Shers Her Man..

Hello Readers, Linda here… Let’s talk about “The Other Woman”. I personally have never been “The Other Woman” but my x-husband had a few. The one that I am talking about today was a real piece of work. 15 years older than myself, never married, still lived at home with her parents. Yes, I know it is hard to believe but it’s a true story.
She knew him before I even met him. She called him her boyfriend even though he never thought of her that way and only used her for sex. I know you are wondering how I know all this but I got it from my x-husband and he let me read all of her emails to him at one point. Can you believe feeling so little about yourself that you would accept a Man who just uses you and never EVER took you out on a date? EVER! We are talking 15 years of knowing each other.
She found out all about me. She didn’t care. She just wanted whatever she could get from him. Thinking about this now and reminiscing it all just makes me want to puke.
She was not attractive at all but she had a nice body. She was a nurse for years but she ended up getting fired for sending prescription drugs to my x-husband illegally. They fired her ass and the funniest thing is that my x-husband is the one who got her fired and he didn’t even mean to do it. He sent the drugs back to the address because he thought some company was sending them to him and he was going to get charged. LMFAO!
I talked to her several times on the phone asking her to quit calling my husband but she flat out refused. On his birthday I used to take his phone and put it by my side of the bed and first thing in the morning she would call. Now, I am not putting all the blame on her, this is ultimately my ex-husband’s fault. He is a con man who uses woman for his own pleasure and doesn’t care who gets hurt. He is not the Man everything thinks he is!
Anyway, I am sure to this day they are still “connected”… He uses her and she accepts it.
What are your thoughts on ‘The Other Woman’?

Xoxo, Linda

Hate mail
Hello readers Linda here. Let's talk about people who send hate.mail when you don't respond to them on online dating sites. First off we have a good reason why, it's usually because we see something in their profile that we don't like. It could be many things like age, looks, distance or something else.
I get a lot of hate mail. Most guys that say something negative about the way I look or something I wrote on my bio. It all stems from just not responding to them. Sometimes I get emails telling me something negative about my pictures.
I have put some things on my profile bio to weed out the guys that I would not be interested in at all.
Like I put my political party on there and when I do that I really get some bad hate mail.
Why can't people just move to the next profile if they see something they don't like? I mean why make time to email me when I am truly not interested?
Do you think some people are just on the site all day? I do. I dated a guy who is constantly on there even when we were dating.
I truly think to some people it is just an ego thing.
Do you ever log on and see the same people "online now"? What has your experience been with hate mail?
Please write to me and left me know or leave your comments below.

Xoxo, Linda

Linda’s opinion on Online Dating Today


To all of the Online daters out there. Good for you for all of your effort in truly finding someone to love. It’s all about Love we all know it, yet not all of us will admit it. Some say they are just “Dating but not serious” I don’t believe that. I think that is just not true. I believe those daters are truly putting walls up and not being honest with what they really want.
Here’s the deal, if you are looking for a hook-up, there are sites that cater to that. If you are looking for love then there are sites that cater to that too. My problem is too many people are on the wrong sites because they are looking for different things. For example, POF Is FREE so most people will go to that site looking for everything. You never know what you will get on POF. Match.com is a service site where you will have to pay. I think the people on Match.com are a little more serious about finding love. I however found my x-husband on Match.com and we all know how that ended (See About on Lindasdatelist.com).
Lindasdatelist.com is a FREE Online Review Site where you can look up your date before you go out. You can do a search by their Username and what will come up is anything anyone else has written about them. If there is someone dangerous, you can see that in the review and then make tour decision whether or not you want to go out with the person. This is a FREE site, please take advantage of it I just want everyone to be safe out there.
On Lindasdatelist.com you can write a review about your date as well. This is a very smart thing to do in order to protect other people. Things that you would report on Lindasdatelist.com:
1. Dangerous people, restraining orders, domestic violence, battery.
2. People that are fraudulent, don’t look like their pictures.
3. People lying about their age, height, weight or race.
4. Married people who shouldn’t be on the site.
There are many more things you could report and these are the good things.
1. Very polite person just no chemistry.
2. Great personality and a great catch for the right person.
Please visit Lindasdatelist.com and tell your friends that are dating online about this site.
ATTENTION Bloggers:
If you have an online dating story that you would like to submit, I will post it for you on this site.
Xoxo, Linda

My Story – Inspiration






I dedicate this site to my ex-husband whom if it were not for him and my really bad experience I would not have felt inspired to build this site to help other "online dating" people looking for love.

I met my now ex husband on Match.com. I found out later after dating him for months that he was on multiple dating sites and dating a lot of other women at the same time we were supposed to be monogamous.

If there was a site like this I would have used it to check out his history before I started dating him. After being "stupid" and "naïve" and catching him numerous times cheating on me, I still managed to marry him five years later. After being married for almost five years we separated. After being separated for just one day, I found out he had been transferring monies from our joint checking and savings accounts into his personal business account without my knowledge and deceived me. It wasn't that soon after I discovered he inquired with an old girlfriend to put a 'hit' on my daughter and I. I reported him to the police department and after a lengthy investigation, the DA decided there was not enough evidence to prosecute him. Still to this day, I see him on Match.com and it scares me to death what he is capable of doing to other women. After being left penniless and sitting in my apartment day after day I started to reflect on my life with him and I decided to build this site in order to educate people in the online dating site world.

Please be careful there are millions of people out there on dating sites and we need to inform one another about our experiences good or bad.

Thank you and please send me feedback on the use of this site in your dating world.

Good luck!

Linda [Contact me]

Feature Comparison of Women I’ve Dated

Hello Readers,
Last summer when I was dating a little more, I decided I’d like to narrow the field of woman I’d dated. When I started comparing their differences, I realized I’d need to get it down on paper so I could look over the information easier. I set up a chart with one word headings of different ‘features’ that were important to me or were at least worth noting. Now the column headers are just my personal criteria but anyone could create their own comparison based on what they are looking or not looking for in a prospective dating partner. This is not a comparison for a spouse, roommate, or long term relationship…It’s just a short list so I could keep it all straight. Have some fun and make your own. You may be surprised what you learn about yourself when you get it all down in one place.

NAME-Put down the name to stay organized.
AGE- It’s nice to know how old someone is. The closer to your age, the more things you may have in common. Most of the woman were older than me!
KIDS-I’m a parent and if a woman has kids, we have a big item in common. More importantly, this Mom most likely knows more about sharing, self-sacrifice, responsibility and is not the center of her universe. For some reason, I’m more attracted to Moms.
TIME AVAILABLE-Ever go out with someone who wants to meet that special person but can only see you once a month because they are too busy? Well I have and it’s not what I’m into. I’m interested in someone who can fit me in their schedule a bit or at least will try and make time. Perhaps they weren’t that into me either which is fine but I don’t want to keep following up only to get pushed aside. Life’s to short, time for us both to move on…
FEELINGS AVAILABLE-Sometimes I’ve been into someone but they don’t feel as strongly back. Maybe they just weren’t as attracted or maybe they don’t offer themselves up that easily. (And I’m speaking of many dates, not in one night) At some point you have to be honest with yourself and decide if they are worth putting the time into…especially if you have strong feeling for them. No fun being the only one in love…Even if they’re not in love with you…Is there even a chance they could love? Figure this out early on!
ATTRACTED-This could be a whole comparison unto itself. When I say attraction, for myself I mean everything bundled into this one word. Their face, body, skin, smell, persona, libido, sex skills….everything. I give this a 1 to 10 rating with 10 being highest. Very important to me especially if were dating.
DISTANCE-Closer is better! I don’t want to spend my whole life on the freeway chasing down this person…Within 20 miles is best but I’ve driven far for a lady I really liked. (But would have preferred her closer).
HOME-Do they own their own home or are they renting a room or apartment?
JOB-Do they have a job? If they don’t can they support themselves? If the dating develops into something serious, I don’t want to have to support someone else. I already have children to support. Sorry but even if you’re a supermodel, at this age, I want you self-sufficient.
EDUCATION-I attended and graduated from college. It’s not a deal breaker but I find I’m more attracted to woman who’ve gone to college. They tend to be better speakers, more sociable, more interesting, worldlier…and most likely have a decent job they are happy with.

As Good As I Was To You!


Dear x-husband. We were not married yet. It was a Saturday night and I was going to a party (you never took me to any parties) and I was going with my good friend who happens to be gay. You showed up at my house all dressed up unexpected? You saw my friend and I walk to his car. You came out of the shadows and said “Who is this”? I told you it was my gay friend, then I asked what you were doing at my condo. After all you lived 18 miles away from me??? You gave me a half ass excuse. Whatever!
You left. My friend and I decided to stop by the local bar/restaurant down the street. We walked into the bar and there you were with another woman! WTF?? I walked right over to you and you were shocked to see me. I said who is this and you told me to leave the bar? Again, WTF? I asked the girl do you know that XXX and I are engaged. She answered back and said “No I didn’t”. Then x-husband you denied that we were engaged even with the ring on my finger which I showed her!
What a total jerk you were. AS good as I was to you and this is the way you treat me?? I politely told her that all you wanted was a sex... Which is entirely true. She was shocked that this was happening. My heart was racing and I thought my friend was going to kick your ass. I think he should have…
You left the bar because we were starting a scene….
Lessons learned:
1. Looks are deceiving.
2. One a cheater always a cheater.
3. Don’t stay with someone who denies you in front of other people.
4. Don’t stay with someone if you catch the cheating on you.
5. Listen to all your friends and your BFF.
Xoxo, Linda

X-Husband Go Away!





Dear x-husband, you woke me up this morning to a threatening email. Dear x-husband, you accused me of calling your girlfriend. Really? I didn’t even know you had a girlfriend but I am not surprised as there are many stupid women out there like I was. Dear x-husband, I have better things to do than sit around and think about you and what you are doing. Dear x-husband, you screwed me over, cheated on me, stole my money and inquired with an x-girlfriend to take a hit out on my daughter and I! Why would I want anything to do with you? Dear x-husband, after reading the emails you sent to me today it looks like you haven’t changed at all. Honestly your girlfriend accused you of cheating.. DUH! Dear x-husband, what you really mean to say is she CAUGHT you cheating just like I did numerous times…
Dear x-husband, you are dumb enough to send me the email she sent to you? LMFAO… She said you have never taken her on a date. BIG SHOCKER! That was my biggest complaint for you… You are weird… something is wrong with you. You have to take a girl out once in a while…. It’s unbelievable that you think you are that HOT that you don’t have to put any effort into a relationship.
Dear x husband, sweet validation is what I felt today. Dear x-husband, thank you for making my day I feel so much better now knowing it was not just me it was YOU, yes YOU!!
Dear x-husband, I kindly reminded you that I have a life now and I know a lot of generous men that take me out all the time. Dear x-husband, my life is much better now and more fulfilled.
Dear x-husband, will you ever learn?

Xoxo, Linda

Dear Mr. Money,
You wanted to meet on a spur the moment… I gave in only because I had no other plans. We met and when I saw you, you were a lot heavier than your pictures. You were a BIG buy and you drove a little white convertible Mercedes (Looks like your wife’s car). It’s like when you see a big guy walking a little dog… it’s just weird... And YES he had a little dog… LMAO…
Dear Mr. Money, I know you are a good looking guy just a little overweight so you have to lead with your money… within the first 30 minutes I had you figured out because you told me the following things within the first 30 minutes.
1. You used to be a male model. (I can believe this because you were very handsome just let yourself go)
2. You were a millionaire (You mentioned you were the CEO about 50 times during the entire night)
3. You gave your ex-wife a lot of money and a house in the divorce (Why would you divulge this on a first date? Are you trying to tell me something?)
4. You know everything about the ocean, you are an expert at most things. (I hate a Know it All)
5. I can tell you had a bad temper. You had no patience with anyone the entire night. You could blow it at any minute, it was kind of scary.
6. You had me drive you to your car which was only one block away? REALLY? I mean, REALLY? Have you heard of a Personal Trainer? I heard if you have a lot of money you can hire one. I would be good for you to get in shape and get healthy. It doesn’t matter how much money you have if you are not healthy…
Dear Mr. Money you never even said anything about me. You never told me I was pretty or anything. You complimented my car. You were a gentleman and I appreciate that but you are also a very insecure guy. There are books out there you can read. If you have to lead with your money I am not interested. I am not “One of those ladies” who is looking for a Sugar Daddy… I actually have to like you and be attracted to you I don’t care how much money you have! I am a very independent, secure and attractive woman and I refuse to settle.
Dear Mr. Money, here is some advice for you for your next date.
1. Go to an Anger Management Class.
2. Hire a personal trainer with all your money it shouldn’t be a problem.
3. Read a good book on Men and Women. Suggestion “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. It’s a very basic book and easy to read and very informative.
BTW, this was a POF date.
Lessons learned:
1. If a guy is too persistent, that is a red flag. You want a man that works around your schedule.
2. If a Man leads with his money, red flag. He is hiding something. I have a feeling that this guy probably had some domestic violence issues in his past.
3. Looks can be deceiving and people post OLD pictures.
4. Talk to the guy on the phone more than once before meeting you can tell a lot about a person just by talking to them on the phone a couple times.
5. Women want LOVE not money… it’s true but if you can find both then that’s great.
6. We want a nice warm body that is going to be next to us at night and stand beside us during the day.
Xoxo, Linda

“Back Together”


Yes, you read it right “Back Together”. I was OBSESSED with this man. I was so heartbroken I couldn’t eat or sleep. I decided to go and see a therapist. I had been answering his “apology emails” and so I told him I was going to see a therapist. He was OK with that. So, I made an appointment and went and saw the therapist. I told him all about this man’s cheating and the entire story. I also told him that this man had his Master’s Degree in Psychology and even practiced it for a bit according to him. The therapist was appalled! He told me that this man was a total jerk and no wonder he isn’t practicing anymore. It made sense to me but felt good to hear it from a professional. I had my BFF behind me the entire time. She was always telling me to dump him and I never would listen to her. I didn’t listen to the therapist either. In fact, after my therapy session I headed over to his house at his request so we could “talk about it”.
Well, after talking about it and us both crying about the entire mess we decided we wanted to stay together and I would have to trust him and he would do everything he could to help me get over this. I secretly thought to myself that I was happy this happened and that it must be meant to be and I had his full attention now and I instantly I mean instantly felt better in fact I fell deeper in love knowing that he was so upset he did this to me he even cried!.
It became a game of got to get this guy! Operation get this guy and change his ways after all I was so “special” that of course he made a mistake but I know he would never do it again!
Life was blissful for a few months even though I knew I couldn’t trust him but he did check in with me when he was supposed to and I was still traveling every week M-F so it was super tough that “I wonder what he is doing feeling” it never EVER went away. I never trusted him again even though I tried very hard to.
Lessons learned:
1. If a man cheats on you don’t take him back!
2. Once a cheater always a cheater applies.
3. Looks can be deceiving.
4. What you see is what you get.
5. You can’t change someone no matter how adorable you think you are.
6. Listen to your BFF.

“Global email”


The next day after the confrontation with him I got together with my BFF and we decided we should let all the women know what he was doing to all of them so we sent out a global email to all the ladies he was cheating on. We were so surprised at the response we got back. Most of the women knew he was seeing other women! All of them were older than him which was about 10 years my senior. They were all in love with him and didn’t care about the other women as long as they got their time with him. HUH? This was totally unacceptable to me because obviously he let them know up front what he was doing but for me he didn’t say a word. I guess I was his trophy girlfriend.
One lady in particular actually wanted to talk on the phone with me so I let her call me. We had quite the discussion. Seems she just pleasured him but didn’t get much satisfaction herself and she was OK with that. She was totally shocked to learn some of the things I told her that we did. You have to know that my heart was breaking. I was so upset I couldn’t eat or sleep. She seemed to be very upset knowing he had a pretty girlfriend as he told her he didn’t have a girlfriend. I was perplexed to say the least until she sent me her picture… Then I understood a little she was the complete opposite of me a brunette and not an attractive one either! Turns out she was the one who was at his apartment that Saturday when he cancelled on me I mean this woman spilled the beans with me. She wanted to meet in person and I said no I didn’t want to discuss this whole thing with her she was a different breed then myself for sure.
We continued to go back and forth and then she turned the tables on me and tried to talk me into NOT getting back together with him. He was already emailing me and begging for forgiveness and she didn’t like that and the fact she told on him he was furious with her and had sent her some not so nice emails. It was clear he wanted me but he also wanted his cake and eat it too. Speaking of cake, I made this man his favorite cake every week before I would travel for work so he could think of me. I was so stupid wasting my precious time after finding out what he did to me but I never stopped. Probably up to the week before we separated I was always cooking for him his favorite meals. I was so in love with this man it was SICK.
Another girl emailed back as well she asked me if I had seen her expensive watch. She had spent the night with him and left her watch and when she asked about it he blamed it on the maid and said he couldn’t find it. I never saw a women’s watch but what a total jerk not to give it back to her. She said to me “well I guess that’s what I get for spending the night with a guy I hardly knew”. She was right.
Lessons learned:
1. Be careful of the guy who uses women for sex and has multiple sex partners this is so unsafe and irresponsible in today’s world.
2. Once a cheater always a cheater is a true fact.
3. Don’t kiss and tell.
4. Don’t take the guy back there are plenty other good and faithful men out there to choose from.
5. Listen to your BFF.
6. Looks can be deceiving.