with him. For the next seven years I was harassed and humiliated by this man until I finally quit my job.
He knew exactly what he was doing and I call him a predator because that's exactly what he is. He planned everything out and I am going to write all about it so that maybe I can help someone else have enough courage to stop it before it goes too far like it did me. Sexual Harassment is against the law and it still happens in the workplace today. If this has happened to you, I believe it is your obligation to tell other people male and female about your experience and the warning signs to look out for. In this case my first clue should have been when he took my hand and raised it toward his mouth. I should have pulled it back away from him. I wish I would have done that then maybe I could have stopped everything right there because he would have known I wasn't going to put up with it. My bad.
I would love to hear your comments on this subject.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about Men who "RubberNeck". For those who don't know what RubberNecking is, it is when a woman is out minding her own business and a male starts staring and won't stop. Unfortunately this happens to me a lot and when I say unfortunately I mean it! It's one thing to go out there dressed for attention in CFM shoes and mini skirts, short shorts, short dresses, low cut tops, etc, but when a female is dressed normally then it is so RUDE to stare. The other day I was walking into the grocery store and a male says to me "may I say you look just beautiful today". I f*>me of the topics I write about are funny but most are pretty serious and they are all true.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my x again. He sent me a text last night asking me to take a picture of my tattoo?. I don't even have a tattoo. For some reason he said he got information that I got a tattoo [Tramp Stamp] with our last name on it! WTF? This is news to me. What did I reply you wonder? Well I thought I would mess with him a little and tell him I just didn't have time to send a picture right now. He then told me, [yes told me] to go into the bathroom stall and take a selfie! LMAO! So I kept putting him off all night then he tells me that since I put OUR last name on a tattoo, then I am pretty much his! Really? Does that mean you'll give me my money back you took and then I should forgive all the cheating and everything else he did to me?? Is he crazy??
Unbelievable! Then, I get a text about midnight again asking for the picture and then again this morning... This is getting pretty funny especially when I have zero ink on my body at all. I have no idea where he thinks he got this information...
He is so stupid!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. In case you are wondering I am the Blonde in the Black Mercedes. I just want to point out that I have gotten pulled over by the police numerous times in the last 6 months and I believe it is because of my car. I was pulled over just yesterday and the Highway Patrolman told me when I asked him if it is my car (because I keep getting pulled over) tells me "I didn't even look at your car"? HUH? Then he proceeds to instruct me on how the Cruise Control Works on my particular model and when to use it yada, yada, yada..... What a JERK! He wrote me a ticket and then told me he was giving me a break and writing the ticket for under so I wouldn't get a Criminal Violation! DumbASS! Go catch some real criminals! I have no record of anything and have never been in any kind of trouble. Here's one for ya, how about going after my X.. He could use a little harassing....
My problem is this, there are plenty of bad people out there and they are easy to spot, not that I am profiling but usually they are swerving and drinking and driving or slapping their kids while they are driving, or leaving their pets or worse KIDS in the HOT cars to die... go after them!
Ok, I need to get over this I just needed to vent...
xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. I am just curious what exactly are you looking for when you are Online Dating? The fact is you just can't meet anyone in the grocery store anymore unless you work there. If you meet someone at work it is very rare that it will ever work out without causing problems right? I do have a close friend whom it did work out when she met him at work and us very happy and going strong. If you meet someone in a bar chances are it will be for a hook up or you will not meet the most desirable person there. That just leaves a few places left to meet someone, family, friends or Online.
My advice would be if you are dating online, be very careful and look for Red Flags early on. Some of them that I can think of are:
1. Drinks too much or does drugs.
2. Never available.
3. Takes too long to call you or text you back.
4. Asks for x-rated pictures before he/she will go out with you. I once had a guy tell me be would not go out with any girl until she sends him a picture either in a bikini or lingerie. When I told him that wasn't going to happen, he hung up on me. That's fine he did me a favor!
5. He refuses to take you on a proper date or won't pay for it if he does.
6. If he gets too clingy in the beginning and becomes stalker-like.

There are many mire and I will write about them later but I think you get where I am going with this. Lindasdatelist.com is a forum I provide for Free where you can look up your date by their Username to see what anyone else has written about them. A good example would be if 3 guys wrote about a girl and they all said she got wasted drunk on the date, then you might want to re-think going out with her.
You can also write a review yourself about your date and this can all be done anonymously. We can all help each other and weed out all if the dangerous and creepers!
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about my x and the other women. During our relationship at his apartment various items would just “show up” at Christmas time and his Birthday and Valentine’s Day. Some of the items I can think of were Ralph Lauren body wash, Scented Candles, Sex Lotions, Cologne, pictures for the walls, desk calendars, expensive body lotions, different articles of clothing and many more. In the beginning I always thought this was odd and when I asked him he would always say it was a present from his mother which I found out was a total lie. One time I saw a brand new desk calendar and as I was snooping through it, it was marked off one of the other women’s birthdays and valentines days etc. I about hit the ceiling! He quickly disposed of the calendar when I pointed it out. Why I didn’t leave then and there I will never know. I was such a DumbAss that’s all I can say. I really thought he would change. Looking back in retrospect I was so stupid obviously he had to meet with her in order for her to give that to him DUH! Like throwing it away was going to make everything OK… Ladies, please do not be as stupid as I was… I hope you are reading this and learning from it that is the whole reason for my website is to hopefully help other people and this goes both ways I know that the men are victims too!
He was a taker. He was a bad boy, a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Even to this day everyone that knows him thinks he is an outstanding guy. I know the real truth. This man wanted my daughter and myself dead and even inquired with one of the Other Women (See ShersHerMan in Linda’s blogs) about getting someone to take us out after we were separated. This website and all these stories are/is no joke. This is a very serious thing that happened to me and I want to tell my story so that it may help someone else. He may be one man but there are many more of him out there and my stories are classic signs of Red Flags you should look out for.
I hope you will stay tuned there is so much more to tell.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about a sensitive topic “One Uppers”. One Uppers are people who always have a better story than you do and interrupt you every time you are telling a story of your own. This can happen in a group setting or one on one. Let me tell you, I am guilty of this myself. I have to stop myself when people are talking to me and really LISTEN to them and not “ONE UP” their story. I find this to be very hard but with practice it can be done. I am getting better at it every day. I know this is not intentional on anyone’s part because we only want to emotionally relate to the person we are speaking to and unless someone tells you that you are “One-Upping” then you probably don’t even realize you are doing it.
It is very annoying for the person trying to tell the story because they keep getting interrupted by the “One Upper’. Pretty soon the person doesn’t even want to finish their story because the “One Upper” will always have a better one. If you are a “One Upper” and didn’t realize it until now here is some advice.
1. Listen to people when they talk to you, it is always better to be a good listener than to have a better story.
2. Just listen to people without telling your story. Let them feel like they are the most important part of your conversation. This will help you win friends and influence people.
3. If you are a “One Upper” practice these tips with a close friend and tell them what you are doing to get their feedback. Trust me, they will be more than happy to help you.
You will notice after practicing these tips people will want to me more engaged with you in conversation and won’t want to run off quickly to avoid you. Yes, I know this is hard to hear but I find myself wanting to avoid One Uppers all the time.
Xoxo, Linda

Hello Readers, Linda here. Today I want to talk about guys/boys/men who are Hot and then Cold. This is not a story about me but about someone close to me. She met him on POF. He pursued her to the point of almost stalking. Is he attractive? Um, yes. She on the other hand is absolutely stunning. She finally agreed to go to dinner with him. Guys, women do like a guy that is persistent. We get hooked and then you drop the ball on us. Why do you do that? 99% of the time is it directly after you are intimate with us and you get what you want. I don’t mean to rag on the dudes but this is a proven fact. Ladies, please read the book “Why Men Love Bitches” this will help you so much I cannot stress this enough.
So he comes and takes her to a 5-star restaurant for dinner. The guy does very well for himself, has several companies and is fairly young. She is very excited about the possibilities. Ladies, this is where we go wrong. We need to not get too excited because this is the whole reason why you date someone is to get to know them they will show their true colors in a short time. He did.
He was the Prince Charming of course. Problem is he made a lot of plans then bailed at the last minute, we are not sure (but pretty sure) if he had a girlfriend or not. He was not available all the time and kept changing plans. Problem is when he would f(*& up he would make up for it in big ways by expensive dinners, cash or whatever would work for him. I guess the company of a beautiful woman is important for the ego. Let’s face it everyone wants to be seen with someone attractive. I soon nicknamed him “Peter Pan’. He is the bachelor who is always taking “guy trips”, “isn’t ready to settle down in his mid-30’s” and leads with his money. I can see from an outsider all of the Red Flags. Of course, I have been through it before. (See “NotTheNorm” in Linda’s blogs).
She is the kind of girl that will only take so much so she told him to “F^%$ OFF! She didn’t hear from him for weeks until he needed a date. Now he is back to Prince Charming. Problem is he has no idea that he is not only dealing with her but her and all her friends too! Guys, women work in packs... We help each other, are there for each other, comfort each other and stand behind each other. Men are too stupid to figure that out. In the end, he will be the one who misses out on a great catch because there are many men just waiting in line to take her out and I just know we will ALL help her choose wisely.

Red Flags:
1. When a guy leads with his money he is hiding something.
2. If a guy has money and is a cheap ass, he won’t ever change after you marry him.
3. What you see is what you get. If he is flaky in the beginning, he will always be flaky no matter how big his wallet is.
4. You deserve the best, do not ever settle!
5. Do not ever be someone’s Plan B.
Xoxo, Linda